The famous American humorist Mark Twain once listened at church
Pastor speech. Initially, he felt that the pastor spoke very well and made people
Touched, ready to donate. After 10 minutes, the pastor had not spoken
When he was finished, he got a little impatient and decided to donate only some change. again
After 10 minutes, the pastor had not finished speaking, so he decided, 1
I don't donate any money. Until the pastor finally ended the lengthy speech,
When the fundraising began, Mark Twain was angry and not only did not donate
Money, also stole 2 yuan from the plate. This stimulation is too much,
Too strong and too long to act and cause psychological impatience or reaction
The psychological phenomenon of anti-resistance is called the "overrun effect".
The overrun effect often occurs in homeschooling. Such as: being a child
When you don't have to do well in the exam, your parents will do it once, twice, or three times
Times, or even four or five times, repeat the same batch of things
Comment, make the child from guilty uneasy to impatient and finally disgusted
detest. If you are "forced to be anxious", there will be a reaction of "I prefer this"
Anti-psychological and behavioral.
Because once the child is criticized, it is always necessary
It takes a while to restore psychological balance, subject to repeated criticism
When he was, he would mutter, "Why did you do this to me?" "Kids
The mood of being criticized cannot return to calm, and the psychology of resistance is high
Boom up.
It can be seen that parents' criticism of their children cannot exceed the limit
Degree, should be the child "make a mistake once, only criticize once." If
If you have to criticize again, you should not simply repeat it, you have to change it
Angle, in other words. That way, the child doesn't feel the same
Mistakes are "held on", bored with psychology, reverse psychology also
It will be reduced.
The over-limit effect tells us that at any time, everything, we must pay attention to the three principles of fire, proportion and scale, and we know that if the best things are repeatedly imposed on others, they will be counterproductive.