Once watched a variety show, there was an episode in which the guests were discussing such a topic: do a good job or marry well, which is the best?
Some people hope to improve their class through marriage, some people hope to find a door-to-door partner, and some people insist on relying on their own continuous improvement to attract excellent others.
In fact, everyone's views are correct.
Who wouldn't want to find a good guy to be their other half? There's nothing wrong with those who frankly say they want to move up the ladder through marriage! We can't think of everyone who thinks well as a cunning woman.
Most of the people who want to find the right person to be the other half are very pragmatic and down-to-earth people, and they hope to have a stable life and a peaceful life, and they do not need to spend more energy and effort to appease the other half's uneasiness and inferiority.
Some people insist that women are to rely on themselves and be a well-done woman who is financially independent, so that they can have more right to speak and attract the kind of people they like.
In fact, no matter what kind of person you want to become, you must be fully prepared. Whether you want to find someone to share or want to be independent, it is your own choice, and you must also have the ability to bear the different consequences brought about by such a choice.
Life is really tough, and even if you want to find someone to share the stress of life with yourself, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. If you want to rely on yourself to get everything you want, it's also very admirable!
No matter what choice you make, as long as you don't hurt others, don't cross the moral and legal boundaries, and make yourself happy, it's a good choice.
But no matter what way you want to enter the marriage, a woman still has to know the following two truths early before entering the marriage.
1. Marrying well may change your life, but it shouldn't make you give up independence.
What exactly is a good marriage? A lot of people's focus is on material change. They believe that a woman who marries well is to find a lifetime of "high-quality meal tickets", and from then on, she can live a life of worry-free food and clothing, pampering, pampering, pampering, and ten fingers without touching the spring water.
There must be such a man, and you are not without a chance to meet, even if you are Cinderella, you have the opportunity to marry a prince.
But don't test human nature, girls! Human nature is the most untested, it is too complex and changeable, he may be good to you for a while, but no one can guarantee that he will be good for a lifetime.
When you are in love, you swear to the mountain alliance, he is obedient to you, and may even fight against you and your own family, not you do not marry, let you touch the tears, only feel that in this life to find the right person, no matter what happens, it is impossible to separate the two of you.
After all, he can rebel against the family, against your parents, and even against the whole world! How can you possibly doubt that he won't treat you for the rest of your life?
If you insist that no matter what you become, he will love you for the rest of your life as he says, then you just don't understand human nature.
Youth will always pass away in a hurry, and a person's youthful appearance cannot last.
When you have a child, the figure is out of shape, the skin is loose, the voice is rough, and the things that will happen in life will make your temper no longer have the soft and sweet as it was before.
The husband who did not marry you at the beginning, because of his superior family environment, will still attract younger and more beautiful girls. At this time, he may change his mind, and he will destroy your disgusted body because of a very small and very small thing, or even directly betray the marriage and sweep you out of the house.
Chen Daoming said: "Shaohua is easy to pass away, the moment is fragrant, and the skin phase gives you at best a few years of brilliance, but in addition, what you need more is the power that brings you grace and tranquility in a lifetime, and this power is independence." ”
Some say that marriage may be a second reincarnation for a woman. But no matter what kind of marriage, what kind of "reincarnation" for your life, this is a starting point for another life.
No matter how well you marry, you can't give up on making yourself independent. This independence is spiritual independence, material independence, and independence in life. It's the kind of independence that has you and me, and I won't be bad without you.
A good marriage should be just the icing on the cake for you, and it will never be an excuse and reason for you to lie flat.
You can use the benefits and power of marriage to take yourself to the next level, but you must not be satisfied with the comfort that marriage brings you, and henceforth lose the wings to fly alone.
One might say: I married this man not for a rich life, but because I love him.
I believe in you girl!
But can you guarantee that he will live as rich as he is now? What if one day he falls? Are you going to live on the streets together? Of course not, right? You marry him not only to marry the person you love, but also to make yourself stronger and able to tolerate his frustration and frustration, which is the real marriage and love!
A good marriage will achieve each other and nourish each other.
2. The first person you want to love and achieve will always be just yourself.
You may have a lot of friends, but you should know that friends may not be able to live a lifetime, some people accompany you for a while, some people will accompany you all the way, no matter which one is a fate, but no matter which person should not let you give up your own opinions and choices.
There are absolutely no two people in this world who are exactly the same, two views that are exactly the same. There are many things you have to stick to if you're right, and if you don't want to aggrieved yourself, then don't succumb to others.
If you need to be aggrieved in order to exchange for the approval of others, then such recognition should not be left alone. The people who need you to exchange like this, whether they are friends or lovers, are not worth it, and they are not sincere with you.
There are some Mu Qiang in people's personality, you bow your head but will make others look down on you, no matter what kind of feelings, evenly matched, is an important way to maintain a long-term relationship.
Even if two people's three views and ambitions are the same, if you are too weak and always in the role of obedience, they will only drift apart from each other.
Only the ability is comparable, and the three views are equal, can the feelings of the two people be protracted.
As the old saying goes: things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped.
What kind of person you are, what kind of people you will attract, what kind of circles you will fit into. But even so, you all have your own way to go.
Whether it is your friends, friends or even children, they all have their own lives, if you blindly seek perfection and sacrifice yourself to complete others, it is most likely that you will not live well, and the relationship with others will not be maintained well.
If you get worse and worse, how can someone you love get better? You don't even have the ability to protect yourself, so how can you protect the people you care about?
There is a saying that goes: love others should stop at the right time, and love yourself should do your best.
So live yourself well first.
First of all, we must achieve ourselves, love ourselves, live well, take seriously our physical and mental health, take care of our own mood seriously, do not wronged ourselves, do not tolerate things that we do not want to endure, and strive to make ourselves happy and happy.
Such a woman is more capable of bringing happiness and happiness to the people she cares about.
From now on, live a good life and love yourself seriously.
The years are long, and you have to be your own most reliable reliance.