I have a friend Xiaojie, and the conditions are quite good. Wuxi people, public school art teachers, have a house and a car, originally a small life leisurely, but there is a trouble, the mother and fetus are single, has not been able to find a suitable object.
She is almost the age of establishment, in the past three years, she has been on a blind date with hundreds of boys, and it can be said that the local boys of the right age have met all over and over again, and they have not transformed into long-term relationships for various reasons. The more you see it, the more you see it three or four times, and there is no following.
In other words, the people she likes don't look up to her, and she doesn't like her. She had been looking forward to the other half that made her fall in love at first sight and be happy with each other.
Find that person and everything will be fine. While rejecting the boy who had shown affection, she continued to meet with the next boy introduced by the family. In this way, a cycle is formed, and the bad thing is that the boy who is dating her every year is not as good as the previous year. But her psychological expectations are getting higher and higher.
There's a term in psychology called the "arrival fallacy": once you reach a certain situation, everything will always be beautiful.
Believing in a soul mate is like believing that when you have a fixed job, achieve financial autonomy, or move to a sunny place, you will reap full satisfaction.
This belief can help us maintain hope in dark times, but it only drives away unhappiness, and we can't be satisfied—at least not in reality. Waiting for such a moment to come will disappoint us again and again.
There's an old saying that whoever you marry will regret it. Because no one is a soul mate tailored for us. In the Bible, Eve is the myth of Adam's ribs, which is simply deceitful.
We can only choose a partner who has relatively few shortcomings and can also tolerate our own shortcomings, and then try our best to run a good family and raise children.
If you can all think like this, is it still difficult to get married? #Gender Affection ##Blind Date ##婚 #
