Catch Happiness 299th original article
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1. Emotional intelligence is your ability to take appropriate actions and maintain good relationships after you identify, accept, and attribute the emotions of yourself and others.
2. After identifying an emotion, you can live peacefully with it; after living peacefully with all your emotions, you can live peacefully with your children and the world!
3. Parents' attitudes towards their own and their children's emotions will directly affect their children's ability to identify, accept, attribute and act on emotions in the future.
4. If your child is used to empathizing with others and not to themselves, see if you're used to blaming them?
5. If your child thinks it's shameful to express feelings, see if you've ever instilled a wrong idea.
6. If your child is used to avoiding contact with people, he may wish to help him ask himself: Do people really like me after they understand me? Will everyone reject me?
7. If the child only knows that you love him, but the body does not perceive this love, perhaps the child will still have a stiff mind and find it difficult to care for himself and others.
8. Instead of blaming children for over-dependence, it is better to blame parents for over-helping!
9. Forcibly interrupting your child's feelings is different from helping your child manage your feelings. The former will say "Man is not allowed to cry!" The latter will say "You seem very sad, oh, let's see what happened?" ”
10. If you perceive that your child is sad, give him a warm and powerful hug!
11. Rules that are not followed will only make children steal pleasure for violating the rules and pay for lack of self-discipline.
12. If your child is always unable to control himself, ask if you are too strict or loose when he is a minor? If you are too loose, you may want to help him do something he does not want to do every day but is beneficial, or stop doing something that he should not do but is doing. Once the mind establishes a new neural circuit, the child will have magical self-control!
13. If the child only has self-evaluation before the age of 25, but does not have your attention and feedback, perhaps his self-identity development will be problematic, because it is difficult for him to integrate himself and the two worlds you see into one world, and it is difficult to see through the grandeur and subtlety of this world.
14. A good parent should be a mirror of the child, reflecting the child's hobbies and strengths and weaknesses, and then timely feedback in a way that the child can accept, so that the child can constantly internalize the true sense of self and face the real world.
15. If you are a parent, please throw away the guilt and pick up the sense of responsibility. Because guilt will make you indulge your child and doubt yourself, your child will even use your self-doubt to achieve his inappropriate goals.
16. As a parent, you must not forget: most progress is not a straight line, but two steps back, one step back, or even two steps back, the key is to overcome the step back, take the next step!
Family education is really the greatest and most difficult lifelong profession under the heavens, do you agree?
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Author: Yongfang, a member of the Democratic League, arrested the founder of Happiness
Editor-in-Charge: XiaoFang
Read by: Lingling Wang
Tweet Producer: Jia Yuqin, Wang Houxia, Ouyang Yan, Ding Minzhi