The old man often says that people are prosperous, saying that there are more children in the family, and there will be more fireworks in the home, after all, the old people like it, and the children and grandchildren are surrounded. Including now some male parents are also encouraging their children to have a few more dolls, and their children can rely on them in the future. Of course, some families who like children very much also hope to have more children, because the previous policy does not allow, more births are required to pay fines, but also dispelled the idea of many families having two children and three children.
But now the three-child policy is open, which has aroused the discussion of the majority of netizens. Even with the improvement of living standards now, the implementation of the three-child policy is not so optimistic. After all, if you want to educate a child now, the manpower, material and financial resources that need to be spent are incomparable to before, which is not a parent who posted the payment slip of his child's kindergarten, and the number shown in the above fee column makes many parents anxious.
In the payment column, there are not only 1500 yuan for daily necessities, but also food and childcare fees, a total of 16,250, which resonates with many parents: "Raising a baby is too expensive, one child can't afford to raise, not to mention three children." There are still many old people who feel that the current children are too arrogant, and raising a child is still crooked, so let's calculate an account first.
Take a fourth-tier city on our side, eating a breakfast on our side, two dollars is enough, there are many kindergartens to our place, of course, including one or two bilingual kindergartens, environmental facilities and big cities are not comparable, the fee is also 1500, bilingual kindergartens can even reach 2500. Excluding these basic tuition fees, children usually have to participate in some entertainment activities, such as performance programs, costume fees, snacks and drinks brought by children, etc., all of which require parents to pay for themselves.
Not to mention that in some schools, there will be some interest activities for children, even if they are voluntary, seeing that other children are learning, will you be willing to let your children get out of this small group? After leaving, can you guarantee that other students will not look at their children with colored glasses? Can you guarantee that seeing the envious little eyes of the child eager to join in, he will not let him participate? Again, that's a big expense.
Maybe some old people, even the woman's in-laws will say: "One is also a belt, three is also a rush, taking advantage of their age difference is not big, you can raise them together, and it will not delay too long, we can also help you bring it." "But is it really that easy to have a child and raise him?"
But the fact is that many young people now do not want the elderly to help with children, after all, the concept is different, and the growth of children is inseparable from the company of parents.
Parents have a great influence on their children, before raising a child, do not have to consider the child's mental health, after all, at that time did not know what is the child's mental health, and now it is not, many parents have gradually changed from the original performance to cultivate all aspects of the child, and will focus on the child's mental health.
Facts have proved that children accompanied by parents, whether in psychology or in grades are very good, in the face of cruel social environment after growing up can also withstand setbacks, and children without parental company, some may have better grades, but most children not only have bad grades, but also appear similar to inferiority, timidity, cowardice, can not withstand a little setback situation, which is why parents now prefer to take leave to accompany their children, rather than let the child's childhood missing reasons, It is also the root cause of parents' reluctance to have three children, because there is no extra energy to take care of other children, rather than letting them lack emotions, it is better not to have children.
Secondly, have another child, have you considered the feelings of a child who has already been born?
Many elderly people think that one more person can give the child more companionship, so that the child will not be very lonely, and more people can help in the future, but the reality is that the child thinks so?
As we all know, most of the children are precocious now, most children do not want a younger brother or sister to accompany themselves, they even feel that younger siblings are born to rob their parents. Especially those families whose first child is a daughter, forced by the pressure of the elderly, want a male baby, if this kind of family can not treat male and female babies fairly, most of the female babies will have rebellion, or inferiority these two extreme manifestations.
And giving birth to three children is not as simple as the old man said
Don't talk about education investment, let's talk about the starting point of children's birth. Many wealthy families want three children, after all, they have the ability to reasonably allocate educational resources to three children, but some ordinary families want to have three children, which is bound to change the distribution of education expenses. Parents always say that they want their children to win on the starting line, but ordinary families, children's starting line and rich families, the child's starting line itself is not at a level, and then the starting line is distributed to three children, is it for the child's good or harmful to the child?
Finally, I would like to say: three children is not what you want to want, although the current three-child policy has also promulgated a three-child supplementary policy: three-child integration, but parents want to have three children, still face many restrictions, raising children, the task is heavy and long, I hope that each family considers their own conditions, cautious to have three children, I believe that seeing this article, your in-laws will have nothing to say.