I have always felt that it is not that marriages are fragile, but that people are not strong enough. Marriage is a combination of people, and mistakes are also made by people, so if something goes wrong, the marriage is not strong enough, in fact, the most important thing to blame is that people are not self-disciplined enough.
Some people say that nine out of ten men will betray, and I think that this is absolutely wrong, at least not objective enough. In fact, this sentence at least emphasizes that in the marriage problem, the probability of men making mistakes is greater. In fact, men don't have that high rate of betrayal.
Therefore, we always have to believe that there are still many good men. If we keep singing about men, it's actually not good for all people. Just like a very simple truth, the story of the wolf coming, shouting more, the wolf will really come. Because in the hearts of those good men, if I am indoctrinated and so many people make mistakes, he will think why should I be alone, am I not trendy enough, will I be made fun of by other men, or should I also go with the flow? Therefore, we should be sure that in this society, there are actually many good men.
In life, only some men, or only a small number of men, are not self-disciplined enough, cannot control themselves, and are prone to betrayal. And the reason why we feel that the probability of men betraying marriage is so high, in fact, it is also related to those of us who are self-media practitioners, as well as people who are rescued by marriage, and most of the help messages we receive are people who have problems with this kind of marriage feelings, and then again, people with happy marriages will not go to help. Therefore, in the process of analyzing these phenomena or counseling to save marriages, we are bound to come up with cases. This gives people the feeling that marriage is wrong, and men are mostly betrayed.
Combined with my many years of experience in marriage counseling, I have summarized it, and I have found that the following types of men are less likely to control their own hearts, and it is easy to betray the marriage.
First, men who like to engage in ambiguity and love to please women.
This kind of person in the pile of women is a central air conditioner, an old and good person, who can talk to anyone, and who is a sincere look. In the eyes of the women around him, he was warm, generous, cheerful and humorous. But in fact, this kind of person seems to be heavy, but in fact, it is heavy color. Once he feels that the time has come, feels that he has a goal, he will be treated specially, and he will slowly reveal his true nature.
Two, introverts are not good at communication, but very stuffy men.
In many people's minds, honest men are the safest in marriage. It is also true that the kind of man who is honest and kind is indeed a good man, this kind of introverted and upright man, he will be self-disciplined and will not betray. But there is a kind of man, although he is also introverted and not good at communication, looks very honest, but he is actually very sullen inside, and it is easy to betray him when he has the opportunity. Because, this kind of man is rich in heart, it is easy to be moved and emotional.
Third, there is no moral bottom line, and there are small successful men in their careers.
In fact, this has nothing to do with whether a person has a successful career, it has to do with character. When a man loses the constraints of morality, then he has no face and reputation, especially if this kind of man has a small career achievement, feels that he has the ability, and the ability is very large, his whole person will inflate himself. This kind of man feels good about himself and thinks that betraying the marriage is a clear proof of his success. It seems that if he does not betray the marriage, he is not a successful person, and he not only does not regard the betrayal of the marriage as a shameful thing, but also regards this kind of thing as an honorable thing.
Finally, I also need to emphasize that some people will not misunderstand and will be seated. Because many women, for some remarks on the Internet, do not have their own ability to discern, say what they believe, and then they will apply to their own situation. You know, many so-called theories or summaries are also based on a general analysis of a phenomenon. Not absolutely. So, although it is easy to cheat on the above three kinds of men, it does not mean that men with such conditions will definitely betray. There are other factors that work together for betrayal, and remember not to be rigid, not to be determined without basis.
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