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Zhou Guoping said that compared to socializing, being alone is definitely an ability.
The solitary person, like a lone wolf, slowly got rid of the group, chose to go alone into the distance, looked at the horizon under the brilliant sunset, turned away, dashing and free.
Remember when we were young, we especially hated the "solitude" life, thinking that living alone without the company of friends and colleagues was a tragedy in the world and meaningless.
Later, we were taught a lesson by life and beaten by reality, and then we slowly felt that choosing to live alone and no longer interact with unnecessary passers-by may be the best choice.
The life of the group, on the surface, is very faceless, and in the eyes of others, it is a "group" image. But does it really make sense to be too gregarious and to care too much about what others think? Worthless.
A person's greatest wisdom is not to lose his soul, nor to lose his initiative in life, but to grasp every moment of "solitude" and create his own life value in his own time.
When people are old and choose to live "alone", they need to force themselves to do these things well.
02
To live alone, you need to force yourself to get rid of ineffective social interactions.
As the saying goes, low-quality socializing is not as good as high-quality solitude.
Low-level socializing, like eating overnight meals, although it can fill the stomach, is still difficult to swallow, and there is no nutrition to speak of. And high-quality solitude, although a little deserted, but what we tasted was a mouth-watering feast.
We may wish to think about the question, is it better for a group of people to communicate hypocritically, or is it better for a person to live truly?
To put it mildly, a group of people pretending to socialize is just a superficial trick. When we have problems, I believe that these people will disappear immediately.
There is a way that "it is easy to add flowers to the icing on the cake, but it is difficult to send charcoal in the snow." ”
When you have a good time, others come to flatter you, that is the human nature of "worshiping the high and stepping on the low". And when you have a bad time, others will bully you, that is, the inferior nature of "falling into the well".
That being the case, we might as well choose to live a little "alone" life, and the low-quality social networking can be ignored.
03
To live alone, you need to force yourself to develop the habit of "self-discipline".
What exactly is self-discipline?
The ancient Greek philosopher Plato said that self-discipline is an order, a control over pleasures and desires.
You choose to run five kilometers a day, exercise, and maintain the habit for a long time. This is a kind of self-discipline that goes deep into the bone marrow.
You choose to read an hour a day, read some famous people's masterpieces, and always free time to study. This is a kind of self-discipline that enriches the spiritual world of the self.
You choose to delve into what you like every day, such as writing, such as scientific research, such as painting, and never feel bored. This is a kind of self-discipline to improve self-ability.
Being alone gives us time to improve ourselves and also gives us the opportunity to cultivate our "personal character". When a group of people live, they can't discipline themselves. Only after being alone can we better learn to live a self-disciplined life.
In its own biological clock, live proudly, like a delicate rose, proudly blooming.
04
To live alone, you need to force yourself to learn to "cultivate your mind."
Wang Yangming said that a narrow heart is the root of misfortune, and a broad heart is the source of happiness.
Too narrow-minded is the source of the scourge. And to make the heart broader, that is the source of blessing. Learning to cultivate the mind and learning to cultivate our own character will make our lives more valuable.
Many people feel that as long as they have money, they can make their hearts stable. As long as you are powerful and powerful, you can satisfy your heart. As long as your wish is fulfilled, you can make your heart happy
But can our desires really be "filled"?
Cultivating the mind with a solitary posture, breaking the inner anxiety and resentment, and making the heart more flat and less angry is the key way for modern people to alleviate their anxiety.
Wang Yangming felt that it was easy to be a thief in a broken mountain, but it was difficult to break a thief in his heart. And this "thief in the heart" has three points, anxiety, desire and hesitation. When you break through these "three thieves", then you will be invincible.
Give yourself a little time alone, cultivate a calm heart like water, and let your future flow for a long time.
05
Living alone, you need to force yourself to develop "habits"
There is a saying that "man has no habits and cannot be promiscuous." ”
If a person does not have a habit, it often seems a little unreal. At this time, we would rather keep our distance from it than have deep friendships with it.
Is fetish really that important? In fact, fetishes are the embodiment of a person's temperament and hobbies. His true intentions, as well as the pursuit of ideals, are manifested in his "habits."
If you like meditation, then you can calm the mind, empty your mind, let the mind enter the whimsical state, break through the shackles of reality.
If you like to write, then you can write your mind on rice paper with a thousand inks, and then achieve the purpose of "self-cultivation".
If you like to read, then you can "aspire to read all the books on earth", talk to the ancient sages, expand your knowledge level, and sublimate your soul.
Cultivating your own habits in a solitary posture is like galloping in the journey of life, free and unrestrained. That's all.
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