My friend complained to me that his children couldn't be managed at all. Because no matter how the parents coax him, the child does not want to go to the kindergarten in the morning: shouting the child to get up, the child refuses to get up, the parents have a hard time forcibly pulling the child up, and the child refuses to wear clothes and refuses to eat. Even in the end, as soon as the family mentioned going to kindergarten, the child cried.
"Watching the child cry so pitifully, as a parent is also painful." But the children have to go to school, and our family really doesn't know what to do..." My friend threw this problem at me and wanted to ask me if there was any other advice here.
In fact, it is normal for children not to want to go to kindergarten, and the key is that parents should do these 3 points well!
First, clarify why the child does not want to go to school
Some children don't want to go to kindergarten for the simple reason that they don't want to face an unfamiliar environment. New friends, new teaching environments, will make children feel strange and panic, so in comparison, they prefer familiar homes and family friends.
If this is the reason, then Mom and Dad must not be soft-hearted. Only by allowing children to bravely take the first step can children gradually adapt to unfamiliar environments. If the parents repeatedly compromise because of the pain, the child finds that as long as he is spoiled, the parents will not let themselves go to the kindergarten, then over time the child will definitely repeat the same trick, in the future habitual crying and spoiling, no longer willing to obey.
In addition, the child does not want to go to the kindergarten may also be because the child has not been moderately appeased, the teacher has to take care of many children, so the emotions of each child may not be fully covered, at this time the parents need timely observation.
Second, timely changes in children's schools
If he himself does encounter any problems in school, so that the child's age can not face it, then the parents must continue to communicate with the child to help them solve the problem. At this time, parents need to pay more attention to the child's usual performance. Because children at this age are not full of expression, they usually need the guidance of parents to find problems.
And if the child encounters difficulties, parents should not blindly scold the child for not understanding things. It's about bringing it with you whenever you want
Give children a sufficient sense of security, so that they feel that parents can be relied on, so that children can connect with parents and communicate in time when they encounter problems.
3. Preparation before kindergarten
In fact, many children are not adaptable to kindergarten, and it is necessary to train their children from the thoughts and habits before entering the kindergarten. For example, the children's work and rest time after going to kindergarten, the intensity of the content to be learned every day, the self-care ability in the kindergarten, etc., through practice and parents telling their children the daily stories of kindergarten, they will help children understand the daily life of kindergarten in advance.
By the way, in life, parents can also intentionally guide their children to make friends. This child is faced with a new environment and new friends after entering the kindergarten, and the child is not too introverted.
The second is that parents should know that children need time in the process of adapting to the new environment. Therefore, even if the child cannot adapt for a short time and has been crying, parents must have enough patience to persuade and give the child a sufficient sense of security under the condition of fully trusting the teacher's help and communicating with the teacher in time.
Today's topic: When your children first went to kindergarten, did they ever want to go to school? How did you do that? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.
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