I LOVE
U DAD
I'm going to exaggerate and blatantly praise my husband.
I was speechless!
I have always wanted to be a chicken baby's mother, but my husband will always be a roadblock and stumbling block on my chicken baby road. Every time I want to register my child for a lesson, my husband will say, "Don't report it, your child needs a lot of time to think and read." ”
I said that the English of the child's school is too simple, should let him usually learn more, like the father will say: "Simple must have a simple truth, the school must follow the child's physical and mental development rules design difficulty." ”
I said that other children do a worksheet every day, we should also buy a copy for the child, like Dad said: "Doing more problems is not necessarily helpful for learning, learning in life is more important." ”
In short, when I say something on the way to the chicken baby, the elephant father will always say, "Not necessarily." ”
Every now and then, I want to reply to him with the letter after the letter O.
There are several main reasons why I have repeatedly lost battles and tried and failed:
First, my old man supports the idea of elephant dad.
Second, my son supports the idea of elephant dad.
Third, I was often persuaded by the idea of a like dad.
But, slowly, I went from being speechless at the beginning to being a peer who fully supported my husband's educational philosophy.
Who understands my anxiety?
Elephant Dad is a proper academic bully, from elementary school to doctorate, has not let parents worry about it. Undergraduate, master's, doctoral, postdoctoral, studied four subjects that are somewhat related but are not in the same field at all, and the reason for choosing them is that he likes them. That's why my family believes more in my husband's philosophy.
But the current society is very different from the post-70s generation of the father, and the competition is now extremely fierce and cruel, and the children of ordinary families are studying hard is the only way out.
I was also anxious, feeling that the children of my friends around me were trying to move forward in the discipline, and my baby was still working with her father on the insect species in the community.
The good mentality of Xiang Dad has always been a strong backing for me and Wa not to work hard in the discipline. He would take me back to think about what we had done for the child from birth to the present. Those little bits and pieces made my anxiety less and less.
Yes, we actually did so much for him~
1. Tell him to learn for pleasure
Since the child was 6 months old, my elephant father and I would take turns reading picture books to him every night. When the children were 3 or 4 years old, we discussed with the children once why we should read. I remember we were in bed, and then each of us said a reason to read a book. I said, "You can learn by reading books." The child said: "After reading books and learning knowledge, you can teach others." Elephant Dad said, "Reading and learning are all about happiness." ”
Hearing this, the child jumped up and said happily, "Yes, it is for pleasure!" ”
That night, we and our children came up with 3 reasons to learn.
The first point: to make yourself happy.
The second point: to make others happy, because what you learn can help others.
The third point: to solve your own and other people's problems.
Recalling this, Xiang Dad said that all children are happy first, so is it not good for children to feel that learning is a happy thing from an early age? Must he lose interest in learning with one exercise book after another?
2. Do your best to support his interests
My baby has a wide range of interests since childhood, and every time she has a new interest, he is inspired to be an expert in this field when he grows up. My elephant father and I never took this seriously, because there was still a difference between liking it for a while and becoming an expert. But we take his every interest very seriously.
When he was fascinated by space, we took him to visit planetariums in various places, accompanied him to bookstores to select books on astronomy, and encouraged him to participate in astronomical knowledge competitions.
Later, he liked to observe plants. We bought picture books, illustrated books, and professional books of various plants for him to study. Every weekend, he brought a magnifying glass, a herbarium, and a botanical atlas to accompany him to the mountains to see the plants. During the holidays, take him from the north to the south, from the south back to the north, observing the plants of different climatic zones.
During that time, he read a lot of books about plants, and he could very easily name their names and attributes for the common plants in Beijing.
Later, he fell in love with bugs. He loves all kinds of strange bugs and takes them to the house to raise. That was the time when my old mother was most afraid. The first thing I do every day when I come home from work is to see if the lid of his insect "pavilion" is closed.
Because he loves insects, Elephant Dad searched the country's largest insect museum in Yangling, Shaanxi. So I found the nearest vacation and took him by high-speed train just to go to the museum.
As soon as she entered the gate, there was a model of a huge spade armor in front of her, and She ran excitedly to hug it. I told my elephant father that if I could walk from the entrance to the exit and skip all the bugs in the museum, then I wouldn't be afraid of any bugs in the future.
During the time when he loved bugs, he looked at various insect pictures. After reading it, I still put it everywhere, and I often look up and see a picture of a "cute" big moth next to my bed.
In order to support the child's interest, I also endured.
Later, he also fell in love with basketball, programming...
He has always loved, and he has never given up on the "transportation system" he still loves.
Every time his interest arises, it is actually related to learning and reading. Both Dad and I will fully support him within our capabilities.
We are relieved that Eva takes his interests very seriously every time. He would take notes on insect atlases, search for plants he didn't know, and teach himself. He would read as many books as possible about children. Later, I also read a large and thick book about the history of the development of China's railways and the history of the development of the Beijing subway.
Remembering this, Elephant Dad spoke. He said: Children's love for these interests, delve into research, and try their best to make their knowledge in these fields more abundant, is not it more proud than the test 100 points?
3. Games: Children who think about the world
Elephant Dad said that children must learn to think, so a game I often play at home is called "Thinking About the World's Child". The game is very simple, that is, me and the elephant father ask the baby questions, which need to be answered after the baby thinks. After Eva finished answering, she asked him if he had anything to add. If not, my elephant father and I gave him another angle of answer.
For example, if we asked wa two countries to fight, if you have the right to choose a way to fight, you will suggest what way to use. She said she could play chess with the smartest people in her respective countries and organize a basketball game.
There is nothing in a child's eyes that a game cannot solve. But my elephant father and I would tell him that the reasons for the war between the countries can be very complicated, and we must first find out why they are fighting.
For example, once The Baby bought soda from the downstairs shop and went home. I saw that the soda had risen, so I asked him: "If there are 5 small shops in our community, 4 of them have increased their sodas, all of which are 6 yuan a bottle." Only one keeps a bottle of $5. The premise is that people in the community will only buy soda at these 5 small shops in the community, and do not consider factors such as distance. What do you think will happen next? ”
Baby immediately asked, "Is this a kid playing with the world of thought?" ”
I replied, "Yes." ”
So he told me very seriously what he thought. I told him about the perfectly competitive market, the rational man hypothesis, and the concept of monopoly in economics.
Whether he can absorb it all or not, as long as he starts the "Thinking World Child" game, Baby will be fully engaged.
Elephant Dad had also asked him dilemmas, and many of them had no answers, but the process of thinking made him enjoy them.
Recalling this, Xiang Dad proudly said: How good it is to be a child who loves to think.
There are no perfect children, no perfect parents, and no perfect education
When he is not on a business trip or overtime, he will take the baby to natural hiking, exercise together, and think of a fun topic to study together. He will also take the baby to participate in public welfare activities, take him on business trips, and take him to experience the world. I know that such high-quality companionship is invaluable to a child's childhood.
She slept in a classroom in USSC because her father was lecturing on stage. Wa also caught bugs in the watermelon field in the countryside of Henan, because Xiang Dad did public welfare research in that village.
Elephant Dad has a career that he loves, he works hard and is conscientious. In middle age, he also maintained his love. In addition to spending time with children, his spare time is also devoted to his love. One weekend morning, our family of three was doing something interesting to each other, or going to find their own good friends.
Although I still think that children need appropriate "chickens" and I will arrange their children's classes reasonably, I agree with the concept of elephant dad that children need to have their own time, and parents must also have their own time.
In fact, what each of us ultimately pursues is nothing more than to live and work in a self-consistent way, and to find the most comfortable state for ourselves.
There are too many difficulties and obstacles on the road to educating children, but a child who loves reading, loves nature, and loves to think will at least not be too bad.
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Elephant Mother Introduction: The diligent little bee of the children's book industry. There is an ordinary 9-year-old baby in the family. Studied nature education and nature restoration in the United States. People in middle age on a whim, the examination of Mandarin certificate, the examination of teacher qualification certificate, the examination of graduate school, the results are still successful.