Text/Binzhou Middle School Tian Binli
It's a story about people and snails.
God gave me a task to take a snail for a walk, and I couldn't go too fast because the snail climbed too slowly. Although it is already trying its best to climb, it still only moves a little... I urge it, I bluff it, I blame it. The snail looked at me apologetically, as if to say, "People have done their best!" I pulled it, I pulled it, I even wanted to kick it. The snail was sweating, gasping for breath, crawling forward, it was strange... My God! Why? Ask me to take a snail for a walk! But the sky was quiet. oh! Maybe God caught the snail and went! Not at all! All right! Let go! Anyway, God doesn't care, what else do I care about! Let the snail climb forward, I sulk in the back... Hey? Suddenly I smelled the flowers, and there was a garden here. I felt the breeze blowing, and it turned out that the wind in the night was so gentle. I heard birds chirping, I heard insects chirping, I saw how bright the stars were in the sky. Hey? How did I not have these experiences before... It dawned on me. It turned out that God told the snail to take me for a walk... My fingers trembled softly. It turned out to be snails taking me for a walk! After reading this paragraph, I finally understood that in fact, educating children is like holding a snail for a walk.
First of all, we can't "pick up seedlings and promote growth".
The snail was sweating, gasping for breath, crawling forward, and we were still eager to kick him. Even sometimes, we turn that snail into a weeping snail just because it climbs too slowly. We parents "take a small leather whip and smoke it in the back", or drag them away with a "rope", desperately urging their children to move forward, only for speed, not to watch the process. Perhaps this method can allow children to quickly master a certain skill, but at the same time, children miss a lot of beautiful scenery in life. "We are all for your own good", I believe that everyone must be familiar with this sentence. We suffered a lot when we were young, and we wanted our children to be at least better than us, so we turned our children into tools to help us realize our dreams. The parenting concept of "don't let the child lose at the starting line" is not known to whom, nor how to catch fire, and many parents take it as a holy will. They don't know that life is not a sprint, nor a middle-distance run, but a marathon. No one has ever rushed to run a marathon, because it will never "lose at the starting line". What was originally a good parent-child time turned into mutual torture, you felt that the child made you worry, and the child felt that you made him upset. The result of this is like "seedlings to promote growth", and the consequences can be imagined.
Second, go for a walk with the snail's pace.
We need to set a more reasonable and easy to achieve goal for the small snail according to various factors such as its age and personality. My little snail is in the first grade, and it is not too much to describe the scene of writing homework as a chicken flying dog jumping. You took great pains to settle him on the table and chair, and prepare the book and stationery. He said for a moment "Mom, thirsty. "Mom, I want to eat an apple", "Mom's pencil dropped", "Mom's eraser was lost"... You instantly feel like your head is big. After a while, I went under the table, in the cabinet, and made you cry and laugh. Even if you satisfy all his thoughts like a squirrel, he will still bias you. As soon as he wrote a word, he asked you, "Mom, which zombie do you think is more powerful in Plants vs. Zombies?" Do you know? Axe Zombie..." He didn't even think about your answer, he was just diverting your attention. A 6-year-old child, I admire the five bodies thrown to the ground, he has a thousand reasons to divert your attention, let you dare to be angry, make you helpless. In this tug-of-war, it is almost 10 o'clock, the time to sleep is up again, you can't bear to let him sleep badly, you can only give up. So you lost to him again. Am I a nearly 40-year-old person who can't fight you as a little kid? You have your tricks, I have my way. I asked the child, what does he most want to do? He said playing Plants vs Zombies. I asked him what he wanted most? He said Lego. So I made a pact for him about points, and finally solved his problem of procrastination at all. We make a points agreement, write a page every day or remember 5 points a day, read a "Mi Xiao Circle School Record" to get a point, and insist that 60 points a week can be exchanged for their favorite Lego of 60 yuan or less. However, there are cases where points are deducted: for example, not getting up on time, going to bed, brushing your teeth, and wanting to buy what you want. This persisted for a while, and the effect was obvious. Basically he can complete his mission on time and win a time to play Plants vs. Zombies on weekends. My little snail has finally become obedient.
Finally, create a paradise for the little snail and us.
Although the little snail has become obedient, he is still unhappy. Because there is too little time to play, it carries a heavy shell every day. Little snails love nature with flowers and insects, just like when we were children. I don't know if you have ever thought about it, when we were in our 70s and 80s, we didn't have anything, playing with mud and rolling iron rings, and we were so happy. Today's children have everything, but they are not happy. Because they don't have a childhood, they have nothing to linger on except toys. Some experts have said that a happy childhood may be happier than others in this lifetime. People who are unhappy in childhood are healing all their lives. Yin Jianli said in the book: "Childhood is a special time, every child is a pure and beautiful original ecological world, with enigmatic potential and countless development possibilities, the task of education is to develop this potential, and strive to protect personal happiness." Happiness is the greatest nutrient in life. "When you are a child, you don't compete, you can win when you grow up, and early competition will destroy your child's ability to cooperate, will cultivate pathological strivers, and will damage your health." At present and even in the future, people are not competing with the sense of competition, but from a higher level of value judgment, innovation ability, psychological endurance and the courage to overcome difficulties, etc. These golden words have made me find the reason why children are unhappy now is that there is no carefree childhood. The child's various potentials have not been developed, his life nourishment is insufficient, and his ability to learn is naturally discounted. The child is like a tree, you want him to grow well, you have to give him sunshine and rain and dew. You want to get him close to nature, to give him a carefree childhood.
Fortunately, we at the Yun Jing Reading Club have found this piece of paradise. We did a parent-child planting event and the little snail said he hadn't played enough. I asked him what he wanted to play with the most, and he said dirt. I told him that mud and water could build a house, and he built his own world in his land. Children aside, adults are also magically healed by nature. Many of the family members of the Yunjing Reading Club sighed, and when they went there, they always thought about trivial things such as not finishing their work and not washing their clothes. When I arrived, I forgot everything and returned to the freedom and happiness I had when I was a child. Even if they are not familiar with each other, coming here is like returning to their own home. Boys are climbing hills, girls are making dumplings with their mothers, and children say they are wrapping the sun and gold dollars. Moms are pulling together, as if they have found the feeling of the New Year when they were young. In fact, each of us lives very tired and lonely, and at this moment we are back to the simple and friendly warmth between people in the past. Everyone has found the most primitive kind of happiness here, and this is the paradise in our hearts. Let's conclude with a quote from a poem.
A small child, if he is clean and neatly dressed,
If he is well-behaved, this is not a good thing,
If as soon as he opens his mouth, he is good uncle, good aunt, hello, goodbye,
If he can make pears at the age of four, what's the point?
A small child should be rolling around the ground and running around the streets
The face and small hands are dirty, and it should be a little bad, a little disobedient.
He should have been playing aimless games for a long time,
He's a selfish, cute and cruel little creature.
He came into the world to educate us,
Let us grow again, not perish.
What is described in this poem should be what a child should look like. Parents, have you seen the tears of the little snail? Children are the loveliest people we have ever seen in this world, and they will unknowingly show us the first and most beautiful aspects of life. Why don't parents slow down, put their subjective thoughts aside, accompany this little snail to quietly taste the taste of life, and accompany them through this carefree childhood. At the same time, we also give ourselves a little time to take a break from the endless life and enjoy the beauty of nature. Let's happily take the hand of the little snail and go for a walk!
A color of life, a healthy attitude!
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