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01. Preface
When people live for a lifetime, they inevitably have to deal with people. Good relationships are like musical notes, and only when two people compose together will they compose a beautiful piece of music.
Managing interpersonal relationships is a science, whether it is friendship or love, it needs to be paid for by each other.
If, in a relationship, there are more moments for one party to "hot face and cold ass", then the relationship between them is also precarious.
Good feelings require two people to operate together and maintain them with their hearts. Between each other, etiquette and exchanges, in order to let the feelings flow for a long time.
"Life is just like this" said: "Life is just like this, and do and cherish." You will always be your own protagonist, don't always play a supporting role in other people's plays.
On the road of life, the people we meet may be passers-by, or they may be people who accompany us all their lives.
Passers-by, always in the years, quietly bid us farewell. When a person slowly stops contacting you, perhaps the fate between them has been exhausted.
02, no contact, is the beginning of estrangement
On the road of life, we will meet all kinds of people. Some people, no matter the wind and rain, no matter how much suffering, are willing to walk side by side with you. However, there are still some people, at some point in time, who realize that they have not been in contact with each other for a long time.
When a person begins to slowly stop contacting you, it is actually the beginning of the weakening of friendship between each other.
In "The Most Beautiful Time to Meet You", Yang Fangfang and Guo Yang began a long-distance relationship after confirming their relationship.
At the beginning, the two people had close contact, and they felt sweet and happy in each other's hearts. However, because they are too far apart, the connection gradually becomes less and less.
Guo Yang began to slowly reply to the news, sometimes not even for a few days, and finally found that Guo Yang had already changed his mind.
Whether in love or friendship, when a person starts not to contact you, it is actually beginning to alienate you.
If you don't connect, it's the beginning of fate.
In fact, no feeling can withstand perfunctory, nor can it withstand a long wait. People who really care about you will always find ways to contact you and care about you.
And when a person begins to slowly stop contacting you, perhaps, he has begun to have the idea of withdrawing from each other's friendship.
03, do not contact for a long time, do not bother
In life, maybe the person you meet can just accompany you through a certain stage of your life and then turn away.
Liang Xiaosheng said: "For most people, life is just a bunch of responsibilities. Penetrate this truth, love is the fate, friendship is the fate, family affection, especially the fate, no matter what, should be moistened into a pearl. ”
In life, perhaps the people you meet are just passers-by in life, and when you accept this, your heart will be relieved.
For people who have not been in touch for a long time, please do not complain, and do not feel regrets. Grateful to meet, grateful to meet each other in life, grateful for his companionship and help.
Everyone has their own life, maybe he is too busy to ignore the feelings between you; maybe, because life is too stressful to have the energy to maintain each other's feelings.
When your friends or colleagues, or important people in your life, stop contacting you, don't bother. Not to disturb is to give each other the last decency.
04, people who have not been in touch for a long time, give respect
People live for a lifetime, suddenly remembering the person who has not contacted you for a long time, please stop disturbing and give him respect.
In adult relationships, it's actually very simple. If you don't contact each other for a long time, the action will already say it all. At any time, don't bother someone you haven't been in touch with for a long time.
Because, if you are enthusiastic and do not get a response, it is very embarrassing for both parties.
In this life, the people we meet are only companions in life. It's just that some people only accompany you for a year or two, and some people accompany you for ten years or a lifetime.
When a person starts not contacting you for a long time, there may be reasons and ideas for him. Not bothering is probably the best option.
When a relationship gradually begins to cool down and begins to cool down, please do not bother the other party. There is no need to force a date together, and finally disperse, and even the good memories are no longer there.
People who have not been in touch for a long time, not reluctantly, give respect, and be okay with each other, is a kind of happiness.
05. Summary
On the road of life, feelings are mutual.
If a person's persistence in a relationship is exchanged for indifference, then no matter how active you are, you will only make yourself see the reality more clearly: the other party has long stopped putting you in your heart.
When a person slowly stops contacting you, please don't bother again, otherwise it will be a problem for him or an embarrassment for you.
Get along with people, get out of the way, and learn to let go.
In a relationship, when your efforts are not responded to, you should stop the loss in time and never try to please someone who does not care about themselves.
Between people, the dependent arising and extinction have their own fixed number, so let everything go naturally.
For people who have not been in touch for a long time, keeping their distance and no longer disturbing is the best way for adults to deal with the world.
Time will slowly screen the people around you, gradually sift out those who do not love you enough, and screen out the people who treat you sincerely and walk with you in the wind and rain.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.