A friend openly asked Dr. Wang a question: Because of the slight anxiety, my parents want to give up on me from the previous concern. Why? Now it's so uncomfortable, I want to cry!
From the beginning of the headache for two years, during which you can still go to school, you can also work in the summer, and then you still have a pain to go to the examination. The doctor said that it was mild anxiety, the doctor prescribed medicine for me to eat, after taking the medicine, I could not learn, I could not go to work, and it was still the same when I broke the medicine, and I could only be at home every day. After that everything got worse, the relationship at home began to deteriorate, and I am in particular pain now, not knowing what to do, how to change.
It may have been mourning its misfortune, but now it is a little angry. I am Dr. Wang, and in addition to being an AIDS doctor, I am also a counselor.
In particular, you can feel the discomfort, sadness and helplessness in your heart. I am sick and sad, and because of this, I will cause family conflicts, so that family relations are no longer harmonious, and I will feel very remorseful in my heart. Not being understood by parents now, nor being supported by parents, will be helpless and disappointed. But it doesn't matter, there will be an answer to any question, and we'll talk about this part slowly later.
From another point of view, the current state of parents can also be understood, after all, they have no psychological background. In the beginning, parents saw your uncomfortable state and hoped to help you solve the problem through doctors, they thought that illness could be solved by drugs, and medicine to disease was the general public's understanding of common diseases. But there are some problems that cannot be alleviated by simple drugs, such as psychological problems.
We do not deny the effect of drugs in relieving anxiety symptoms, but the root of psychological problems lies in cognition, cognition is not adjusted, and the source of anxiety may always exist. It's like that passage, the surgeon only pulls out the arrow that is exposed on the outside, and the one buried in the skin does not belong to me, but what is buried inside the skin is deadly.
But what my parents saw was that I had already found a doctor for you, and the medicine had been prescribed to you, so why didn't you get better. The frivolous skins you are worried about are simply disease-free moans and worries. I even wondered if you didn't want to go out of the house, so I conceived of a lot of dangers and symptoms that didn't exist. So they will go from caring at the beginning to complaining now.
In fact, this is not to blame the parents, because this is the part that the whole nation needs to improve, that is, mental health literacy. People's cognition of psychological problems may also come from the simple and intuitive interpretation of mental disorders. In fact, the two are not a concept.
Psychological factors account for 70% of all factors affecting health, which is a recognized concept at home and abroad. And in fact, people may have psychological problems in their lives, which is very normal and common. Because it is not synonymous with a mental problem, these are two completely different concepts.
If the human psychology is divided into a big division, it can be divided into normal psychology and abnormal psychology.
Abnormal psychological part is what we often call mental problems, of course, not limited to mental disorders, but also include cognitive disorders, emotional disorders, will-behavior disorders, etc., and mental disorders can be subdivided into schizophrenia, mood disorders, personality disorders, stress-related disorders and so on.
The normal psychological part can be divided into two parts: normal and healthy and normal but unhealthy. We often say that psychological problems are the normal but unhealthy part, and I often describe the state of the mind with a cold. Because it is very common for people to have colds in the body, it is not uncommon for people to have colds in the soul.
But I guess your parents don't have that much background knowledge, and it's normal that they don't understand your state.
So let's talk about what we do. Dr. Wang provides some direction, but the person who really wants to practice is you, on the road to change, no one acts for you, unless you yourself have the will and action to change.
First of all, you need to be neurological to rule out whether you have somatic lesions, which is the premise of all subsequent actions, and whether the headache is caused by neurological lesions needs to be the first to be clear.
If somatic lesions are ruled out, it will require a psychiatrist to assess whether your current state requires medications to control anxiety symptoms. I always emphasize that medications make sense for controlling more severe emotional states, including anxiety and depression. And once you take the drug, you should gradually reduce the amount of drug under the guidance of a doctor, do not stop the drug yourself, otherwise there will be withdrawal symptoms, which will be more uncomfortable. There will be side effects such as dizziness when starting the drug, but it may be relieved slowly. Moreover, do not think that once you take the drug, you can't stop, as the symptoms gradually ease, the mentality is slowly adjusted, and the drug can be slowly reduced until the drug is stopped.
At the same time, the most important part of solving the problem from the root is the adjustment and change of cognition. This part of the background information you provide is not much, but I think that friends who have psychological problems will have some common problems, similar to AIDS, such as from the perspective of personality characteristics, strict self-requirements, easy to pursue perfection, thinking mode is easy to be absolute on themselves or everything is easy to think in a bad direction and so on. This part needs to be adjusted through professional psychological intervention, if the current conditions do not allow, you can consider reading some psychology books, and then gradually adjust.
Anxious people are usually worried about what didn't happen, and they seem to be constantly imagining those bad outcomes and panicking. Just think, how many of the bad results we once envisioned actually happened? If most of them don't happen, it means that our ideas may not be realistic, and the next time we encounter a similar problem, we should be aware and remind ourselves how to conceive is more reasonable, and slowly we adjust to a more reasonable perspective.
In addition, in my previous article on AIDS, I mentioned some universal methods, such as relaxing the requirements for myself, thinking about everything in the direction of being close to the facts, and insisting on exercising. Because exercise can not only strengthen the body, but also effectively relieve emotions, develop a specific and feasible exercise plan, and strictly implement it. (The title of the article is: Four methods for curing AIDS phobia, you can refer to)
If you can, calmly communicate with your parents, indicating that you are also very painful inside, and your parents do not understand that they make themselves more uncomfortable, and strive for the understanding and support of their parents. But if the parents don't understand, don't be too disappointed, the reason I have explained very clearly, they have no psychological background, according to their understanding you are a disease-free moan. And the hardest thing in the world is to change others, and all we can control is ourselves. See the facts, and we won't be too sad.
Come on, I wish you an early exit from the shadows and a return to normal life!
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