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There is a problem that says: a mother did not get close to her child for a month because of the epidemic isolation and work, and as a result, after the isolation was over, she was with her child again and found that the child who had slept together for two years did not recognize her mother and wanted to go with her grandfather.
The child's mother is very anxious, thinks that she is the first place in the child's heart, and is eager to grab this first place back.
My reply is this: Think about it in turn, if the child sleeps with the nanny until the age of two, after the dismissal of the nanny for a month, it can also be taken with whom.
Kids don't just do that.
I don't know what some mothers are anxious about.
The so-called "baby's favorite mother can not be separated from the mother", just some women forced to add to their own drama under the action of hormones.
Whoever brings the child is the mother, and the milk is the mother.
And most children can't remember what happened before they were two years old.
Now the facts are in front of us, not that children cannot do without their mothers, but that some mothers cannot do without their children. Especially inseparable from the child's attachment and love.
This is an important source of happiness for this part of women.
Fortunately, this case is a parent.
If it is a child sticking to the mother-in-law, the mother is estimated to hate it.
Why bother.
The child is the child of the whole family.
Children will have their own lives.
He just came into this world through your body.
Thinking about it yourself is much better than torturing others and torturing children.
Your children have their own preferences, and then sooner or later they will be independent.
As parents, it is enough to do that "when he needs his mother, his mother can be relied upon".
Others are just satisfying our own anxieties and needs, not meeting the needs of our children.
After I posted this article, someone told me a private message + an appointment to chat: If only I had known me earlier.
Yes, I get a whole bunch of them every day if you had known me earlier.
So pay attention to my little friend at least push me and the people around you, so that the people you care about will cry and say to me one day: If only I had known you earlier.
It's a very depressing and heavy story.
The heroine is 31 years old, divorced, and her daughter is 7 years old.
I now find that the trajectory of the unfortunate is traceable.
When I didn't have a firm foothold in society, when I didn't see how big the world was, I hurriedly selected a person, even if I felt that something was wrong with this person when I got along.
Then cover your ears and deceive yourself into thinking that it will be good to get married in the future, and the problem will naturally be solved.
After getting married, I found that the problem was not solved, still refused to stop the loss in time, continued to be blindly optimistic, and felt that it would be good to have children in the future, and the problem was naturally solved.
Her question is very critical.
In fact, people who pay attention to me know what is the veto on my side.
This man is not throwing stinky socks at this level of talk, but the core willingness to pay is too low.
Men with low willingness to give are about the same as not being human on my side.
But if these people are fooled: When you are my daughter-in-law, I will give you the salary card, and when you have given birth to a child, I will put all my money under your control.
Some people are really willing to waste precious first marriage places with him, waste precious fertility opportunities to bet that he can not be trusted.
I don't think smart people and people with small chips should gamble.
If you insist on gambling, it must be that the other party casually gives some pocket money at the moment is far greater than the money earned by working hard in the workplace, which has the value of gambling.
In short, after having a child, I found that the other party really did not intend to fulfill the promise. So what? Break your teeth and swallow them in your stomach, carry the child back to your mother's house.
Hurt the child, love the child, in the mother's house until the child is three years old before going out to work.
The whole family fights together to make chicken babies.
Helplessly, the scumbag's bloodline is too strong, and the child is neither good-looking nor smart.
Although the child is born without a father, after going to kindergarten and elementary school, I always have to ask who my father is? Where is it?
The whole family does not have a unified caliber.
The child's grandfather told the truth - your father is a scumbag, does not want to raise you, and does not give a penny of child support.
The child's mother is afraid of the child's psychological pressure, and even weaves a beautiful dream for the child - your father is a big hero, but unfortunately died in the line of duty.
So since there is no unified caliber, the child still hopes to pick up the piece he wants to believe to believe, after all, there is a heroic father who unfortunately died in the line of duty than a scumbag father to say it decently.
As a result, the fruit picking was too fierce, and the child had just entered primary school, and his father came to pick the fruit.
Direct tracking lock, see stitches in contact with the child.
After the child's mother found out about this problem, her mood was complicated, and she had a strange expectation in her heart, thinking that even if she wanted a little child support, it was good, and she half pushed and half closed her eyes.
When the child saw that my father was still alive, the hero was not killed in the line of duty, which was fantastic.
Looking at it again, my dad bought me toys and blind boxes on the end of the box. Sure enough, the hero is much more generous than my mother.
Looking at it again, my father was with me, not a chicken baby, playing with me every day, and said that the homework assigned to me by my mother could not be done. My dad really hurt me and loved me.
Blood is thicker than water, and it took the scumbag three months to pick the fruit. The father's love that was missing for 7 years was completed in three months.
The child didn't hate him at all.
The child's grandparents were very upset about this, and the child's mother argued that we could not deprive the child of his desire for his father.
The most difficult to bring a few years ago the family carried over, but it was useless. The child was turned against him at three months.
This hapless woman cried and said to me:
Toot, you dare to believe that my daughter who stayed up late to feed and nurse her hard work was kissed by her father for three months.
I feel like the effort of our whole family is like a joke.
My dad sometimes taught my daughter that my ex-husband hadn't spent a penny on her in previous years, and my daughter knew that her dad was looking for reasons for her dad.
My dad said he saw through it, and this kid was the man's breed. If you don't raise it, you can't raise it.
I was caught in the middle of it was particularly uncomfortable, very sad.
I was thinking that I had bad luck in my life, and found a man who didn't love me, and as a result, I poured so many hard-earned children from a blank piece of paper, but they would also betray me.
I was too much of a failure.
At that time, his parents did not save him a good wife, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was so serious, he still protected his mother so much, indicating that his mother did not love him so much, but he maintained his mother.
And my parents have paid so much for me, they love me so much, but I am fighting for their love, constantly exploiting them, I am really a bastard.
Now that my mother's addiction is indeed over, I feel that my life has almost stopped for several years.
For my child, it was wholehearted dedication, and these thoughtful considerations for her future were actually not as good as buying a large blind box at a time to buy people's hearts.
She was brought like this by us for six or seven years at such a young age. Her instinct to seek advantage and avoid harm is exactly the same as her father's, and she has no conscience at all. To be honest, after this incident came out, I may not love her as much as before, and I am disillusioned.
Maybe we have all been brainwashed, and the brainwashed mother must love the child, and must dig out her heart and lungs for the child.
Love should be unconditional.
But I was really tired and disappointed.
Now my ex is robbing the kids with me. I think he can move.
Our whole family didn't want to rob him, so he would take such a child with him.
This story is one that makes me not know what to say.
As a teacher training graduate, we take the teacher's certificate to take the pedagogy and psychology.
From a pedagogical point of view, I probably know that some people's education may be tied with some shackles. These shackles make people suffocate and want to escape, which is a technical problem.
From the perspective of psychology, manipulating people's hearts, their whole family is indeed contradictory and has no principles. And the other party in view of the psychological characteristics of children of this age who do not want to be delayed in satisfying, the right medicine, heavy punch.
Children don't have a perfect view of right and wrong, but they do know who to be comfortable with.
And most children are profit-seeking and avoiding harm. The so-called child is more clingy to the mother, and it is most likely that the mother is more willing to provide more attention and satisfaction when he has to rely on humans.
As we age, whoever can provide greater attention and satisfaction can replace this unique position.
Note: The attention and satisfaction goals that humans need at each stage are different.
It is foolish to carve a boat and ask for a sword.
I have repeatedly emphasized the idea that I think of: the child, he is not an angel, he is a human being. Very cunning, human beings who will seek profit and avoid harm.
Before being taught to be human beings with independent three views, they had a very strong animal nature.
The so-called education is also a means and process of civilized domestication of their animal nature.
I hope that everyone will load more pedagogical psychology into themselves, and don't think that I can mistakenly hit a child who is always clingy with a single heart.
Find out your own purpose, find out the needs of the other party, find the right way to achieve your own goals, and do anything should be this idea.
I said you're only 31 years old and you can start all over again.
She said it hurt too much, I didn't dare.
I've always felt that people who are too naïve and optimistic about their human nature may need to make up lessons before they get married.
At least learn to protect yourself.
Being stabbed by his beloved biological child is really too hurtful, and he may not be able to get up with such a stab.