Friday, March 25, 2022 Rainy
The right way to open a sister-in-law relationship
Chasing the new drama "Heart Residence" (a bit of a twist), the fifth episode Gu Lei died unexpectedly, I have to say that the big sister Gu Qingyu in the play has to be complained about.
The key characters involved in this article are: the eldest sister Gu Qingyu (played by Tong Yao), the younger brother Gu Lei (played by Yao Yiqi), and the younger sister Feng Xiaoqin (played by Hai Qing).
In the fifth episode, Gu Lei's death, his sister Gu Qingyu should bear the greatest responsibility, why?
First talk about the plot of the fifth episode: About the sister-in-law Feng Xiaoqin insisting on buying a house, Gu Qingyu has been guarding in her heart, she told Gu Lei that his name must be added to the real estate certificate, after all, Feng Xiaoqin is smarter than Gu Lei, will plan for herself, in the future, in case there is any other heart, ten Gu Lei can't get her, now there is a sister living on Gu Lei, what if she takes her brother over in the future.
Feng Xiaoqin heard their conversation at the door and was so angry that she packed her bags and left. Gu Lei went to chase, Feng Xiaoqin let Gu Lei let go of his hand, pulling Gu Lei accidentally fell down the stairs, just hit the neighbor put on the glass downstairs, Gu Lei fell in a pool of blood.
Although Gu Lei was rushed to the hospital for rescue, he died due to excessive blood loss and ineffective rescue.
His father, Gu Shihong, fainted on the ground on the spot, and the sudden accident caused the Gu family to grieve.
After the funeral, the grief-stricken Grandma Gu pushed Feng Xiaoqin to the ground and blamed her for killing Gu Lei.
Judging from the first five episodes, the death of his brother seems to have a direct cause with Gu Xiaoqin. However, if Gu Qingyu had not thrown his brother behind his back, perhaps the tragedy would not have happened.
It is this sister Gu Qingyu who usually does not look favorably on this foreigner who marries into her family, and with colored glasses, she is sure that Feng Xiaoqin marries his brother is a plan, and her family is a Native of Shanghai.
Therefore, her attitude towards Gu Xiaoqin has always been high and dismissive, even if this sister-in-law has worked hard to serve the family for four generations, she still believes that she is a cunning woman, and she feels that her brother is not the opponent of her younger sister.
She also used various family affairs to provoke the relationship between her brother, father, grandmother and younger sister Feng Xiaoqin, until in the fifth episode, she secretly warned her brother to beware of her younger sister's words that happened to be heard by her younger sister and caused her brother's death, and the happiness of the family was broken.
At this point, the plot pushes the position of the sister-in-law in the family relationship and the family contradiction to the climax.
It can be said that the drama "Heart Residence" is very grounded, truly reproducing the subtlety and non-negligible relationship between sisters and sisters in real life.
Looking around, there is really no shortage of such sister-in-law, and her way of doing things will really affect the relationship fission of a large family.
Writing this, a memory sealed in the depths of my mind suddenly flashed.
There is one family in our village, and there are four sisters + sisters-in-law. The first daughter-in-law who married back in the family was tall and cheerful. According to their family, this sister-in-law is very numb (the meaning of the dialect is not clear). So when the sister-in-law quarrels with her parents/brothers, the sisters-in-law will flock to beat up the sister-in-law, sometimes on the street.
Later, the sisters-in-law married and left home one after another, but the contradiction bought deep roots, so that the relationship between their brothers and sisters-in-law and their parents was deadlocked for a lifetime.
What I want to say is that as a sister-in-law, whether it is before or after marriage, you should not point fingers at the affairs of your mother's family, after all, it is your brother/brother (parent) who lives with your daughter-in-law (daughter-in-law), cold and warm, they know themselves, what you see may not be the real situation of things, what you can do is to persuade and at least to shut up!
Moreover, one day you will definitely change your role and become the daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law of someone else's family, do you want your sister-in-law to provoke trouble between you and her family?
Of course, the death of Gu Lei in the play does not mean that Gu Xiaoqin is not responsible, no one is perfect, she has her small citizens to do the pie, but she also has the right to make decisions about her own life! As a big sister, Gu Qingyu, whether she is not accustomed to her behavior, or does not want to help her, should not chew the root of her tongue behind her back.
As the saying goes, home and everything is happy.
In the face of family problems, the correct way for the sister-in-law should be to speak out her dissatisfaction and suggestions openly, and then face and solve them together as a family. Do not do anything wrong, and do not intensify family conflicts behind the scenes.
What is even more excessive in the play is that after the death of his brother, Gu Qingyu not only did not reflect, but also continued to burst into flames in front of his father, saying that his father was wary of his brother not being in his brother's sister's remarriage and transfer of property.
Fortunately, the father at this moment is more rational, he told his daughter: managing the company and living at home are two different things, you are very good, in the company to carry clear, calculated fine, but living at home can not be so clear.
People cannot be resurrected from the dead, but I hope that Gu Qingyu can finally wake up and be kind to his younger sister Feng Xiaoqin.
Finally, a few suggestions for the sisters-in-law:
First, do not provoke the contradiction between parents and daughter-in-law, it is best to be a peacemaker in the mother's family;
Second, you can't provoke the relationship between your brother/brother and your daughter-in-law, after all, she is the relative who will accompany your brother/brother for a lifetime;
Third, filial piety to your parents is your duty, if you can't honor your parents, please don't be picky about the sister-in-law/younger sister who accompanies your parents;
Fourth, be grateful and kind to the person with the foreign name who marries into your family and does filial piety for your parents.
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