Text/Wei Chen
When people get along with each other, the most indispensable thing is respect.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they must keep a distance, and the relationship without a sense of boundaries will inevitably become a disaster after a long time.
Good relationships can make people easy and happy, and bad relationships will only make people heavy.
People can't get too close to each other, and once they get too close, friction will occur.
Keeping distance is a form of respect. If you look closely, people are more willing to show their good side to strangers, and often don't say anything in front of acquaintances.
People who live thoroughly know how to grasp the scale of getting along with people at all times, neither too close nor too far.
Each of us is an independent individual, and we can't stick together because of good feelings.
No matter who you get along with, getting too close is a disaster, especially the following 5 relationships, it is best to keep an appropriate distance.
Leave a private space for your partner
Freud once pointed out that what adults need is love and work. This shows that in good love, in addition to the love between each other, it is also necessary to leave room for each other to work.
Many people think that partners should be absolutely honest with each other, and there should be no privacy left behind, and many conflicts occur precisely because of this honesty.
If you want to maintain intimacy for a long time, you must leave your partner with personal space.
Excessive stress can make the other person breathless.
Love does require sacrificing some freedom and privacy, but good love does not make people lose their freedom completely.
The balance of security and mystery tests the trust and respect between partners.
Everyone is not a perfect individual, and the closer you get, the easier it is to find each other's problems, and at the same time, they will be found by each other.
Leaving a private space for your partner is a smart choice in love.
Keep a bowl of soup at a distance from your parents
Many people think that in this world, except for their parents, everyone else is an outsider. In fact, the more one thinks this way, the less likely one is to embrace happiness.
Huang Haixian, a famous psychological counselor, once said in "Happiness Lesson": "There is no perfect person in this world. And there are two sources of our imperfections: one is an imperfect parent, and the other is an imperfect self. ”
If a person wants to change his life, he must learn to be himself, get out of the control of his parents, and open a new world in life.
This is not to teach us to stay away from our parents, but to properly keep a bowl of soup at a distance that we can tolerate and understand companionship, but cannot fully listen to and execute.
I believe that there are no parents in this world who do not love their children, but there must be parents who make mistakes, and everyone's cognition has certain limitations.
They want their children to be blue more than blue. For this expectation, we should also force ourselves to grow.
Keeping a bowl of soup away from your parents is the best distance.
Separate from relatives by a door
Relatives are most easily driven by emotions to intervene in things that should not be interfered with.
There will be relatives in everyone's life to a greater or lesser extent, and in this group, there will always be people who do not know how to grasp the distance between each other.
As the saying goes, it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs. However, there are some relatives who especially like to intervene in other people's family conflicts, and good relationships eventually become enemies.
Being a person, being warm and kind is a good thing, but being too enthusiastic and kind will become a burden for others.
We cannot treat kinship as we please in the name of being good to others.
People are self-aware, and they should stand in whatever position they should stand in. Once you're in the wrong place, anything you do is wrong.
Relatives should keep a distance from each other, and "knocking on the door" is the most basic respect.
Don't treat friends too casually
Don't treat friends too casually, especially friends who are very good friends.
There is never a real "indifference" in this world, don't ignore the other person's "it doesn't matter" because of it.
Too many people in life make the mistake of thinking that they don't have to entertain well, so they treat close friends very casually.
In fact, to be treated casually at any time is to be treated casually is to not care.
The ancients were cloudy, and the prosperity was declining. It is intended to tell us that when a thing is developed to the extreme, it will begin to develop in the opposite direction.
The same is true of the relationship between friends, if the relationship between a pair of friends has reached its peak, then they are likely to turn against each other because of some small and inconspicuous matter.
No matter how good the relationship between friends, do not snub each other, you must consider each other's feelings.
After all, feelings are irrational things, not only in family love, but also in friendship.
Not treating friends casually is the key to maintaining a good friendship.
Do not exceed the rules of the superiors and subordinates
In the workplace, in addition to the rules on the surface, there are many unspoken rules.
Communicate with colleagues, try to avoid pulling out your heart and lungs, and don't confuse the relationship between colleagues and friends.
As far as possible, colleagues should only talk about work, not personal feelings, and must abide by the rules between superiors and subordinates to do not exceed the rules.
Xiao Zhang was once the assistant of the leader, and because of his personal ability and high work efficiency, he was very popular with the leader.
In the eyes of colleagues, he is a big red man in the company, and in the eyes of leaders, he is a powerful assistant.
Even so, Xiao Zhang was eventually dismissed by the leader.
The reason was that once, after the leader had undertaken a mission, he not only failed to implement it, but also made a claim to improve the content of the project. Although the ending was a happy ending, he lost his job because of it.
Leaders need high-performing employees, not another leader.
No matter how capable a person is, he should understand in the workplace that he cannot change the arrangements of his superiors without authorization.
Things that are out of line cannot be done, even if it is well-intentioned, it will cause unnecessary disasters to yourself.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
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