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Her friend Xiao Xu was in the group, crying and crying to share things about her and her husband.
Before getting married, she always thought that her husband loved herself, but now that she thinks back, she thinks that she was too naïve and ridiculous.
Before the husband got married, there was a special sports group, which was full of badminton enthusiasts, and when he usually got off work and when he was added, everyone would play sports together and play badminton.
It was originally a very normal thing, but one of her husband's actions made Xiao Xu feel abnormal.
One day, Xiao Xu accidentally found that her husband actually added all the ladies in this group, and when there was nothing to do, her husband would often chat with them.
Xiao Xu saw it, naturally very angry and jealous, but the man was ashamed and angry, accusing Xiao Xu of not trusting him and always feeling that he was unfaithful to his feelings.
Xiao Xu brought it up, and even if you didn't have cattiness in your heart, then you invited me to this group and let me see what you usually talk about.
Xiao Xu's words completely made the man lose face, he had a big temper tantrum at Xiao Xu, and even threatened that if Xiao Xu must join this group, then he can only choose to break up.
Xiao Xu, who loves men deeply, is naturally reluctant to break up, and the two stumble into marriage like this, and Xiao Xu has always thought that his love for men can make men change completely.
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As everyone knows, 9 years of marriage to the present, but she found herself, is the person who is hurt the most.
From marriage to the present, men have become more and more indifferent to themselves and more and more neglectful of themselves.
He gave the best temper to the people outside; he gave the best tenderness to the people outside.
Himself and his children, however, endured his worst attitude, worst temper, most violent language, and most Cold War way of life.
Everyone said that Xiao Xu was very happy because she had a personable husband, and she had a husband who had a particularly good temper, gentle and considerate husband.
Xiao Xu was almost speechless, because only she really knew what this man really looked like.
He can have a very good attitude towards people on the outside, but he is grumpy in the face of himself and has no patience at all.
He can speak softly to others one second, and then accuse Xiao Xu in the next second.
Xiao Xu comforted himself in the group: "Although my husband is not good to himself and does not seem to love himself, he is still good to his children, and he still cares about children, after all, children also need a stable home. ”
A friend asked her in the group: "If someone calls your husband to go out to play, but the child also needs him, what will your husband choose?" ”
Xiao Xu replied without hesitation: "Then he will definitely choose to play." ”
If a man really cares about a person, cares about a child, he is willing to sacrifice his hobbies, is willing to sacrifice his time, to accompany another person, rather than when two choices conflict, he only gives priority to his own choices, this is not love at all, this is obviously a kind of selfishness.
The "top performance" of a man's love for a woman is that he is willing to fulfill you.
Because you like to eat spicy, he doesn't like to eat, but because of your liking, he is willing to fulfill you, he is willing to eat with you.
Because you like to watch suspense movies, he doesn't like to watch, but because you like, he is willing to fulfill you, he is willing to follow you.
Because you like to stay at home, he doesn't like it, but because you like him, he is willing to give up outside socializing, getting along with friends, and honestly accompanying you at home.
This is the "top performance" of a man's love for a woman.
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A man will show disgust and impatience when he does not love a woman, and he is not willing to give up any little benefit to himself for the sake of this person.
If in anything, the man chooses something else, not you, you must ask yourself whether the relationship is good and there is a need to continue.
Men truly love a woman, only willing to give women top performance, willing to give women top tenderness, willing to give women top growth and concessions.
If a man chooses someone else for everything, and everything is about another thing, you have to believe in your feelings, he really doesn't love you, so whenever, you are at the bottom of the list.
You have to understand that a man's love for you will never be hidden, and a man's love for you will never be hidden.
If a woman is always entangled in whether a man loves herself or not, in this emotional problem, she can't make herself better in this life.
Because the really powerful woman has already seen through love and has already seen through human nature.
Seeing through does not mean that women no longer believe in feelings, women no longer expect happiness, but she is still willing to choose love after seeing through the nature of marriage and the weaknesses of human nature, she is still willing to choose happiness, but when the crisis occurs, she will not choose to be self-deceived or self-deceived.
Sometimes letting go early is also the best protection for yourself; letting go early is also a kind of pampering for yourself.
For the rest of your life, to be with a man who really hurts you, what you have experienced in this life is worth it.
And the "top performance" of a man who really loves you, in fact, is only two words - completion.
His willingness to love you well is already the greatest fulfillment and protection for your happiness.
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