"The milk sleep is too fragrant, breastfeeding and falling asleep, not crying or making trouble, not tossing at all, but many people say that the milk sleep is not good, very entangled ..."
"When my baby sleeps, she must hold it, let her lie down and sleep on her own and cry, and she can sleep for three or four hours at a time, but as long as she puts it down and wakes up immediately, even if she doesn't wake up at that time, she will definitely wake up later, which is really sad!"
"My children have to shake and sleep every day, and they are shaking and making turnip squatting, and I have been tired and thin for almost ten pounds."
When it comes to the sleep of small month-old babies, the most controversial basics that mothers complain about and argue about are: milk sleep, hugging sleep and shaking and sleeping.
Next, let's take a look at it with Jing Mama.
Why do babies like to milk, cuddle and shake?
For small babies shortly after birth, most of the time is spent sleeping, especially during the confinement period, which can sleep 16-20 hours a day.
But the vast majority of small babies are not born to fall asleep on their own, and they not only need a comfortable sleeping environment when sleeping, but also need the help of adults, such as suckling and sleeping, hugging and sleeping, and shaking and sleeping.
▲ Let's take a look first: Why is the baby feeding and sleeping very well-behaved and fast?
Mothers may have found that babies often eat and then fall asleep while feeding, mainly for several reasons:
Feeding is a manual task, and after the baby finishes feeding, he falls asleep tired.
I just gave birth to my son, because of the milk blockage to find a professional breast milk guide to help, she said that I have different degrees of breast hyperplasia on both sides, but don't worry, the baby sucking strength is very large, insist on breastfeeding for half a year, it will be "eaten" by the baby.
It turns out that it is true that sucking is a very laborious thing, so the baby often eats milk and sweats, and may fall asleep tired after eating.
Sucking releases hormones that make your baby relax and sleepy.
When the baby sucks and sucks, it will stimulate the brain to release sedative hormones, which will make the baby enter a more relaxed state and easy to sleep.
Coupled with lying in the warm arms of the mother, it is very warm and steady, and the baby is easy to meet and fall asleep. This is the magic of milk sleep, and the hypnosis effect is very good.
▲ Let's take a look: Why do babies like to sleep and shake and sleep?
In the traditional concept of parenting, coaxing the baby to sleep is basically holding or shaking to sleep.
The baby, who lived in amniotic fluid in his mother's womb for 10 months before birth, was not only warm, but also had a feeling of being wrapped and bound.
But after birth, the baby's living space becomes larger, the temperature is not so constant and warm, it needs a process of adaptation, so if the baby lies down to sleep on its own, it will not be stable, coupled with the newborn's jumping reflex, it will not sleep steadily, and it will wake up frequently.
At this time, if it is held and coaxed to sleep, the baby in the mother's arms will have a feeling of "being wrapped", and the mother's arms are very warm, much like the feeling in the womb, which will make the baby feel more stable.
In addition, when being held by the mother, listening to the familiar heartbeat of the mother and smelling the smell of the mother will also relax the baby and help promote sleep.
In addition to hugging, the baby also likes to shake and sleep, whether it is a cradle to sleep or the baby to shake and sleep, it will also make the baby fall asleep faster.
This is because rhythmic shaking is itself hypnotic, so it is easier to keep your baby asleep.
What should I pay attention to when milking, hugging, and shaking your baby?
Regarding these three ways of sleeping, it is also more controversial, because it will be bad for the baby, and even potentially dangerous, affecting the baby's health.
But in fact, it can be passed down from generation to generation, indicating that it is not completely unusable, but when using, the aspects that should be paid attention to should be noted.
【Milk Sleep】:
Many people do not recommend breastfeeding, and I personally feel that it is not completely impossible, but it still depends on the specific situation of the mother and baby.
For example, the mother is a full-time mother, the time is more abundant, she does not feel any trouble, the baby is also enjoyable, and there is no serious dependence on milk sleep, then you can sleep with milk.
However, if it is a working mother, a few months after childbirth to work, from the beginning to develop the habit of milk sleep, when it is time to go to work, it will be more troublesome to quit milk sleep, so it is best not to develop the habit of milk sleep from the beginning.
However, there are also notes on milk sleep:
When the mother sleeps, try not to fall asleep, especially for small month-old babies, when lying down to sleep with milk, it is easy to block the baby's mouth and nose with RF to cause suffocation hazard;
When it comes to the baby's teething period, pay attention to oral hygiene, and brush your teeth every day after teething to avoid the baby's caries.
【 Sleep】 :
Holding a baby who is in the habit of sleeping, it will not be easy to put down and lie down.
Therefore, often hold the baby who is sleeping, try not to hold the baby for several hours after falling asleep, and put it down at the right time to let the baby lie down and sleep on his own.
It is conducive to the formation of good sleep habits and is good for the development of the baby's spine (the physiological curvature of the baby's spine has not yet formed).
Considering the baby's sleep law, to put it down after 20 minutes after falling asleep, at this time the baby enters a deep sleep state, it is not easy to wake up, it should be slow and gentle when it is put down, the adult is close to the baby's body at the same time downward, see the baby to wake up, you can tap at the same time.
When put down, the mother can lie next to the baby to sleep with the baby, and it is easier to sleep for a longer time.
【Shake and sleep】:
It is not recommended, but it is not completely impossible.
Just shake and sleep must be gentle, avoid violent, frequent, long-term shaking, so that it is easy to cause the baby's brain and skull to collide, severe cerebral hemorrhage, that is, "baby shaking syndrome", very dangerous!
Similar cases have been reported in the news before, the little girl in the picture below, so parents must not be careless, let alone improper.
In short, although there are various popular science suggestions in the parenting book and parenting experts, when specifically taking the baby, not blind, not stubborn, on the basis of science, considering the actual situation, groping out a set of suitable for the baby, is the best.
What is your baby's usual way of sleeping for the first 3 months? Welcome to share your sleep-to-sleep tips and methods!