"Tomboy" does not look like a girl, how to do it? Baby gender education, 4 tricks to teach you how to guide correctly

Girls are obsessed with Ultraman; boys love princess dresses... These daily behavior preferences of the baby will make parents worry and uneasy: "the fake boy" is not like a girl, how to do it!

Will the son not be masculine in the future?

Will there be a problem with the baby's sexual orientation? ......

Stop, stop, stop! There is no absolute relationship between your baby's preferences and gender awareness! Let's talk about it today - how to carry out the baby's gender education.

First, the different stages of gender cognition

Children's gender-aware stages:

1~2 years old (gender recognition stage):

Learn to distinguish between men and women by observing sounds, costumes, etc. For example: aunt = long hair and skirt; uncle = short hair and pants (but in this era, it is a little difficult to identify men and women by appearance)

3 to 4 years (gender stabilization stage):

They will accurately describe their gender; they will also look for "gender role models" by observing their parents or others to form gender cognition.

After 5 to 7 years of age (normal gender stage):

Gradually understand: gender does not take the change of appearance as the standard, and obtains the recognition of "gender constancy". You can feel the social rules and will tend to do things related to your own gender.

Second, how to correctly guide gender education?

1, instead of excessive anxiety, it is better to accompany intimately

First of all, when children explore and recognize their gender stages, parents should not be too early and overly anxious. For example, the fact that the male treasure suddenly likes pink does not mean that he will develop into homosexuality. Gender expression does not equal sexual orientation.

Second, pay attention to the influence of the family environment and parenting style. Children's behavior patterns, personality preferences, and cognition of gender roles often come from observation and imitation.

If you want the male treasure to be more masculine, the father can take the child to participate in sports;

If you want the female treasure to be more ladylike, the mother can accompany the child to play chess and calligraphy.

2. Strengthen personality traits, not gender traits

The previous educational concept was: boys should not cry, girls should be gentle. In fact, there are genders between men and women, but there is no difference between men and women in personality.

There is no need to force children to suppress the expression of emotions. Education without gender bias can help children form a "gender equality" and a healthy and objective gender consciousness.

In life, there is no shortage of quiet and introverted boys and bold and cheerful girls

(For example, someone else's husband, gentle personality, superb cooking, and will also bring a baby!) These "women's specialties" are just as enviable in men)

3. Break stereotypes

If you find that baby boys like dolls and baby girls like cars, don't need special corrections, and don't rush to put a "gender label". It can be guided like this: try to provide a variety of toys for the baby, not classified by gender, such as building blocks;

Through picture books or imitation games, such as: working mothers, fathers with babies at home, male nurses, female policemen, etc., let babies understand the diversity of gender identities.

Let the child's personality be more developed, without being limited by gender tags.

4. Satisfy children's curiosity about the body

The cognition of the body is very important. If mom and dad don't guide scientifically, children will explore on their own.

When the child shows curiosity about the body, parents can generously explain to the child: the difference between the girl's and the boy's body; and remind the body is private, pay attention to protect their privacy.

Q&A on sex education

1, the baby likes to touch the private parts, will it cause precocious puberty?

A: For babies, touching private parts is actually as natural as touching the eyes, nose, and ears. This is normal and does not cause precocious puberty.

Usually, babies begin to like to touch their genitals at the age of 1; 3 to 6 years old is the high incidence of touching the genitals; 6 to 7 years old sexual development enters the incubation period, and the "small action" of touching the genitals will gradually stop on its own.

Parents can help the baby gradually reduce "self-touch" by diverting attention and other ways. Remember not to scold your baby loudly! It will backfire.

2, boys love to cry, is it a sign of weakness?

A: Some parents will secularly think that boys should be strong, crying is a squeamish performance, will be loud reprimands, rough stop.

In fact, the frontal lobes of boys' brains develop more slowly than those of girls, causing them to be more emotionally vulnerable. Impulsive and fragile contradictory physique will make some boys cry more, which is a normal manifestation of emotions.

Whether it is a boy or a girl, a child who dares to face "vulnerability" and expresses emotions normally is stronger and more powerful.

3. Can Dad bathe baby girls?

A: For small babies, parent-child bathing can promote parent-child emotions. But parents of the opposite sex must know how to "give way" at the right time.

Generally, after the daughter is 3 years old, it is not suitable for bathing with her father; mother and son bathing together, it is best not to be more than 5 years old.

For same-sex parents who are not around or single-parent families, children can be taught to bathe themselves as early as possible.

Dad must be strong, something can only be his own? Mom must be gentle and can't be too enterprising? Male or female, just biological sex, can not be used as a gender label.

While correctly educating children, adults should also eliminate gender discrimination and stereotypes in order to truly achieve gender equality.

The best gender education for babies is the common love and companionship of parents.