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As the saying goes, "The Son does not teach, but the Father is at fault." When children have problems, often the parents' education is not in place, this sentence is understood by everyone, but in reality, many people cannot do it.
In life, boys are bold and naughty, especially 4 or 5-year-old children, they are always prone to trouble, or do some strange things, it is simply "cats hate dogs".
However, most children have basic cognition and know the measure of doing things, but the little boy below has done a lot of things that children have not "experienced".
Nucleic acid queue scene, bear child into the front of the girl's skirt bottom
Not long ago, some netizens posted a picture of a queue for nucleic acid testing somewhere, and the action of a young boy in the picture triggered a lot of hot discussion among netizens.
As you can see from the picture, people are waiting in a long line, waiting for nucleic acid testing, but suddenly a girl's scream breaks the calm of the scene.
It turned out that the reason why the girl screamed was because she was scared by a little boy, and she was waiting in line for a nucleic acid test, but a little boy in the back suddenly burrowed into the bottom of her skirt.
The girl was very frightened when she found that the little boy had slipped into the bottom of her skirt, and in a panic, she quickly grabbed the little boy out of her skirt, and when the boy came out of the bottom of the girl's skirt, she did not realize how absurd her behavior was just now, and even looked around in a daze.
During the whole process, there was no little boy apologizing to the girl, and the boy's parents did not appear from beginning to end, leaving only the girl in front of her with a red face, and had not yet reacted from what had just happened.
The content of the comments section is even more excessive than the behavior of the bear child
Although this matter was finally resolved, this group of photos caused a lot of hot discussion on the Internet. Most netizens are accusing children of lack of discipline, drilling the bottom of girls' skirts in public is a very excessive behavior, parents must strictly discipline.
But there are still people who use "he is still a child" to float a sentence, and even some netizens still think: Who let girls wear skirts? There is nothing wrong with the child's actions. I have to say that such three views are simply more excessive than children's behavior.
We often say, "There must be a bear parent behind a bear child." Such a distorted three views of adults is undoubtedly a "booster" for children's wrong behavior. Those who think that children are just naughty, that the fault lies in the fact that women are dressed too little, and even ridicule them, in essence, their three views have been distorted.
A child's behavior can very accurately reflect whether his family education is qualified, and educated children are polite everywhere they go, while uncultured children will always bring harm to others.
And this kind of distorted parents with three views, the children brought out not only have irregular behavior, but will not face up to their mistakes after they make mistakes, but also think that "the victim is guilty", and they will be more unscrupulous in their future behavior.
Is it ignorance or lack of education for children to "drill the bottom of their skirts"?
It is undeniable that those children who are still in the early childhood stage of gender consciousness has not yet been fully established, they lift the skirt of the girl more out of the psychology of "to play", which is no different from hide-and-seek for children, and is an unconscious exploration.
Like tuanzi mother dabao when he was 3 years old, he also liked to drill my skirt, like to touch the fabric of the skirt, the same reason, the curtains at home he is also playing like this, often drilling into the peekaboo cat, so in the child's consciousness, there is no difference between drilling skirts and drilling curtains, it is a way to cover their own bodies.
But even so, I stopped the child from behaving like this and told the child that it was a very impolite move, and the mother would be very angry.
And those children who still lift their skirts and drill the bottom of their skirts when they reach the age of 4 or 5 are not only ignorant and naughty, but more are the lack of parental education, which leads children to do such embarrassing things unscrupulously.
How to avoid this kind of embarrassing and impolite behavior in your child?
The "sex education" for children is in place
Generally speaking, when the child goes to kindergarten, parents should use appropriate methods to popularize the most basic sex education for the child, such as the difference between the male and female bodies, and the parts of the body of themselves and the opposite sex that cannot be shown to others.
When children have these basic consciousnesses, their behavior will naturally be standardized, and they will naturally not do such impolite things in public.
Deviations in behavior should be strictly educated
For those older children, if they will also lift the skirt and drill the bottom of the skirt, it means that the behavior has deviated, and parents should stop it at the first time, and give a severe punishment to clearly tell the child the bottom line of the behavior.
Tuanzi Mama wants to say:
In short, it is absolutely impossible for children to lift skirts and drill the bottom of skirts, which is tutoring; and boys cannot drill the bottom of other people's skirts, which is not only a tutor, but also a matter of character.