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Read this passage:
The landscape in the chest is wonderful in the position.
The beauty of everything in the world is that there are trade-offs.
The beauty of being a human being is as simple as ever.
Indeed it is.
As Lao Tzu said: "The road is simple, the big truth is extremely simple, so simple that it can be explained in one or two sentences." ”
Truly high-level people, the simpler they live.
Don't complicate simple things
Recently I was reading the book "Wild Growth", the author is Feng Lun.
There is a story that I would like to share with you. This story revolves around "relationships".
Jack and David were good brothers.
One day Jack ran a red light while driving, and when he saw that the traffic cop on duty was David, he said, "Dude, are you here?" ”
David said, "It's all right, you go." ”
Jack saved dozens of dollars in fines and said to David, "I'll have you for dinner when I have time." ”
Later, Jack passed by here again, turned in the wrong direction, looked at the old acquaintance again, and said, "Are you on duty again?" ”
David said, "Pay attention next time, go ahead." ”
Jack saved another fine.
Indebted twice, Jack didn't want to go and invited David to dinner.
Drinking while eating, the consumption far exceeds the fine.
While chatting, Jack politely asked, "What are my younger siblings busy with?" ”
David said: "Idle at home has nothing to do, or do not go to your company to work, you can do any position, just give some salary." ”
Jack said, "No problem, wrap it up in me." ”
Afterwards, David actually called Jack and asked him to arrange a job for his daughter-in-law.
Jack was worried, how to open this salary, it can not be lower than 2000.
Later, after David's daughter-in-law worked for a few months, she called Jack and asked, "Brother, my daughter-in-law is an honest person, she has not gone to college, she can't speak, but she can't be wronged. ”
Jack immediately asked his men to take care of David's daughter-in-law.
Later, when David had a problem, he called Jack and said that his daughter-in-law had been bullied again.
Jack said helplessly, "Brother, if you don't want your younger sister to come home, I will pay her 1200 a month." ”
David said angrily, "Look down on people, huh?" ”
Jack went in 20,000 a year and offended his brother.
If Jack had honestly handed over the fine when he first ran the red light, there would have been no trouble in the future.
It is because he complicates simple things that nothing ends up.
In fact, we don't need to think about some problems too long-term and too complicated, which will only bring more troubles to ourselves.
There is a saying: "The most common mistake we make is not that we cannot solve complex problems, but that we always make simple things complicated." ”
True masters are good at simplifying complex problems.
Your simple world is simple for you
Actor Huang Bo once told a story.
Before he became popular, many friends were concerned about him being bullied in the entertainment industry, saying:
"The entertainment industry is too complicated, relying on relationships, playing big names, drinking and eating... You can't talk, you're not good at good relationships, and it's hard to survive in circles. ”
Huang Bo said helplessly, "I'm not complicated." ”
Later, when he was shooting a certain movie, some people said that a certain actor in the same crew had a big shelf, loved to play big names, and did not cooperate very well.
Huang Bo said: "I just act out my own play." ”
When filming officially began, he met with the actor.
I found that in fact, the other party is not like the outside world rumors, the two people are very chatty, go together to understand the role, learn from each other.
When he was finishing, the other party also said to him: "In the future, I will often contact each other and drink together." ”
Huang Bo couldn't help but sigh: "If you are simple, the circle is simple; if you are complex, the circle is complex." ”
The TV series "Chu Han Owl Xiong" has such a plot.
Liu Bang's son, Liu Ying, looked at the sky and asked his father, "What is the way of being a king?" ”
Liu Bang replied: "Before, when I looked at that cloud, I felt that the cloud did not look like a cloud, sometimes like a dog, sometimes like a flock of sheep. Human feelings are different, even the clouds in the sky are different.
Now look at those clouds, the clouds are still clouds, nothing special. After so many things, I realized that it was so simple to live.
The cloud is the cloud, there is no need to think much about what it looks like, the way of the king is also like this, as long as you act with the heart of a child, everywhere with sincerity, you are a good emperor. ”
In the world, many people have lost their "simplicity", thinking too complicated problems and thinking people too complicated.
You are simple, others are simple; you are complex, others are complex.
The world is simple, and the complexity is the human heart.
You are true I am true, you fake me turn around.
Don't talk in a roundabout way
Tell a story about Mark Twain.
He once attended a speech by a pastor, and within a few minutes of the beginning, he knew that the pastor's purpose was to get everyone to donate, but it was not easy to say it directly, so he kept telling the tragic story of other people's poverty.
At first, Mark Twain's eyes were moist and he was ready to donate.
But half an hour passed, and the pastor was still talking.
Mark Twain was a little impatient and wanted to leave, thinking about when the speech would end.
The pastor spoke for more than an hour, thinking that he had touched everyone and that everyone would be willing to donate.
Mark Twain had long since lost his desire to donate, and had not donated the last penny.
There is an "over-limit effect" in psychology, which refers to the psychological phenomenon of too much stimulation, too strong or too long-term action, which causes psychological impatience or rebellion.
The simple explanation is that talking does not keep people's appetite, which will make people feel very impatient.
In life, there are always people who say half of what they say, twist and turn, and you have to guess what he means.
Debater Huang Zhizhong said: "We only talk about three points Chinese, and the remaining seven points are guessed." Guessing and guessing, they are all guessing the true heart with their hearts, missing a lot of hearts, why is this bitter? ”
I have seen a small story by Hu Shi and Huang Kan.
They discuss together how to refuse something they don't want to do.
Huang Kan thought for a long time and thought of a euphemistic answer: "Only shallow in learning, I am afraid that it is difficult to be competent, and I will not obey my fate." ”
Hu Shi directly cut off and said three words: "I can't do it." ”
Just these three words attracted the applause of the audience.
What you want to say, just point directly, don't do too much preparation, don't drag mud and water, talk and don't sell guanzi.
There's a song that's well written: "Be simple, speak in a simple way, omit the progressive emotions, you're not an actor, don't design those plots." ”
Truly intelligent people can face problems positively and have something to say.
Talk without twisting, do not cover up things, in order to live easily.
Writer Mader said:
"This world, seemingly noisy all around, all kinds of people, etc., mud and sand, in essence, is still your world alone."
If you are clear, the world is clean; if you are simple, the world is difficult to be complex. If you don't care, there will be no ambiguity in the world.
If you don't push half and half, the world won't be half black and half white for you. ”
Rousseau also said that being a person should be simple, simple, and simple.
In a complex world, simplicity is happiness.
Simplifying complex problems is a kind of ability and a kind of wisdom.
If you are simple, life is simple for you.
Author: Kita Mu Nan. Source: Night Listening (ID: yetingfm), Night Listening, For Love, Meet a Better Self. Reading has a way to publish articles with authorization.
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