Text/Psychology of Love
How do you deal with fruitless love? Loving someone doesn't have to have results.
Because there is no result, do you not love someone?
People usually think about the outcome because people are sometimes selfish. Selfish love, the result must be important.
If your love may not bear fruit, you can choose to let go, but never hurt yourself and hurt each other. Because only selfish love can be so entangled and inseparable.
If we know that this is a fruitless love, we should face it with a smile and know how to let go.
Tolerating lost feelings is not stupidity. Rather, it is a kind of freedom with wisdom, rather than leaving a grudge in the air, as the poet Xu Zhimo said:
Free and comfortable good.
So, true love, in addition to being a kind of unrepentant giving, is also a kind of tolerant wisdom, when we give love, we should let go of our hands and let the people who receive love, because of our love, life is better.
At the same time, we must also know how to be tolerant, because the other party may not be able to give the same return, the same response for various reasons, and even not accept our love, we should also ignore it.
If we love someone and think of the other person giving the same reciprocation or response, this love is immature, not real love, but a selfish manifestation, because the other party may not necessarily need our love.
Love, therefore, is a kind of tolerant wisdom.
When we truly give love, we should face it with a tolerant heart, then the love we give will be meaningful.
The late Jin dynasty and early Yuan Dynasty writer Yuan Hao asked and wrote a poem in which there was a sentence that said it well:
Indeed, on the emotional road, it is indeed not easy to make a person forget the sincere emotions of the past and let go of everything, especially in the face of people who betray their feelings.
Sometimes there is a sharp blade that cuts the skin, which is unbearable. But the feelings of men and women are also very strange, it is neither a necessity of life nor an innate thing, everything comes from a feeling of spiritual fit in the hearts of both parties.
And that feeling is indeed not something that ordinary people can easily understand.
However, in the face of lost love, if we know how to tolerate it, then we will find that this love is just a beautiful and slightly bitter memory.
On the contrary, if there is only infinite remorse, unwilling to let go and tolerate, then this love will turn into the shackles of pain.
Some people can't escape in a lifetime, some people spend a long time to break free, but some people are very free, hiding it in their hearts, but it becomes their most precious and sweet memory.
Therefore, in the face of lost feelings, tolerance is a choice, it requires courage, it also needs wisdom, it needs time, it also needs learning.
It requires you to open your hands to accept new friends, then one day, when you look back on the road, you will find that the lost love, sometimes like the marshmallow on your hand, always sticks to your hand.
But as long as you patiently pull it away little by little, it will eventually turn into a beautiful syrup, melt in your mouth, let you sweet in the mouth, warm in the heart!
Tolerating the passing of love is a kind of growth, a choice, and a kind of happiness with sweet bitter memories!