When we are young, we always look forward to growing up, thinking that when we grow up, we can live freely and live the life we want.
But until I really grew up, I found that the life of an adult is not easy except for getting fat and losing hair.
Without the trouble of studying, I began to have the trouble of work, and I no longer had to spend time with my disliked classmates, but I had to maintain a superficial peace with my disgusted colleagues.
It seems that everyone has their own unsatisfactory places, and life always cannot make us completely comfortable, but the difference is that for some people, even the biggest difficulties can only be faced by themselves.
If you are also this kind of person, have no friends around, and have thin family affection, then insist on doing these four things.
1. Self-affirmation
When a person is in an "isolated" environment, there are no friends to complain about, and no family to comfort and persuade, it is easy to self-deny.
I think that I must be not good enough to keep everyone away from myself, leading to the current situation, but in fact, it is just that everyone has three views, just like when a person who loves coriander is at the same table with a group of people who do not like to eat coriander, the former will always seem out of place, but it is not his fault.
Everyone has the right to choose, others can choose their own social circle, you can also choose to love yourself a little more.
Don't deny yourself too much because of the attitude of others, everyone has a shining point, you have to find your own advantages, and self-affirmation, so that you will become more and more confident, and confident people, always emit a kind of light, help everyone can get the life they want as soon as possible.
2. Work hard silently
There are no friends, and there are no relatives who have good relations, most of these people have no spare time, and there will be a lot of free time, and how to spend this time has become the key.
Some people will give up on themselves, simply stay at home, the door is not out of the door, play some nutritious games, or read some novels without chewing heads, and further close their world and their hearts.
In fact, at this time, everyone should learn to use these times, find the direction they are interested in, and silently work in this direction.
All success is not achieved overnight, there is no effort, everything is empty talk, and you just have the time conditions for hard work, instead of wasting these precious time on useless things, it is better to use it to improve yourself, enrich your spare time, and improve your material life.
3. Broaden the circle of communication
A person has no friends, perhaps only because the people he meets at present are people who do not conform to his three views, so he cannot communicate deeply and become close friends.
No matter what kind of personality people are, they will not be a unique case in this world, there will be a group similar to themselves, and finding this group is what everyone should do at the moment.
Don't lock yourself up easily because you don't have any friends, this will only make your world more lonely and lonely, we should learn to do the opposite, the more lonely the more you have to go to the crowd, so that you can find another lonely person, in order to have a companion.
It may be that in the process of broadening the circle of communication, people will feel some discomfort, but this is inevitable, in any environment, there will be uncomfortable factors, and what we have to learn is to ignore these uncomfortable factors and pay more attention to the factors that make us feel happy.
4. Introspection
The most terrible thing about people is not to achieve nothing, but to be too arrogant and arrogant, and at the same time of self-affirmation, everyone must also learn to self-reflect, otherwise it is easy to go into the other extreme and become the object of everyone's dislike.
Self-reflection is a process of fully understanding oneself, standing in the perspective of the bystander, to examine the problems that arise in oneself.
Everyone will have shortcomings, some shortcomings are harmless, but some shortcomings will have a serious impact on everyone's life, in the current situation where interpersonal relationships are not good, you may wish to see if there is a self-factor in it.
If there is, try to correct it, if not, it is also a wake-up call for yourself, only in continuous self-reflection, everyone can become a better self.
In fact, in the end, no matter what it is, it is just to make everyone better, and when you are good enough, there will naturally be people who will come closer to you.
At this time, you seem to have your own magnetism, constantly attracting others, they either worship, or admire, or appreciate, or may be just jealousy, but it is certain that at that time, you must be surrounded by people, and you are no longer alone.
Even if you don't achieve such an effect in the end, at least when you become more and more excellent, the material life can get better and better, and one of the constituent elements of happiness includes the material, so it can also improve everyone's quality of life from the side.
Which way you go is hard, but as long as you follow your heart and live a look that you like, even if it is hard, it is worth it, even if you are happy in pain, it is the best life, may you have mud under your feet and light in your heart.