Author | Fan Deng Reading · Zong Mengya
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
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Meet · Meet your unknown self in the book.
Good evening to all book lovers, welcome to the reading column "Encounter" produced by Fan Deng Reading.
It is said that the dream of the Red Chamber, which cannot be read endlessly, is read shallowly, this is the love of children in a courtyard; reading deeper, this is the rise and fall of a dynasty.
No matter when I read dream of the Red Chamber, every time I cover up the scroll, I always think: "There is a real taste!" ”
This is Dong Qing's evaluation of "Dream of the Red Chamber" in an issue of "Readers".
This is the pinnacle of ancient Chinese novels, and the wisdom contained in it is beneficial to each of them for life.
Qianhong cried, and Wan Yan was sad.
Cao Xueqin began in "Dream of the Red Chamber", laying the groundwork for the tragic fate of the women in the Red Chamber.
Daiyu's tears are exhausted, Baochao's solitary empty boudoir, and the fragrant jade of Yingchun disappears...
In the past, the sisters laughed and laughed, drank and wrote poetry, but later their fates were different and scattered.
There is a woman among them, and her fate is even more tragic and lamentable.
She is a "natural special thing" in Baoyu's mouth, born with a flower and moon appearance, a graceful woman; but she died lonely and sad, silent.
She is You Erjie, whose beauty ranks in the first echelon of the Red Chamber, but her life is like a surprise, fleeting.
Throughout You Erjie's life, her red face and thin life are really regrettable, but her tragedy is the result of personal choice.
Again and again, she only cared about the present, recklessly, and finally irreparable, and lost her life.
Life is like a chess game, and it is not others who play against it, but hidden in the invisible fate.
A closer look at the fate of Second Sister You can be found:
All the indulgences in my youth became a dilemma that I could not escape in the future.
Being too greedy is a disaster
You's second sister is not originally surnamed You, but is the surname of her stepfather.
The Inyou family originally had a daughter, and she and her sister were known as "You Second Sister" and "You Third Sister".
Second Sister You was born with the appearance of a country and a city, although she was not born with a golden key, she was also full of warmth and worry-free, and was held in the palm of her hand and grew up.
But she was not satisfied with this, and she was bent on eating and drinking and clinging to the luxury.
All this is related to the eldest sister Youshi.
You Shi, the wife of Jia Zhen, a leader of the Ningguo Government, has a noble status and a good life.
In the early years, Second Sister You had accompanied You shi to Jia Fuzhong, and she had seen the life of Jia Fu that was prominent and rich and luxurious.
After the death of her stepfather, the family lived on Jia Zhen's help, and Second Sister You was even more fascinated by Jia Fu.
So she twisted her brain and showed a wandering attitude, which made Jia Zhen Jia Rong's father and son confused.
On the other hand, because Zhang Hua's family, who was originally betrothed to her, fell in the middle of the road, Second Sister You persuaded her mother to withdraw from marriage for herself.
After regaining her freedom, Second Sister You set her sights on Jia Fu.
She quickly waited for her chance.
Jia Jing died, as a daughter-in-law, You Shi was too busy, and You Erjie was invited to Jia Fu to take care of it.
In this way, she met Jia Fu's eldest grandson, Jia Lian.
This is a perfect opportunity to enter Jia Province, and You Erjie is extremely feminine, which makes Jia Lian fascinated by her.
When Jia Lian expressed the idea of marrying her, she immediately agreed, just wanting to achieve it as soon as possible.
Second Sister You thought she had something to rely on, but she didn't know that this was her first step into the abyss.
At this time, Jia Lian's main chamber, Wang Xifeng, was still ill and did not know about Jia Lian's secret marriage to You's second sister. You Erjie was placed by Jia Lian in Huazhi Lane, and the two lived a few days of life of you and me.
But bad luck soon came, Jia Lian was on a business trip, and things were revealed.
Wang Xifeng went to meet Second Sister You to test whether she was willing to move to Jia Province.
Second Sister You's greed rose again, and she remembered Jia Lian's promise to "take Sister Feng into the house and help her as the main room as soon as she dies".
Now it was only a little early, and Second Sister You quickly followed Wang Xifeng to live in Jia Province.
Obsessed with the rich and noble township, the unknown road ahead is dangerous.
Jia Fu is intrigued, and the torrent is surging underneath. Less than a year after entering Jia Province, Second Sister You was tortured and swallowed the gold and killed herself.
In "Han Feizi", it is said:
"Greed is like fire, and if it is not contained, it will burn the plains; if it is not contained, it will burn the plains; if it is not contained, it will be terrible."
You Erjie originally had a stunning appearance, the family was still decent, and she could have matched a Ruyi Langjun and a smooth life.
But she loves vanity and wants to climb the branches. First he put his own name into it, and then he put his life into it.
Greed is insufficient, self-inflicted evil, desire is difficult to fill, and eventually it is eaten back.
Desire always goes hand in hand with risk, and people who want to get more often end up with nothing.
All the gifts of fate are secretly marked with prices
If Second Sister You is at ease living in Huazhi Lane, her bad luck may be avoided.
But the temptation of the title of young grandmother in the main room of Jia Fu is too great, and the rich life of Jia Fu is too dazzling.
Coming from a humble background and being able to sit in the position of The Young Grandmother of Jia Fu is the dream of many girls.
Second Sister You thought that God did not treat her thinly, and she tried to restrain her disposition, wanted to be a good wife, and started over.
But fate seemed to be joking with her, once too easy to get, and ultimately too quick to lose.
After entering the Jia Mansion, Wang Xifeng burst into tears on her front feet and promised to treat her sincerely and be commensurate with her sisters.
The back foot smiled and hid the knife, and the face was warm and cold, so that You Erjie could taste the pain of Houmen.
Wang Xifeng arranged for Second Sister You to have a maid named Sister Shan. Sister Shan watched people cook and had a cold attitude towards Sister You.
Sister You lacked head oil when she dressed up, and asked Sister Shan to go to Sister Feng to get some. Sister Shan replied to her:
"Second grandmother, how come you don't know how to be blind?"
Then Sister Shan was a set of murderous words, taking Sister Feng to suppress Sister You, and Yin and Yang said to Sister You in a strange way:
"We're not married by the Ming Media..."
Sister You's request was invariably met, and she faced sneers every day. What you eat is also full of leftovers and unbearable things.
The intense physical and mental torment caused You Erjie to fall ill quickly. She was emaciated and sick.
Even in the midst of illness, no one pitied her, jia lian had a new favorite Qiutong, and was hot and cold to You Erjie.
She began to pin her hopes on the child in her belly, the child's hope for her survival and her only lifesaver.
But the quacks were incompetent, resulting in the miscarriage of You Erjie. She lay dying on the hospital bed, and outside was the harsh insults of Qiu Tong.
Second Sister You was finally overwhelmed, opened the box, took out a piece of raw gold and swallowed it, ending her life.
There is a sentence in Zweig's "The Severed Queen":
"She was too young to know all the gifts of fate, and she had already secretly marked the price."
Second Sister You thought she was married to Jia Lian, and Wang Xifeng promised to be commensurate with her sisters, and she was the consummation of her life.
But there is nothing in the world that gets for nothing, and behind every bargain, there is a huge trap.
Do not seek the blessings of non-sharing, do not covet the unprovoked gains.
Taking every step in a down-to-earth manner is the correct way for ordinary people to manage their lives.
The most sober way to live in the world is to recognize yourself
In addition to greed and shortcuts, there is another important reason for the death of Sister You, that is, to overestimate yourself.
As early as when Sister You was temporarily staying in Huazhi Lane, the next person had reminded her not to provoke Wang Xifeng.
Second Sister You didn't think so, she was proud of her appearance and morality, and said, "I only treat him with courtesy, how dare he!" ”
This sentence reflects the desire and ambition of Sister You, and also reflects her simplicity and innocence.
Wang Xifeng's family is prominent, and she has decisive killing and thunderous means, so her position in the RongGuo Mansion can stand firm.
And You Erjie is beautiful, has no means and no wisdom, and a subordinate person can't deal with it, how can she gain a foothold in Jia Province.
You Erjie's handling philosophy has only one word for forbearance.
For Feng Jie'er's two-sided and three-bladed, forbearance;
For the humiliation and bullying of the next person, endure;
For the fingering and discussion of the people in the house, bear with it.
Jia Lian's newly married concubine Qiutong was inferior to her in terms of birth, status, posture, and virtue, but Second Sister You was still ostracized and bullied by Qiutong.
Qiu Tong scolded her, extremely filthy words, her reaction was "secretly ashamed and angry, and did not dare to complain."
In the face of the oppression of Sister Feng and Qiu Tong, Sister You only felt that her fate should be like this, and she pinned her hopes on the heavens.
Cornered, she committed suicide in all kinds of grievances.
Lao Tzu once said:
"Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise."
The length of the confidant, the shortness of the self. Judge the hour and size up the situation, and act according to your ability.
When we do not have the ability to take responsibility for our own choices, we should not choose easily, so as not to ruin the rest of our lives by a momentary impulse.
As the saying goes: "No diamonds, don't do porcelain work." ”
If you want to sit in a higher position, you need to constantly cultivate your own ability.
Write at the end
Second Sister You willingly fell into depravity step by step, married Jia Lian, and lived in Jia Province.
Every choice has become a dilemma that he cannot escape in the future.
Life is like a chess piece, every step must be carefully considered and cautious.
Not only because there is no regret in the fall, but also because it is possible to take a wrong step and lose everything.
Milan Kundera once said:
"Never think we can escape, every step we take determines the end, and our feet are moving towards the end of our own choosing."
Life is like a chain of buckles, a ring of links, and every little thing it experiences will have an impact on the future and spread endlessly.
Blind greed will lose the big because of small things; if you want to get something for nothing, you will finally give it back; if you can't recognize yourself, you may suffer a painful price.
Every step that has been taken will be "liquidated" in the future; and every step taken now is a layout for the future.
Only those who recognize themselves and have a long-term vision can truly take charge of the overall situation.
Life is made up of countless choices, and we need to be sober at all times.
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Author | Zong Mengya, determined to be a Shanghai drift girl with thoughts and temperature
Column Director | Come slowly
Typography | Zheng to the north
Image | The pictures in this article come from the stills of the 87th edition of "Dream of the Red Chamber", which was invaded and deleted
Music | "Frowning"