100 Social Codes for High Emotional Intelligence in Human Nature (Dry Goods)

100 Social Codes for High Emotional Intelligence in Human Nature (Dry Goods)

1. To be a person, you must learn to be elliptical

Don't be too square, too square is easy to hit the wall, not too round, too round, easy to let people away from you, so learn to oval.

2. The essence of networking is value exchange, each taking what is needed

A truly solid relationship is an exchange of value. What circle you want to enter, you have to provide equivalent resources. What benefits you want, you have to pay the corresponding price. You don't have the ability and resources to change people, and networking is a joke.

3, before a thing is done, do not easily tell others

Don't be silent before things are done, in case of failure is a punch in the face, success is deserved.

4, the choice is not so difficult, do not keep talking casually

Every time you do something casually, you're pushing the trouble on someone else. No one likes to speculate on your preferences, and a simple choice can save others a lot of trouble. When others say it's casual, it's not necessarily casual. Meaning you offer several options and he picks one at random.

5, whether good or bad, do not share with too many people

When you say something bad about yourself, you have to know that it is difficult to have real empathy in this world, and others prefer the strong to the weak. When you say good things, you must know that in this world, except for your own parents, few people want you to live better than him, so share with people and learn to have mixed feelings.

6. The office is the most secretful place

If you tell the secret to the wind, don't blame the wind for blowing the secret all over the forest.

7, behind the praise of people, more able to do more with less.

"Bad things are said to the face, and good words are said behind the scenes." Learning to praise people behind their backs is more convincing than currying favor in person.

8, their own strength, others will respect and give themselves face

If you don't have enough strength, you can't provide value to others, so others naturally won't respect you. No matter how much you please others, in their hearts, they are also despised. Instead of pleasing others, it is better to retreat to the net, when you are strong enough, naturally some people will put you in the eyes. Face is earned by oneself, not given by others.

9, can be solved with money to solve the problem do not easily overdraft human feelings

Human affection is often more valuable than money, and the benefits of overdrafting human affection are often lost in another way.

10, can Baidu to solve the problem do not easily trouble others

Because you don't want to trouble your people, you don't want to be troubled by others, and don't insult the intelligence of others.

11. Be vigilant and greet suddenly

Friends who have not been in touch for a long time suddenly come to you one day, either to borrow money from you, or to find you with your share. Don't think that others are just looking for you to contact feelings, and thinking about how to deal with it is the last word.

12, jokes must be measured

The underlying logic of humor is either self-deprecating or offensive. Therefore, when joking with others, you must master the degree. You can joke about yourself, but don't joke about other people's scars and shortcomings, and you must grasp the measure when joking. You think that being funny is not really humorous, and if others think it is funny, it is really funny.

13, don't always think about white prostitutes taking advantage of small profits

Love to take advantage, in fact, covet the immediate interests. But the reality is that people who want to take advantage of it not only can't take advantage of it in the end, but they suffer a big loss. There is no such thing as a free lunch, and no one wants to associate with someone who loves to take advantage. The advantages you have taken are all consuming your connections.

14, no matter how good a friend is, don't make decisions for him

It's okay not to have an accident, but if something happens, you have to carry the pot, and this matter will become a knot in the relationship between the two people. You can say your point, but put the decision in the hands of your friends. Wise men always guide others and never make decisions for others.

15 What is more uncomfortable than rejection is the disappointment of hope

What cannot be done, not ambiguous, not giving people false hopes, simply rejecting, is respect for others, but also respect for oneself. Be a person and do things, simply and neatly, so that people can see your principles and bottom lines. And having principles and bottom lines can make you more valuable and precious.

16. Visit the door and know how to say goodbye appropriately

When you visit someone else's house and the host looks at the phone or offers to watch TV, it's time to say goodbye.

17, chat can send text do not send voice, do not send long voice

Most people will choose not to listen to the moment they see WeChat voice, especially those that are more than 50 seconds old, and they are annoyed when they see it. Chat with others, send text if you can, and if you have to send voice, it is best to make a long story short.

18, the first meeting to be able to remember other people's names is more likely to be liked

Everyone maintains a high degree of sensitivity to their own name. The person everyone cares about most is themselves, you can remember each other's names, will make the other party feel that you value him, remember other people's names, is the lowest cost of social investment.

19 Don't comfort the crying person and say don't cry

It's hard to feel real empathy between people, and the best way to comfort someone who is sad or crying is to divert his attention or make him feel that you are worse than him.

20. Temporary dinner points invite you to dinner dinner and don't go

The meal is only about to ask you, either the people are not together, or they are calling you to pay, and the people who really want to invite you to dinner will definitely make an appointment in advance.

21, be good to people, but don't be too good to one person

Too nice for a guy, most of the time just speeding up his deadline to leave you. Results that are too good for a person, either excessive or unable to bear, both of which can lead to the breakdown of the relationship. This is not a perversion, but human nature. A good relationship needs to be well-connected, and the right amount is appropriate in order to maintain it for a long time.

22. Door-to-door visits must be polite

Gifts do not need to be too expensive, the focus is on the meaning of the expression in place, the host's kind words can not be taken seriously, before bothering others, you must let others know that you understand things, and you will become more popular and liked in the future.

23, friends do not have to be too real

For example, if someone asks you to drink a bottle of water, you have to transfer 3 yuan to him. This will only make the other person feel distant from you. The right thing to do is that if he asks you to drink water, you invite him to snack; if he helps you do things, you invite him to eat.

24 Don't always talk about things like "If it were me I wouldn't be like this"

Life has no ifs, only results. And you can never guarantee that you'll be able to do better than him when things happen to you.

25. Don't expect too much from the people around you

Life has always been less charcoal in the snow, and more icing on the cake.

26, in the adult world, there is a kind of rejection called "silence"

If you don't get a response to your requests, don't force it anymore.

27, after helping others, try not to mention it

Every time you mention it, the previous help will be one point less.

28. Replace "how do I know" with "I don't know"

From the question sentence to the declarative sentence, it is not only the tone of the sentence that is transformed, but also the mood of the listener. In the same way, if you can answer "yes", "yes", "yes", "yes", don't answer "you say it".

29 Don't know a person from someone else's mouth

If you want to know a person, then use your heart and time to get to know him. What comes out of the mouth of others is not necessarily the truth; what is seen in the eyes of others is not necessarily the whole thing.

30. Don't do too much, don't talk too much

The only constant in this world is that it keeps changing. Don't do anything, don't say it. It is not only to leave room for others, but also to pave the way for yourself.

31. Don't talk and judge others casually

Especially after people. There is an eighty percent chance that what you say will be transmitted back to the person's ear and will most likely be distorted.

32. To be a person, you must have principles and bottom lines

You can not stab people, but there must be thorns on the body.

33, do not easily expose your weaknesses with unfamiliar people

When dealing with anyone, you must keep a line of bottom line. Don't expose your weaknesses to others, you want others to sympathize with you, in fact, others will only think that you are really not good, and even use you through your weaknesses. Most people are strong people who prefer the strong to the weak.

34. Relatives should be born, people should be familiar, and acquaintances should be kissed

Relatives often turn their faces because there is no boundary, and they must maintain a certain distance from their relatives to ensure that the relationship between them can be placed; strangers can be enthusiastic as rapture, which can establish a good first impression and close the relationship; treat acquaintances intimately. There must be a relationship of interest between acquaintances, and if you help him today, he will help you one day.

35. The effect of different expressions of a sentence is very different

Replace "thank you" with "thank you; "whatever you want" with "listen to you"; and "Do you understand" with "Have I made it clear?".

36, do not be too anxious to fall in love with a person, and do not get acquainted with a person too quickly

People who are close to you ten times faster will eventually leave you at ten times faster.

37, don't always complain to others about how difficult it is

In the adult world, there is no such thing as easy.

38, poor others do not want to be in public, and try to help privately

The best way to treat someone who is inferior to you is to treat each other as equals, or even look up.

39, except for questions of principle, do not argue with people

Because we're not arguing about the truth, but about opinions, perspectives, and even values. Agreed to the like, disagree with the laugh passed.

40. Words that come out of nowhere may be the words you want to say the most.

What is vomited after drinking is likely to be the truth, and most of the words spoken after getting angry are words that have been suppressed for a long time... There are no plain words that are said to you for no reason.

41, the circle of friends is not all friends

The forest is big, there are birds, so don't send everything to the circle of friends, but also learn to group friends.

42, don't always mention your friends in front of others. You have to understand that the achievements of others have nothing to do with you.

Saying this seems that you want others to know that you are well-connected, but in fact, it will only make others think that you are incompetent, so you need others to set yourself off.

43. Be cautious when telling secrets to others

Telling others the secret is equivalent to giving the weakness to others, knowing that the people who can hurt you the most are often the people who know you best.

44, do not tear your face until you have to

Tearing the face, there is generally only one result, that is, both lose and lose. Some people, if they recognize it clearly, they will look down on it, and they will have a good idea in their hearts, and there is no need to be entangled. Even if the heart has collapsed, the surface must not be alarmed. Responding quietly is the most powerful counterattack.

45. Not treating yourself as an outsider is a disaster

There is no real intimacy between people. This is true even for those closest to you. Crossing the line, losing proportions, and losing friendship. Everyone has secrets in their hearts that they don't want others to know. Maintaining a certain social distance is the minimum respect for yourself and others.

46, the next time you are invited to dinner, it is the biggest perfunctory

If a person really wants to invite you to dinner, he will not wait for the next time. Even if you really don't have time, you will make an appointment. All next time, not just around the corner, but far away. The "next appointment" without a specific location and time is often about August, March, 2019, and the ambiguous invitation is just the other party's courtesy. Don't take it seriously, if you really are, you will lose.

47, good people have good rewards, but bad good people do not

In this world, not all good intentions can be exchanged for equal returns. Man is good to be deceived, and horse is good to be ridden. "Rotten good people" who have no principles and no bottom line can only be bullied. For some people who are not worthy, you must know how to put away your kindness. You can be kind, but be sure to add sharpness.

48. The courage to go when you want to go is the confidence given by money

Although money is not omnipotent, it is impossible without money. Because of the confidence of life, almost all of them are given by money. With money, you can better resist the risks on the road of life; with money, you can take a trip that you can walk away. Don't think it's vulgar to talk about money, without money, you can't do anything at all.

49. In the face of interests, feelings are not worth mentioning

No matter how deep the feelings, it seems that as long as interests are involved, they will become vulnerable. In fact, we have simply forgotten that many feelings between people are based on interests. Without common interests, or conflicts of interest, feelings naturally disappear. Life is like a chess game, those who can read the game are born, those who are good at breaking the game exist, and those who control the overall situation win.

50 Without the ability to clean up the mess, there should be no fickle emotions

Don't let your temper outweigh your abilities. If you're right, there's no need to lose your temper; if you're wrong, you're not qualified to lose your temper, so control your emotions.

51, the person who can be in a certain position must have his superiority, no matter how much you hate him.

52, any relationship, rather believe in long-term love, than believe in love at first sight.

53. After falling in love, don't snub other people around you. Because in case you break up, you'll find that you'll have nothing too.

54 In these sad times, effort may not be useful, but don't laugh at the efforts of others.

55, promise others things, must be done, otherwise, please directly refuse.

56, do not overestimate your relationship with anyone, interact with people, do not talk deeply.

57, don't look down on anyone, maybe the people you look down on will make you look down.

58. Be wary of the person who says bad things about others in front of you, and it is possible that he will also say bad things about you in front of others.

59. After leaving society, most people's speech tends to focus on "but" and "so", and the front is often the foreshadowing.

60. Before 9 a.m., 12 p.m. to 4 p.m., and after 22 p.m., don't contact someone you don't know.

61, first a villain and then a gentleman, the person who explained the interest risk to you at the beginning is trustworthy.

62, ask others for help, if the other party does not immediately agree, most of them are refused, do not force.

63, who you can forgive without a bottom line, who can hurt you without a bottom line.

64, when he hesitates to eat or not to eat, do not eat; when he hesitates to buy or not to buy, do not buy; when he hesitates to do it, do it.

65 Don't make decisions late at night, don't make decisions when you are emotionally unstable, eighty percent you will regret it.

66, if you have made a mistake, find ten thousand excuses, or your fault; therefore, it is better to admit it directly.

67, use the word "you", which is not humble, but the embodiment of quality.

68 No one will listen to it if he says less about the great truth; and do not persuade others to be good without suffering.

69, talk to people as much as possible with declarative sentences, do not use rhetorical questions, rhetorical questions will give people the meaning of reproach.

70, do not hindsight, like pigs beforehand, make people feel very sand sculpture, hindsight and "you deserve" equivalent.

71, do not easily test a person, human nature is difficult to withstand the test, the other party did not betray you, that is because the temptation and interests are not big enough.

72, when others praise you, don't be too proud, life is generally conserved, as many people praise you, as many people scold you, or line up to see your jokes.

73, the appointment must be on time, even if it is not on time, do not lie, the mouth says "five minutes to arrive", in fact, there is still half an hour.

74, before you succeed, others laugh at you don't care too much, the best response to them is your results. Remember: people always have mixed reputations, and criticism is the condiment for success.

75, Behind all the scenery, it is either vicissitudes or dirty.

76, if a friend invites you to dinner, you must not order expensive, the best thing to do is to let him recommend.

77 Do what you're afraid to do, and then you find out, though.

78, when you grow up, learn to accept the reality of being an ordinary person.

79. Do not persuade others to be kind without suffering.

80, kindness is too much, no one will respect you. Because persimmons are picky soft pinch.

81 Don't poke a person in the face who is putting on X, because he will definitely hate you.

82, do not try to rely on anyone, no one is as reliable as yourself. People who really achieve great things know how to pretend to be stupid and hide clumsiness.

83. It is necessary to be a little slower and slower to communicate with people; it is necessary to cut off friendship with people a little faster and faster.

84. Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, where there are rivers and lakes, there are right and wrong, rivers and lakes are not fights, killing, killing, and killing, and rivers and lakes are human feelings.

85, many people have gone far, not because there is less contact, either because you are poor, or because you have become better.

86, first make a living, then love; first talk about interests, then talk about feelings, is the best choice for smart people.

87, don't think that adding weChat is like having more powerful connections. You treat people as connections, but they just treat you like heads. The cattle people are useful to you, but you may not be useful to the cattle people.

88, do not easily puncture the lie, do not casually break the illusion, maybe that is the other party's last self-esteem and all persistence.

89, a person who often reminisces about the past shows that the current situation is not satisfactory. The more a person shows off something, the more he lacks something.

90, there is no free lunch under the sky, if there is, then you have to be careful.

91, there are important and formal things as far as possible in person or call to inform the other party that WeChat voice and sending messages are not the same.

92, learn to save money, restrain desires, you never know when to use money. Lending money to someone else is going to be prepared not to come back.

93, only know that humble flattery to others, will only be exchanged for the contempt of others, only their own strength, in exchange for others' attention to you.

94, do not be afraid to be used by others. As long as you are not used by others to do bad things, others use you, indicating that you have usable value.

95. People often have a heart of dreaming the Red Chamber, but they live in the world of Water Margin. I want to make friends with some Taoyuan brothers in the Three Kingdoms, but I always encounter demons and ghosts in the Journey to the West.

96, a relationship, there can be no equal return, but there must be a response, otherwise stay away.

97, maturity is not equal to sophistication, knowing the world without sophistication is the kindest maturity.

98, reality will tell you: no money, even your dearest people will look down on you; feelings will tell you: don't think that the people you think are also thinking of you.

99, people go to tea cold is the norm, and human feelings have nothing to do with cold and warm, because people go away there is no need to renew tea.

100 If someone says it's not a matter of money, it's a matter of money. People who talk about money and say that they hurt their feelings are often not real feelings with you.

Congratulations on being able to read the above content carefully, may you know the world without being sophisticated, smooth and naïve!

If you feel that the article is rewarding, don't forget to like, follow and share.

Follow me, don't miss every good article, and get more dry goods