March 21, 2022 was originally World Sleep Day, but this day brings us not peace, on the contrary, bad food. Because, on this day, we experienced a rare air crash in history.
Our dear 132 Chinese compatriots were unfortunately killed in this China Eastern Airlines crash, and on the same day, when I saw the video of the China Eastern Airlines crash, my heart was also very heavy.
At the same time, that day, I was also depressed because of the unsatisfactory things in my emotional work. However, when I think of my compatriots who were killed on March 21, I know that I am still too lucky, as a passage says: If we can escape natural disasters, avoid war, and not meet bad people and not get seriously ill in this life, we are already very lucky, if we can still have family harmony, stable income, and lovers on the side of the friendship, then really thank God.
I believe that you also have such feelings, but the reason is the truth after all, knowing and doing is not the same. I think the older people get, the harder it is to have pure happiness. So maybe after a while, I don't know if I'm going to be sad about something. And I found that lately I really haven't lived so happily, and I often feel anxious, I don't know how you guys are?
To this end, I also reflected on the reasons why I was not so happy. If you and I are in the same way, you may wish to read my article, maybe you will suddenly be enlightened. I thought that a person is unhappy in life, which is nothing more than these three reasons.
01. Desire is too heavy, and the pursuit of life is inconsistent with their own ability
Now our society is developing rapidly, everyone's living standards have improved, and while the economy is booming, people's material desires will become heavier and heavier. After all, this is an era when the Internet is very developed, and you think that if someone shows off their rich life through social platforms such as Douyin and Xiaohongshu, how to live in a mansion, drive a luxury car, carry a brand-name bag and so on.
Human nature also dooms us to be strong and vain, and we don't want others to live too well than ourselves. So when we see others so rich, we definitely can't help but want to compare.
People's desires are endless, with the good wanting better, with the better wanting the best.
As ordinary people, we have no wisdom, do not know how to act according to our own situation, and stop this desire of ourselves in time. So, when we see others living a better life than we do, we must also fantasize about why others can live such a good life, we can't?
As a result, we will also pursue a life that is incompatible with our own abilities. In the end, I found that no matter how hard I tried, I could not pursue what I wanted, but instead I fell into the endless abyss of desire and dissatisfaction.
02. Not loving yourself enough
There is no doubt that some of the people who are not so happy must have suffered from depression or have had depression.
Speaking of depression, this reminds me of what psychologist Wu Zhihong said in "Chinese Love and Love": Depression is an ultimate punishment for people who do not love themselves.
At the end of the day, you're not living that happily, you're too virgin. You think about others everywhere, but few people care about your feelings, so the person who is hurt is always yourself.
03. Caused by personality, coupled with really bitter fate
Since ancient times, we have known that Lin Daiyu in "Dream of the Red Chamber" is a sentimental character.
Lin Daiyu is a smart woman, and Lin Daiyu's personality is also very sensitive. Coupled with the fact that Lin Daiyu's life was really bitter, when Lin Daiyu was very young, her mother died away from her. Therefore, Lin Daiyu lived a more pessimistic life and was not so happy.
These are the top three reasons why I think many of us are unhappy. In this article, I am not exhorting everyone to be content and happy, saying that at least compared with those compatriots who died in the disaster, we are lucky, this is not my intention.
I just want to tell you, you have also seen, from the beginning of our human beings, many things are not controlled by ourselves, what circumstances we are born into, when we perish. Everything is fate, half a point is not up to man.
I am not a fatalist, nor am I teaching people to succumb to fate. Rather, I want to tell you that compared with everything in the universe of heaven and earth, our human strength is so small and not worth mentioning.
I don't think you want too much, want too much, what's wrong? If you have to say wrong, then you can only say that you are not smart enough or capable or that you are not a genius. As for your personality, it is really fateful, and even if you don't love yourself enough, I don't think it's a serious thing, after all, it happened to you, and you also bear the responsibility.
The public is suffering, and I just want you to understand that you have to know what you want, and it is not the most important thing to live so happily. Emotional value is actually the cheapest kind of value, you look at it, those who really have a pursuit of life, have requirements for themselves, how can there be no pressure, no anxiety, no pain, let themselves live very happy?
So even if we don't live that happily, we don't have to feel anything bad. It is normal to live less happily, and sometimes it proves that we are indeed people with blood and vitality in this world. It is precisely because we work so hard to live meaningfully that we have moments of unhappiness, and living unhappy is also a manifestation that proves our value in this world.