"Only if you can be your best friend can you be the best lover."
Indeed, it's just that to this day, we sometimes can't understand the true meaning of this sentence, and we also wonder why we need to find someone who can be a good friend to get married.
After all, we all know that good feelings need to have a good foundation, not only in the relationship between husband and wife, but also in all people-to-people. Because only with good communication and exchange, as well as respect and appreciation for each other, can the bond between two people be deeper.
Of course, this is not to say that all people should be like this, but it is said that this kind of friendly marriage relationship is easier to get along. As someone once said, the ideal relationship between a husband and wife is composed of love, affection and friendship. Because after two people enter the palace of marriage, they are not only lovers, relatives, but also friends.
As there is a sentence in the "Book of Poetry, Shao Feng, Gu Feng": "Yan'er is newly married, like a brother like a brother." This means that husband and wife should get along like brothers, love and respect, love and respect. To put it simply, it is to be respectful.
Yes, the ancients have already told us that the way of knowing oneself and friends, loving relatives and friends is the best way to manage a relationship or marriage.
Why? Because as the two people continue to dig deeper. Just liking or feeling it won't last long, because there are always problems with two people getting along. And these problems, if not handled well, may cause two people to drift apart.
And the friendship can be communicated and understood, and they can also respect each other. Because human nature is to be easy to be polite to strangers, and for people close to you, you often don't think too much. But whether it is a stranger or a person close to you, what you like in your heart is the feeling of being respected and valued.
Some people may say that they should be their truest appearance in front of the people they love, so when they have this kind of thinking, they may do things that do not respect each other. But this kind of getting along is very bad.
Because if your so-called true appearance is exchanged for the other party's grievances and forbearance, then this kind of relationship will not last long. There will also be a lot of contradictions between the two people.
It's like watching a movie "Friendship Above" before, in which the male and female protagonists are friends who have known each other for ten years. Since school, the male protagonist has liked the female protagonist. But because of the fear of losing this relationship, he chose to keep up with the heroine in the way of a friend.
But this kind of relationship, when the suitor appears around the heroine, he begins to realize that he can't keep a distance like this, and if he keeps it like this, he may lose her completely. The end result is that the two are finally together.
I remember there was a line in the movie: "If you and I can't be friends, can't we get married?" ”
Yeah, if you don't make friends, it's good to get married. Maybe this kind of getting along will be much easier, because in a friendly marriage, each other knows that they are not perfect, but they still love you when they know this. Because he loves you as a person.
If you think about it, it is really a good choice to find a friend-like lover, because the other party is a lover, a relative and a friend. This also means that in this love, my love for you has added another layer.
Of course, the feelings of two people are determined by themselves, and the mode of getting along between two people is also felt by themselves, not that all people apply a way of getting along, and finding their own mode of getting along with two people is the most important.
But if that mode of getting along is easier, the answer must be a friendly marriage. As there is a saying in "Inferiority and Transcendence": "In a happy marriage, husband and wife will be more like a pair of close friends." ”
Therefore, if you can be a very good friend in marriage, then you must be a good lover. Because they know how to respect and accept each other. Will support the other party to give each other praise and encouragement. After all, a good marriage requires two people to run it together. It's easier to get along with friends.
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