Talking about the understanding and understanding of marriage, one of my students, he is a 31-year-old mother of two children, especially emotionally said to me, marriage this matter, stupid over the pain to know to treat very hard.
After marriage, whether it is to encounter emotional warming or business, there may be many crises in this process, and we must learn to treat and deal with it in the right way. In the filmmaker's journey, there is such a plot. The affair of the cheating boss played by Xu Zheng went directly to the door, but his wife did nothing, just told Xu Zheng, I saw her put a letter, I did not read. Girls, you can carefully recall the expression of the wife at that time, you will find that in the treatment of the marriage crisis, the women who can calmly deal with it, their hearts are confident and honest, because they know that they have the ability to deal with this matter.
Therefore, a calm and trusting attitude is a necessary condition for facing the marriage crisis, so that even if there is a real problem with marriage and feelings, there is a certainty that it can regain the man's heart. So why? A little doubt and quarrel will gradually lead the relationship to extinction first. Most men can't bear the feeling of guilt, when you argue with his handle, or even threaten him, his inner guilt will be stimulated, and the most likely thing to do is to break the jar and break it. The second point is that when you choose to doubt, in fact, it is equivalent to standing on the opposite side with your husband, the emotional crisis should have been faced by two people together, at this time, your doubts make you not only have to fight with the emotional crisis, but also fight with your man.
So, when you are really facing a marriage crisis, calm this point, it can make you grasp the initiative of the relationship, trust, will help you more easily stabilize her heart. We have always said that when there is a problem, you must learn to communicate with men, but you will still obviously feel that no matter what you say, he will not listen, at this time you will be very angry, tantrum, and even be crying, want to grab her, let her listen to you, but what is the result? He still can't listen, this kind of despair, do you know what's going on? Because you're just venting emotions, not expressing them, you're just expressing them unilaterally and not communicating with him.
What is communication? Communication is that when you are speaking, you can let the other party have the patience to listen to you, you can also express it clearly in a way that the other party understands, and you can give the other party time and space to express it when you need the other party to respond. But some women in the trouble, will only gamble, men ask him at this time, he does not say anything, how to coax is not good, the whole process is saying their own superfluous feelings, then for the matter itself is equivalent to not saying at all, to learn to find a way to empathize with him, serious communication, in order to make the feelings smooth. develop. Of course, it's really hard to guarantee that a relationship will go as we want from the beginning to the future. During this period, you may still encounter snubs, or even encounter infidelity, and you may be in a dilemma in various emotional crises.
So, when men really do something in their relationship that you can't stand, how do you face a returning man? If you really want your relationship to continue, you must learn to pretend to be stupid, and you must also have the ability to turn the page and ask for more favors from him in the future. In fact, the real way of marriage management is in the bits and pieces of life. If you are a smart enough woman, then you can make big things small and small things in the crisis that you are encountering or may encounter, and enjoy real intimacy. When there is a crisis in marriage, smart women should do it