Half a year before the fall school in September, another batch of children are going to kindergarten, and parents with school-age children have begun to struggle with how to prepare their children for kindergarten.
How can children quickly adapt to kindergarten? And have fun? This makes every parent who has the right age to enter the kindergarten anxious.
As the saying goes, "the same rice raises a hundred people", each child's innate disposition and the family environment in which they grow up are different, and their personality and temperament are also different.
Some children are born with good adaptability, strong learning ability, optimistic and lively personality, strong social skills, and love, such a "perfect child", I believe that where to go can quickly adapt, do not have to worry too much about parents.
And some children are born shy and introverted, inferior and cowardly, poor social skills, go to kindergarten must take longer to adapt, such children after school, must need more attention and guidance, in order to happily accept school life.
Children have different temperaments, and the kindergartens around us are also diverse, so analyzing their children's personality traits and future growth needs, and correctly choosing a kindergarten that is suitable for their children's personality traits and future growth needs, in order to lay the foundation for children to adapt to kindergarten life faster.
When choosing a kindergarten, put the child's personality traits and future growth needs first, and then comprehensively consider other problems, which is much easier to solve.
01How to choose public and private parks?
Compared with ordinary private parks, public parks are supported by public funds, and teaching facilities, teacher quality and sports venues, as well as children's food, will be the advantage.
But the public park a class of children are generally more, the teacher is also less, generally the care for the child is not so in place, which requires the child to have a relatively strong ability to live independently to a stronger ability to adapt, if their children are particularly adaptable children, then the public park will be a better choice.
The general private park (except for the high-quality, top-level aristocratic private park) is easily affected by the operation of the market, and the teachers, children's food and sports facilities are relatively weak compared to the public park.
However, teachers in private kindergartens, in order to retain students, will generally be more responsible and pay attention to children. For those children who are introverted and have poor adaptability, it is more suitable to choose a kindergarten that pays attention to their children.
Of course, this is not absolute, every school has responsible teachers, there are also irresponsible teachers, there are also private parks in all aspects can be comparable to public parks, which requires parents to inquire and field trips, compare themselves, in order to truly choose a more suitable choice for their children.
02How to choose between expensive kindergartens and cheap kindergartens?
If the economic conditions are sufficient, of course, try to consider the quality of the kindergarten, not the tuition fee.
If the economy is not very generous, the child to go to kindergarten also to consider their own family economic situation, in general, the cost of the child's kindergarten is about one-third of the family income, is a more ideal choice.
After all, kindergarten is only a beginning, followed by primary school, junior high school, high school, if you start from kindergarten, you will grit your teeth to choose the best, at the expense of the quality of life of the whole family, everyone's life is not happy, and finally parents are also easy to indirectly transfer negative emotions to the child, not the result that parents want.
03How to choose a kindergarten that is far from home and close to home?
Kindergartens try to choose those that are closer to home, after all, children aged 3-6 must have enough sleep every day. If the road is too far away, the boat and car are tired, the child's sleep can not be guaranteed, it is easy to affect the child's mental state, especially if the family is the elderly pick-up, the elderly rest is not good, it is easy to transfer negative emotions to the child, the child will not be happy and happy in the kindergarten, and the adaptation process will become longer.
For example, when I chose a private kindergarten closer to home for my daughter, it was based on two reasons:
First of all, my daughter was brought by her grandmother since she was a child, and under the percussive education of her grandmother, she is more introverted, does not know how to interact with people, and is not very confident. After investigation and inquiry, I learned that the teacher of this kindergarten closer to home was more responsible and paid attention to the children. And a child with a personality like my daughter needs more attention in kindergarten.
Secondly, it is close to home, the daughter is the grandmother pick-up, 5 minutes to walk. Children can get up late in the winter, eat a comfortable breakfast, and then slowly walk with grandma. In the morning, the mood is comfortable, and the child is very happy all day.
If you want your child to adapt to kindergarten as soon as possible, in addition to choosing a kindergarten suitable for your child, you also need to help your child prepare for the following aspects before entering the kindergarten:
04 Psychological preparation
It is more difficult for children to directly be interested in unfamiliar things and environments, and the way children perceive is from familiar things to new things.
Ready to go to kindergarten, parents can chat with their children from time to time about the topic of kindergarten life, if there are familiar little brothers and sisters around where to go to kindergarten, you can also let the children play with them, let them talk to their children about the life of the kindergarten.
In the kindergarten open day, you can also take your children into the kindergarten to play, so that children are familiar with the real scene and life of the kindergarten.
If possible, when entering the kindergarten, you can also let the child and the familiar friends around you sign up for the same kindergarten.
In addition, you can also read relevant picture books with your children to guide children to learn to deal with school difficulties, learn relevant interpersonal knowledge, and become familiar with the rules of kindergarten.
05 Preparation for the ability to live independently
Going to kindergarten, children need to live independently, eat and drink Lasa need to solve their own problems, but also independently solve their daily encounters in various difficulties, such as learning to deal with the contradictions between their interactions with their friends, learning to ask teachers for help when encountering difficulties, and so on.
Parents can train their children to handle private affairs independently at home in advance, train children to learn to solve problems independently, and guide children to interact with other children, if possible, they can also guide children to develop their own interests and hobbies, which helps children better adapt to kindergarten life.
06 After entering the school, how to help children alleviate the mood of boredom?
Being able to successfully enroll in school does not mean that the child has adapted to kindergarten. There is also a process for children to adapt. In this process, it is not impossible for children who originally liked to go to school to have some strange disgusted emotions in the middle.
Psychology believes that behind each child's differential behavior, there are hidden normal needs. As parents, we need to listen patiently to our children and find the source of their emotions and the reasons for their differential behavior.
When you first enter school, your child doesn't cry or make a fuss, which doesn't necessarily mean that your child has adapted. Some children will be bored with school after a period of time, and parents also need to learn how to help their children alleviate their boredom.
For example, when my daughter first started kindergarten, she also seemed to adapt quickly, and it was very pleasant to go to school and leave school every day. But two months later, my daughter began to say to me every day that she didn't want to go to school, and every day before going to school, she looked depressed and even cried, and during that time, sending her to school was a difficult thing for her and for us.
At first, we thought that the child was not in school, so we tried to communicate with the teacher, but the feedback was that the child was not abnormal at school.
Communication was fruitless, and we decided to play a "play-as-you-go game" with the child to let the child give us feedback on the situation we encountered at school.
Then, an hour before going to bed every night, we would talk with my daughter about what happened in the kindergarten today, what activities she did, whether she felt happy, etc., and we would also go through the pictures uploaded by the campus space with her. We also play Truth or Dare with our daughter every weekend.
In fact, whether it is playing a playing game with a child, talking to a child about the school situation, or playing a Truth or Dare game with a child, it is all listening to the child, letting the child express her true thoughts in her heart, and let us find the reason for his different behavior.
07 Conclusion
No matter what kind of kindergarten the child chooses, family education is the most important. If a child grows up in a loving, regular, and literate family environment, gains enough security and energy, has an optimistic and positive personality, and knows how to interact with people from an early age, then, no matter what the environment, he can adapt to kindergarten life faster.
I am @ Ai Yang Parenting, working mother, the family has a 5-year-old daughter Xiao Ai Yang, committed to sharing useful and interesting parenting dry goods, let us work together to become better parents.