Wen 〡璐璐日 translation
The quality of lies is an eternal topic, and many people resent lies and insist that they have never told a lie. Everyone has told lies of one kind or another in their lives to a greater or lesser extent.
For example, children who report good news and do not report worries with their parents, and reasonable reasons for leaders to take leave, big words with friends, and children who say that Santa Claus will give you gifts... These are all lies, but can you say these lies are bad?
For example, the lies told by the cheating husband to his wife and children, the lies told by the fraudster to the elderly... These are also lies, can you say that these lies are good?
We know about lies, but there are also misunderstandings. Lies, in fact, are good or bad, good and evil, and we cannot generalize them. To distinguish between good and bad lies, good and evil, the starting point, the process and the result need to be distinguished, and many times some lies are also good and bad, good and evil.
The two lies of Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Qingyu in "Heart Residence" are like this.
▌ Feng Xiaoqin's lies!
Before Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei interacted, they once had a boyfriend who was about to get married, but before they got married, their boyfriend died in a car accident, and Feng Xiaoqin was pregnant with a child. Feng Xiaoqin did not kill the child, but gave birth to him and raised him as a younger brother, and externally called him his own brother.
From the fact that Gu Xiaoqin gave birth to a child without a father to the result of her raising the child as a younger brother, Gu Xiaoqin's decision to give birth to a child is most likely due to young ignorance.
First, she simply could not afford to take responsibility for the child, nor could she take on the responsibility of nurturing and caring for the child, and it was her parents who helped take care of the child after the child was born.
Second, children simply cannot grow up in the right environment, because after the child is born, not only does he have no father, but he does not even know who his own biological mother is.
These two points alone can be seen that Gu Xiaoqin's decision to give birth to a child is blind, ignorant, and even more stupid, selfish and irresponsible. Her decision brought infinite uncertainty to her future life, and she also paid a heavy price for it.
Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei met and knew each other, but until they got married, Feng Xiaoqin did not tell Gu Lei that she still had a child. This deliberately concealed lie is obviously bad and unkind, which also means that Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei should marry with a strong sense of purpose.
But sometimes lies are true, bad, unwholesome, and wrong, but love is not necessarily false. Because human nature is very complex and changeable, whether the lie stems from the fear of loss or from the heart.
Although Feng Xiaoqin was strong and persecuted Gu Lei, it could be seen that she had love for Gu Lei and affection for the Gu family.
But none of this can hide the fact that she lied to Gu Lei, especially this lie that can change the emotional trend of marriage at any time.
No matter how true your love is, no matter how deeply you love, lies are ultimately hurtful and hurtful feelings, and they are the fatal killers who destroy marriage and love.
Since the moment Feng Xiaoqin told Gu Lei a lie to the Gu family, the emotional hidden dangers between them had long been buried, and no matter whether the parties involved knew it or not, they were doomed. Feng Xiaoqin's lies are the source of the Gu family's misfortune.
▌ Gu Qingyu's lies!
Concealment is actually a deception, and it can be regarded as another form of lie.
At that time, Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin fell in love, and Gu Qingyu once investigated Feng Xiaoqin. Gu Qingyu knew the secret that Feng Xiaoqin was hiding before Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin married. After she learned this earth-shattering secret, she wanted to tell her brother Gu Lei. But Gu Lei first told her that Feng Xiaoqin was pregnant, and they decided to get married as soon as possible.
Gu Qingyu's choice at this critical juncture is not to make peace, but to conceal and complete it in good faith. Her well-intentioned concealment and fulfillment seems to be complete and harmonious on the surface, but in fact it has buried an irresolvable contradiction between her and Feng Xiaoqin.
Although Gu Qingyu fulfilled her brother's marriage, she did not accept Feng Xiaoqin's sister-in-law from the bottom of her heart. Her concealment of Gu Lei's family is in a sense a deception and a lie.
She chose to hide the truth to complete her brother, more because she did not want her brother to be sad and desperate, but she never thought that her concealment was the biggest and deepest harm to her brother and the whole family.
As the saying goes, "long pain is not as good as short pain", although Gu Lei and Feng Xiaoqin are in love, although they have children, but the two are not yet married, the two still have a choice.
Gu Qingyu can completely expose the lie and let Gu Lei let his family choose again. In this way, no matter how Gu Lei and the Gu family choose, everyone can live frankly and without bias.
But Gu Qingyu did not have such a choice, she chose to let Gu Lei let the Gu family be in the dark, only she herself was the one who knew. This is bound to produce an irresolvable contradiction, the better Gu Lei's Gu family treats Feng Xiaoqin, the more Gu Qingyu can't see it, the more she feels that she is not worth it.
Therefore, she will not be able to live with Feng Xiaoqin everywhere, no matter whether she does well or badly, right or wrong, she is not looking down, looking down, not recognizing, and taboo. This is a time bomb buried in the Gu family, maybe it will suddenly explode at any time!
Gu Lei died unexpectedly, and the Gu family's time bomb arrived as promised, although the cause was Feng Xiaoqin, Gu Qingyu had an unshirkable responsibility.
This lie that Gu Qingyu hid from Gu Lei to the Gu family, and the lie that Feng Xiaoqin told Gu Lei to the Gu family, were the root cause of Gu Lei's misfortune and the Gu family's distress.
Feng Xiaoqin would never understand or realize that Gu Qingyu's prejudice against himself stemmed from the lies he told.
Gu Qingyu would not realize that the lies he had concealed were the root cause of his brother's unexpected death.
Feng Xiaoqin's lies are true, bad, and unkind. She not only deceived the children and herself, but also deceived everyone in the Gu family. Her love may not be false, but her lies are the bane of hurt.
Gu Qingyu's concealment of the truth is true, although she is out of kindness, but she has not been able to harvest good results. She deceived her family, but she could not deceive herself, and all her words and deeds to Feng Xiaoqin were her heart.
The real can't be fake, the fake can't be true, the lie is that the lie will never come true, and the lie is that the lie is mostly hurtful.
The lies in marital feelings are often self-destructive and harmful, but there are always people who have a fluke mentality, telling lies in plain sight, thinking that what they say is not leaky, and they are concealed seamlessly, but in fact, they have long been seen through.
Everything in the world is cause and effect, and if you plant a melon, you will plant a melon and a bean, and you will sow false causes, which are destined to bear not real results; if you plant evil causes, you are destined to bear bitter fruits. If people want to live frankly and smoothly, they must adhere to a true heart that is not false.