It is engraved in the DNA of modern people, but I never expected that parenting can actually be rotten!
Of course, swinging parenting is not to ignore the child, but in the face of children's crazy demonization, many young parents have learned to respond to changes with no change, children make trouble at will, and parents do not move like a mountain.
If in the past, the child suddenly fell to the ground and rolled, crying and screaming, the older generation may immediately soften down and hug until the child is happy.
But now, there are many parents who use the method of not being moved or even contributing to the situation, the child is making trouble on the ground, the parents are happily playing with the mobile phone on the side, and when the child is enough, it will naturally stop.
What do you think of this method of education?
To some extent, swing parenting can play a role in properly educating children, but most of the time, this attitude of parents will have the opposite effect.
For the child, he does not know whether it is right or wrong to do so, only that the parents will ignore people; for the parents, in the long run, they will lose their judgment in parenting and enter the wrong area of parenting.
Second, the purpose of the child's crying is nothing more than to want to be satisfied, and the parents' inaction will suppress the child's impulse to like it, which will adversely affect the child's growth.
It can be said that such a parenting method is difficult to play a correct guiding role.
So in the face of children crying and willfulness, parents can only be helpless? Of course not, compared to the rotten parenting, one doing four is the parenting method that parents should follow.
One do: To clearly tell the child right and wrong.
Different from the immediate coaxing of the older generation, and also different from the inaction of young parents, one asks parents to clearly inform the nature of their children's behavior, crying and demonizing is not the right way to get what they like, and to educate children the correct way to get it.
The advantage of this is that parents will not be coerced by their children's cries, and their children will not become more unscrupulous, but will use communication and confiding to get what they like.
Four do not do: do not fight, do not scold, do not preach, do not leave.
There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting something you like, scolding is the most severe way of education, and it is certainly inappropriate and undesirable in this matter.
In the process of children's crying, the meaning of preaching is equal to nothing, and the harm of leaving is greater, so the gentle and firm attitude of parents is particularly important at this time.
When a problem arises, it is necessary to try to solve it, and it is just inaction, and it cannot be called a parenting method.
Rather than inaction, rather than paying too much attention, it is better to be simple and direct and effective in the attitude of parents, do not underestimate the child's ability to perceive emotions, their sensitivity to emotions is far beyond your imagination.
Parenting can not be coddled, let alone gambling like a complicity, but with the majesty and love of parents, convey the right and wrong in this world, children can thrive and grow up healthily.