With the implementation of the "double reduction" policy, subject tuition has been greatly impacted, but the relative extracurricular interest classes such as art, science and technology, music and sports are booming.
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Today I had an appointment with a friend I hadn't seen for a long time, and when I met, she asked me, "What interest class does your child attend?" Is it an online course or an offline course? Are children willing to learn? ......”
I was a little surprised because she was a more assertive person, and she was rarely seen so anxious when working together before, giving the impression of a working woman who did things smoothly.
Now he is overwhelmed by the child's interest class.
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Instead of answering her question, I asked her do you know your child?
She listened to it for a while, and then complained to me about a bunch of her son's problems, especially if she didn't take things seriously, and she didn't insist on signing up a lot of interest classes.
Listening to her say this, it is obvious that she does not understand her children, she provides children with a lot of conditions that she thinks are good, and then she wants to let the children insist on it according to her wishes, she has never understood the children's ideas and preferences.
I didn't rush to argue with her, just listened carefully to her complaints and grievances, and finally I gave her three suggestions:
First, know your own children. Don't just see the bad side of your child and don't listen to you. Be good at discovering your child's strengths and his uniqueness, and observe and think from multiple perspectives. Getting to know your child well can help him grow better.
Give up trying to control him and give the choice back to the child. Everyone is an independent individual, although he is still only a child, but he also has his own small ideas and his own preferences, so the choice of extracurricular interests does not want parents to think that it is good, it is right, it is necessary for the child to learn, to be selective, to communicate with the child, to stand in an equal position and listen to the child's heart, there will be unexpected gains.
Third, the agreed things must be carried out in accordance with the agreement. If you agree to the child's things, you must strive to do it, and if you really can't do it, you must explain the reasons and give solutions to the child; in the same way, if the child chooses a good interest class, we must also encourage him to persevere. Before the child makes a decision, you can make an agreement with him to insist on, and you must implement it according to the agreement.
As a parent, you must trust your child unconditionally, but not blindly, but based on the knowledge of the child; and let the child enjoy the satisfaction of being his own decision; and cultivate his sense of following the rules by example. So it's not difficult for children to go to interest classes, right?