I have seen a hot topic on the Internet:
What are the hallmarks of a person's grand pattern?
There is an answer that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people:
You can adjust yourself when you are at a low point, and you can stick to your heart when you are high.
Even if the inner waves are turbulent, the surface is like the heart is like stopping water, and the clouds are light and the wind is light.
Walking for half a lifetime, I looked down on many things and saw many people clearly.
The further back you go, the more you understand: not silent, not noisy, not arguing, and has the power to be silent.
Source: One book per night
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Success is not good, it is cultivation
Zi Yue: "Gentlemen are proud but not proud, and villains are proud but not proud." ”
People with patterns not only have superior strength, but also humble and low-key.
And those who have a little achievement and flaunt themselves everywhere are actually a manifestation of the lack of confidence in their hearts.
There is such a scene in Mo Yan's "Late Ripening Man".
At a banquet, the people who came to the banquet were elites from all walks of life, including generals and high-ranking officials.
When preparing to eat, a middle-aged man suddenly grabbed the stage and introduced himself loudly when he wanted to pass the microphone:
"Leaders, I am the poet Kim Heep... This year, I gave a lecture tour at one hundred universities across the country, published five books of poetry, and held three poetry readings..."
Everyone looked at him with amazement and gave him a standing ovation.
I didn't expect that this small county town also produced such a number one person.
He was proud of the spring breeze and could not control himself, so he wanted to write a poem to everyone on the spot:
"Big steamed buns, big white buns, fragrant buns, big buns made with old noodles, big buns grown from the land of the hometown..."
A "steamed bun poem" made everyone drop their jaws, and the whole audience burst into laughter.
A high-ranking official could not watch it, and quickly ordered the dish to be served, changing the topic, and the farce ended.
In life, you can often meet a type of person who wants to be in the limelight all the time.
They only need to achieve a little success and then begin to swell physically and mentally, 360 degrees to light themselves.
The light that can be shown off will not only not illuminate others, but also make people feel dazzling.
Truly powerful people do not talk about achievements, and they can still be sought after and respected.
British female writer J· K Rowling became famous after Harry Potter sold well.
But the reader never waited for her next book, it turned out that she had already changed a pen name, and wrote a new book, "The Call of the Cuckoo", and was successful again.
She said:
I just don't want to exalt myself with the glory of the past.
Not showing off is your absolute recognition of yourself.
Just like a saying circulating on the Internet, the more a person lacks something, the more he will show something.
Mature rice has always bowed its head; people who are really rich will not show off everyone.
As the saying goes, there are people outside people, and there are mountains outside mountains.
What you are proud of may seem to others to be just a small object that is not worth mentioning.
You think you're very knowledgeable, but you're just going to get an axe.
A person's maturity is not to show the mountains and dew, to hype themselves, but to be calm and unhurried, low-key and calm.
02
There is no complaint about suffering, it is cultivation
In 1990, in the boiler workshop of Fuyao Group, there was a high-quality student who graduated from Beihang Airlines.
He was so thin that he had to use a scooter every day to pull one or two tons of discarded glass from the workshop to the garbage heap and dump it.
It was the dirtiest and most tiring job for the whole group, and it was a chore.
Everyone else did not understand this, and some people advised him to resign early, and there was no need for a talent like him to hide in such a dirty workshop.
When he came to the interview, he thought that he could be a clerk the most unfortunate, but he did not expect that Cao Dewang only looked at his resume, turned around and threw it into the trash can, and said expressionlessly, "You go to the boiler workshop to pull the scooter."
The young man worked in the workshop for seven years without complaint.
Seven years later, Cao Dewang called him to his office to talk and asked several questions in a row:
A graduate of a prestigious university, does not feel aggrieved to do things in the production workshop? Why not think about leaving?
He said:
There are definitely grievances, but I will adjust my mentality.
Most of a person's life is spent working hard and doing miscellaneous work, and these ten or twenty years of miscellaneous work are to let others understand you, so that you can have the opportunity to do something important.
Whether it is work or life, we will inevitably encounter all kinds of bad things.
But blindly complaining, can not solve any problems.
Instead of self-hatred and self-abandonment, it is better to turn every grievance into an upward driving force.
As Mencius said:
Heaven has sent great responsibilities to the Scythians, and they must first suffer their minds, strain their bones and bones, starve their bodies, empty their bodies, and act in a disorderly manner, so they will be tempted to endure and gain what they cannot.
If you want to wear a crown, you must bear its weight.
The sufferings you encounter and the grievances you swallow are actually to fulfill you.
There are two kinds of results for a person to suffer, one is consumption, and the other is harvest, depending on what kind of posture you use to bear.
The fool complains about the world, but he has eaten the defeat of life;
The wise man is silent, and finally he can come to the extreme.
03
Bad things are not debated, it is wisdom
Writer Zhou Guoping once said:
Life must have uncompetitive wisdom.
The road of life, do not argue with rotten people, do not get entangled with broken things.
In the movie "Let the Bullets Fly", there is a bridge section that makes me feel very deeply.
Xiao Liu ate a bowl of cold powder in a small restaurant.
Unexpectedly, this happened to a bad thing: he was framed for eating two bowls of cold powder.
However, Xiao Liuqi argued with people, more and more people were watching, and there were also people with sinister intentions who were booing around.
He was anxious in his heart, and he couldn't argue with it, that is, he was unwilling to bear the charge of giving less than a bowl of powder money.
Finally, he actually cut open his abdomen with a knife, and pulled out a bowl of bloody cold powder from it, proving to everyone: "Is there only one bowl of powder?" ”
The truth came out, the spectators left, and he collapsed in a pool of blood, never to wake up again.
Winning a bowl of powder, but losing a life, is not worth it.
There is also such a plot in the TV series "Heavenly Path".
Ding Yuanying went to the breakfast restaurant to order a bowl of wontons, and as soon as he walked out of the door on his front foot after eating, the hostess stopped him and said he hadn't paid.
He paused, looked at her for two seconds, didn't say a word, and still gave her the money.
But another customer said that I had just seen him pay for it as soon as he came.
The lady boss opened her mouth and was planning to fight back, but she didn't expect Ding Yuanying to leave without looking back.
In his eyes, instead of fighting for bad things, it is better to save time and do something more beneficial.
Xiao Liu and Ding Yuanying are also facing the framing of the shop owner, but they have a very different ending.
The former had to fight for right and wrong, and died on the spot; the latter confessed to paying and drifted away.
As Nietzsche said in The Other Side of Good and Evil, "When you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes at you." ”
The best way to avoid falling into the abyss is to stay away from the abyss.
The more you dwell on one thing, the worse situation awaits you later.
When encountering bad things, take a step back and not dwell on them is the best way to deal with them.
Instead of competing for meaningless things, focus on yourself and live your own life.
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I like a sentence by Yu Qiuyu in "Looking for China":
If the pattern of human life is large, it will not sink in trivial matters.
Walking in the world, whether you are happy or not, does not lie in the creation of fate, but in the height of seeing things and the pattern of handling things.
When a person has seen mountains and seas, he will not be bound by the small things in front of him.
Whatever you've been through, don't let it put a shackle on your heart.