My old classmate, when their children were young, the person they were most afraid of seeing was my husband, and when he saw my husband, the child would cry and cry. The old classmate asked him if he was afraid of this uncle? The child did not say anything, and hid in his mother's arms one by one.
At that time, we used to joke that my husband looked fierce and evil, and the children were afraid. Later, after I had in-depth contact and understanding in the field of parenting, I found that children cried when they saw some people, not that people talked about it scarily, but there were some reasons behind it, as parents, we must understand.
First, the baby has reached the "recognition period"
When a small child enters the recognition period, it is easy to cry when he sees a stranger. But this kind of crying is not provocative, as long as it is an outsider, his uncommon children may be scared to cry. As for the older generation's statement, saying that the child cries may be because he has seen something unclean, etc., this is not very scientific.
On the contrary, from a scientific point of view, the life of a child is actually an instinctive self-protection response, which shows that our children begin to have a certain understanding of familiarity and strangeness. It is a manifestation of a child's growth.
Second, when the baby recognizes the birth period, parents should do this
When our children enter the recognition period, parents must give their children enough hugs, care and companionship, when the child's sense of security is satisfied, the child will be more mentally healthy, when seeing strangers, they will not cry.
In addition, for the baby to see strangers do not cry, no trouble, parents must give the child more, affirmation and encouragement. On the contrary, if the baby cries when he sees a stranger, parents should not say that the child is a coward, and do not criticize and blame the child.
In addition, we recommend that all parents can give their children the opportunity to contact strangers, take their children to some places and environments, and have more contact with other children or outsiders.
Third, it has a certain relationship with the baby's perspective
Some children cry at the sight of certain people, mainly because the child has a different perspective than we see, and when the parent holds the child in his arms and keeps the child in a level-headed state with the stranger, the child may not cry again.
Of course, there is also a saying in the folk that when you say that two people are not in harmony with each other, they will feel very uncomfortable. This point we also do not rule out, indeed, there is also a magnetic field between children and adults, when a child sees an adult instinctively crying, it means that the child is not resistant to this adult, it will form a strong emotional contrast.
In short, children cry when they see strangers, and we parents should not blindly blame children for being timid, but should find the reasons behind it and then solve it in a targeted manner.
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