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Feng Xiaoqin is not a completely bad person, nor is she a completely good person.
She's just a woman who's used to thinking with low-level thinking.
astute
A foreign sister, who became the daughter-in-law of Shanghai, she is very shrewd.
Pregnant before marriage, married to Gu Lei, gained a firm foothold in Shanghai, and easily realized the dreams of many low-level women.
Honest Gu Lei became Feng Xiaoqin's springboard, and she continued to use it.
Calculate
With Feng Xiaoqin's own efforts, it is difficult to buy a house in Shanghai, but buying a house is Feng Xiaoqin's ultimate dream.
As a housewife, Feng Xiaoqin has paid a lot for the family, and these payments are counted in Feng Xiaoqin's heart, and she can use these payments to obtain money from her family.
Forcing Gu Lei to borrow money from his sister and father was Feng Xiaoqin's plan to use the Gu family to complete his dreams.
8 years of housewife, dedicated to the family for three generations, she has a plan.
Blind
Feng Xiaoqin is a very strong woman, she hopes that she can buy a house in Shanghai, take her parents and brother over, settle down in Shanghai, completely become a Shanghainese, and complete the class leap.
Therefore, she forced Gu Lei to go to the financial accounting certificate again and again to contribute a little to her goal.
Forcing Gu Lei to borrow money from his family, he wanted to realize his dream through the efforts of others.
Her efforts have turned dreams into castles in the air, and they have become wasted efforts, which is the so-called blind busyness.
In the end, he also lost Gu Lei and became a widow, and his life in the Gu family became more difficult.
selfish
Feng Xiaoqin is selfish, which is also the most common underlying thinking in our lives.
She used to think about problems from her own standpoint, borrowing money, buying a house, and examining financial certificates, these were Feng Xiaoqin's own ideas, and Gu Lei did not have such ideas at all.
When Gu Lei borrowed money from his sister, Gu Qingyu had already seen through Feng Xiaoqin's idea and said that he wanted to buy a house.
When Feng Xiaoqin learned that Gu Qingyu had given up buying a house, she personally ran to borrow money from Gu Qingyu, and the loan was 1 million.
A woman who borrows money to buy a house, her heart is thinking of herself, and there is no sense of boundaries.
In the lower class, many people have no sense of boundaries.
The mother-in-law can live in the daughter-in-law's room in order to save air conditioning costs, and Feng Xiaoqin can also let her sister live in the Gu family for several years.
There are too many things like this, Feng Xiaoqin desperately tries to please the Gu family, work as a cow and a horse in the Gu family, she feels that she has done the job of a nanny, and others should take out a lot of money to buy a house for her.
To put it bluntly, this is selfishness, and everything is a "favor" imposed on others in order to achieve one's own goals.
What kind of family is the Gu family? Who is Gu Qingyu?
They are not stupid, they understand these underlying thinking.
Many people say that Gu Qingyu is guarding against Feng Xiaoqin, in fact, not only Gu Qingyu, but also Old Lady Gu and Gu Shihong are also guarding against Feng Xiaoqin, which is Feng Xiaoqin's own doing and cannot complain about others.
After Gu Lei's death, Feng Xiaoqin had a hysterical quarrel with Gu Qingyu, which was her frustration of stealing chicken and not eating rice.
Feng Xiaoqin is like a woman who uses too much force, she pins her hopes on others, and the final disappointment is inevitable.
In "Do you know if it should be green fat red thin" In Xiao Qin's life is like this, she pins her hopes on her husband and son, and as her hopes are disappointed again and again, she eventually falls into the sea of fire and ends up depressed.
Feng Xiaoqin's counterattack
After Gu Lei's death, Feng Xiaoqin gradually understood.
She knew she had to support her son on her own, so she delivered food and began to care for the widows and widows at work.
Her thinking changed.
When this wish was shattered, she found that there were a group of widowed elderly people who were worse than her, and she began to have empathy.
Looking for Zhan Xiang's help to create a nursing home, although she is very weak, her image of hard work is indeed very moving.
After graduating from junior high school, she began to look up information on the Internet, write project plans, and go to the streets to understand the psychology of the elderly, and her execution was great.
In the past, she used her execution power on Gu Lei, and now she has added enough horsepower to herself.
With the construction of the nursing home, she arranged everything in an orderly manner, and even learned financial knowledge herself, and later won the favor of a rich second generation.
An affordable man with a house, a car, and a job is placed in front of Feng Xiaoqin, and if he is in his twenties, she must marry him without blinking an eye.
However, in her thirties, after the storm of buying a house, after The death of Gu Lei, and through the hardships of her own work and entrepreneurship, she changed her thinking.
She also tasted the sweetness of pinning her hopes on herself and completing it little by little, and her bottom thinking of "marrying a man and marrying a man dressing and eating" has undergone a great change.
Her requirements have become higher, and she wants to meet the ideal lover in her heart.
Judging from Feng Xiaoqin's appearance, I think Feng Xiaoqin is the most attractive at this moment.
She is not in a hurry to marry, nor is she in a hurry to buy a house, she takes her own path step by step, although the gu family's defenses are still there, but she recognizes her own direction.
Her direction is to earn money to buy a house by her own ability, to raise the little tiger well, and Feng Danian's life is also within her consideration, but she has to come step by step.
Because of the lessons of the past, she also understood that it is better to rely on others than on herself.
Therefore, now Feng Xiaoqin is transforming step by step.
Is this like most people in our lives?
With the grind of life, no longer whimsical, no longer daydreaming.
However, I also think that Feng Xiaoqin is smarter than many of us, and she can wake up, but many people in life still do not have such a wake-up.
They are selfish, small in pattern, eager to rely on others to change something, spend their own efforts in trivial matters, live aggrieved, calculating, and making a mess of their mood.
Such a life could have changed, only because they were eager to be profitable and liked to take advantage of a little profit, so they repeated this life day after day without changing.
In the end, the youth was delayed and the years were wasted.
Feng Xiaoqin's counterattack reminded them that life was originally for themselves, and in their thirties, they should no longer desire to get anything from others, but know how to get what they want from themselves.
The things given by others are marked with a price, only the things they give match their own efforts, don't think, step by step, it is much simpler than a step to the sky.
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