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The relationship between people has always been to exchange sincerity for sincerity, and only by pulling out each other's sincerity and understanding each other can we maintain a long-term relationship.
If a relationship is only you alone in the struggle to maintain, only you alone have paid the heart, the other party does not cherish the affection between you at all, frequently ignores you, and does things that hurt you, then don't bother him anymore, in the end it will only bring a sentimentality.
I used to think that any relationship was like this, as long as you were good to others with your heart and lungs, you would definitely be able to exchange for the same response from the other party. Later, after slowly contacting more people and experiencing more things, I found that not everyone maintained the same view of choosing friends as you, and not all of them were worthy of your kindness to him.
Some people, the better you treat him, the last thing you will get will only be ignored and repeatedly hurt, some people come to you, is to use you, to teach you a lesson, the more you pay for him, the deeper the pain will eventually bring you.
As a person, you can't be too soft-hearted, and don't indulge some people without a bottom line, the more soft-hearted you are, they will only do whatever they want, and they will repeatedly suppress you and despise you for your kindness to them.
There will always be people who will no longer believe in any affection in this world because of a wrong relationship, because of a person, keep wary of all relationships, and dare not invest to pay, in fact, there is no need, there will always be someone to hurt you, and there will always be someone who will warmly embrace you and warm you.
You have to distinguish between true and false intentions, those who are worthy, it does not hurt to pay more, and the people who are so to you, don't contact again, there is no point.
People who always take advantage of you
Any relationship requires two mutual efforts to maintain, we can not hold the mentality of taking advantage of people to get along, so it can only ruin a relationship.
However, there are always some people in life who like to take advantage, so small that they usually let you buy a cup of milk tea and do not pay you back, like to use other people's things, every time they go out to eat, you spend money, they always just want to get something from you, and they don't know how to pay you at all.
There are even some people who think you are better off than him and earn more than her, so they have a reasonable attitude and think that you should pay a little more and spend more money.
However, there is nothing in this world that should be, others are willing to spend money for you, and it is their own business to pay for you, but you cannot rely on their kindness.
In fact, no one is stupid, those who always let you take advantage of people, it seems that they have always been wronged, but in fact, their hearts are also secretly measuring, they really regard you as a friend, only willing to bear you at the beginning, let you, but they will also weigh, whether you are worth it, if you always have nothing to pay, then he will also take back his own good.
Those who habitually take advantage of it may seem that they have indeed made some small profits, but in the end it is the most precious love in the world that they have lost.
Those who are willing to be good to you, lose one less. The people who will take advantage of you, really care about you, don't treat them like fools.
And as a giver, you also have to polish your eyes, like to take advantage of people, they are selfish people, simply do not deserve your kindness to him, timely away is the wise move.
Habitually oppress you, mock your people
What kind of person we are with, what kind of person we will become, what kind of environment we will be influenced by, and what kind of person you will become in the end.
Don't underestimate the importance of the circle, if you are surrounded by negative energy people, over time will also make you become negative energy bursting, and you will lose confidence and enthusiasm for life. If you are surrounded by people like the sun, your personality will also become cheerful and bright.
It is said that to see whether a relationship is a good relationship, is to see your state when you are with him, a good relationship will definitely lead you to a better direction, if it is a bad relationship, you will become very unconfident and gloomy in this relationship.
In "Spring Day Late Departure", Liu Liqi talked about the state of being with her ex-husband, he said that her ex-husband always habitually suppressed her, mocked her, said that she was low, had thick legs, and her ex-husband's family members also hated her in the open and secret, and after giving birth to a baby, they said, "How do you look like your mother?" The words were full of oppression.
Liu Liqi is obviously a very good person, but in the eyes of her brother-in-law, she is useless. In her last marriage, she was very unconfident.
There are always some people who will always have a natural sense of superiority, feel that they are good everywhere, treat the people around them always have a lot of ridicule and oppression, some people may feel that they are straight, talk but the brain, and some people think that it is because of a good relationship with you, so there will be words directly said, will not be hidden.
Don't be seduced by such a fallacy, if a person really cares about you, he will never get pleasure by your suppression of you, he will definitely care about your feelings, and he will never hurt you through words. A person who can't even give you basic respect, stay away in time, don't waste time, and don't waste your good.
People who are good at calculation and do not know how to be grateful
No matter who you get along with, you must maintain a grateful attitude, because they are not obliged to be good to you, and those who are willing to be good to you must be doubly cherished.
But there are always some people, they will take the good of others to themselves, as if you owe him, the first time they encounter things will ask you for help, if you can't do it, it will also breed complaints. When you meet such people, don't contact them again, they will only consume you, and they are not sincere at all.
In "The World of Man", Qiao Chunyan and Cao Debao are such people, once they encounter anything, they will go to Zhou Bingkun for help at the first time, and their attitude has no intention of asking for help, that is, a feeling that Zhou Bingkun should do it.
They found Zhou Bingkun and wanted to ask for a house through him and Zhou Bingyi, Zhou Bingkun did not agree, he immediately turned his face and did not recognize anyone, in their place, as long as you are not as good as you want, you will forget all the good you have done to them before.
Such people, in their world, have always been calculating, being good at calculation, doing everything is running for their own interests, feeling that everyone should make way for themselves, you should help him, if you don't help him, you will be the first time to cut off contact with you, and will not put the so-called friendship in your heart at all.
Once you don't satisfy them, you will immediately turn your face and even do something to hurt you. Such a person must keep a distance, do not be soft-hearted, and break off diplomatic relations when they should break off.
A person can not be too kind, not all people are worth your heart and lungs, we must learn to distinguish and screen the people around us.
When you encounter those who are unkind and unjust, don't be soft-hearted, your softness of heart will only be exchanged for the gains of others. The only way to stay away in time and cut off contact is the best way.
Not everyone is suitable for inclusion in life, and not everyone is worthy of your care. Connecting with some people is a drain on you and a waste of your emotions.
Polish your eyes, recognize the people around you, and get some people out in time to be able to put your energy into people who are truly worthy.