In biblical stories, Adam and Eve were expelled from the Garden of Eden for stealing the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil.
"The more you forbid something, the more you want to get it", this rebellious phenomenon or behavior is called the "forbidden effect" in psychology.
With a little attention, it is not difficult to find that the "forbidden fruit effect" has many manifestations in real life.
For example, the more mysterious something appears, the more attention it attracts; the more things that are forbidden to be done, the more people do.
For many years, the "forbidden fruit" has been regarded as a mysterious, terrible, forbidden thing to touch.
But, you know what? The clever use of the "forbidden fruit effect" can play a good lubricating and promoting role in intimate relationships.
Especially for women, if you want to attract a man for a long time, it is enough to master the "forbidden fruit effect".
Create and keep the mystery at the right time
Psychologists point out that the mystery between the opposite sex is the driving force that provokes mutual contact and exploration.
When a person has a good feeling for the opposite sex, the mystery of the other party will escalate this good feeling into attraction.
In the eyes of men, the immutable life is tiresome; and the immutable woman is even more like chewing wax.
For women, maintaining a sense of mystery and arousing the curiosity of the other party can firmly grasp the man's attention and stimulate his desire to explore and communicate.
Xiao Shan in the TV series "The Rest of Your Life, Please Give More Advice" knows very well how to maintain a sense of mystery in the face of pursuing her own opposite sex.
When Gu Xiao, the second generation of the rich, invited her to eat, drink and have fun, and impatiently reported her name, Xiao Shan did not reveal half of her own information.
Not giving him contact information and refusing to communicate aroused Gu Xiao's curiosity and desire to explore, always trying to find her, approach her, please her, and try to meet her various requirements.
Expert research and analysis believes that in the process of getting along with her sweetheart, women break the routine to give him a certain sense of mystery, which can stimulate his interest and desire to conquer, and inject a steady stream of vitality into love.
For example, show off your cooking skills on a special anniversary that belongs to two people and give them a chic little gift; try a new hairstyle, change your dress style, or create a beautiful accident at any inadvertent time.
For example, don't say too much about yourself, try to let the other party think and guess on your own; partly participate in the other party's life, don't put all your thoughts on him, and let him feel a sense of crisis from time to time.
Another example is, after work, boldly go out of the house, actively participate in social activities, develop their own interests and hobbies, continue to improve themselves, and so on.
In love and marriage, the charm of women lies in the creativity and novelty of bringing endless novelties and surprises to men.
Smart women know how to use the "forbidden fruit effect" to create and maintain a sense of mystery in a timely manner, take the initiative to create a romantic and warm atmosphere, and constantly improve the sweetness of love.
Moderately set up barriers to love
In a relationship, people always want the road of love to go more smoothly. In fact, too smooth love may not be as good as imagined.
Xinxin and her boyfriend grew up together, and the two people's families are also door-to-door. They not only got into the same university and found their ideal job in the same city after graduation, but also established a romantic relationship and entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
Everything is natural and logical.
Who thinks, this is a happy couple in the eyes of others, less than a year after marriage, they can't go on anyway.
Shin Shin first proposed to break up, and her husband agreed without any rebuttal. Asked why, the two of them said in unison: "I don't feel how much he loves me!" ”
After the breakup, at first both of them felt nothing. And in less than two weeks, each other began to miss each other, unconsciously missing the beauty of being together.
When they broke up for a month, both people deeply felt how painful and painful life was when the other person was not around! In the end, they chose to get back together, and the two reconciled, never wanting to be separated from each other again.
The forbidden fruit effect teaches us that things that are not available have a stronger allure and attraction than things that are easy to obtain without effort.
Love is also like this, the less easy it is to get, the greater its value; without knowing how to cherish, it is mostly because it is too smooth to get.
Sometimes, artificially "tossing" a bit, taking the initiative to set up some obstacles and add some resistance, will increase the intimacy of each other's feelings.
For example, if there is a small conflict or friction between two people due to trivial matters in life, they are tired of each other, and they cannot be interested in doing things, so they can try to do a few days and artificially create lovesickness.
For example, a man who sends an action signal that he wants to be intimate with you can moderately refuse, maintain reticence and unobtainability, delay the satisfaction of giving the other party, and so on.
I have seen the saying that a love that develops too smoothly is often the easiest to end. It is a greenhouse flower that cannot withstand any wind and rain.
Intelligent women know how to use the "forbidden fruit effect", take the initiative to set obstacles for love, keep a moderate distance, and even occasionally show him coldness and rejection, so as to stimulate men's desire to conquer and get the love they want.
Bounce the lute to create a "forbidden fruit"
"The more forbidden the more", is the essence and core generalization of the "forbidden fruit effect".
The more opposed and forbidden they are, the more people will find ways to approach and touch. Just as Adam and Eve saw the forbidden fruit and couldn't help but secretly taste it.
The opposite of "the more forbidden the more" is "can't help but do nothing". If there is no reminder or label for forbidden consumption, it is an ordinary fruit, and Adam and Eve will not steal it.
In sexual interaction, the "forbidden fruit effect" is used in reverse, that is, "what you want the other party to do, and the rebound pipa prohibits his behavior", sometimes has an unexpected effect.
For example, Ling Ling in the TV series "The First Half of My Life" obviously wants to marry Chen Junsheng as soon as possible, but suddenly offers to propose: don't meet again in the future, and don't contact again!
Ling Ling's trick of retreating to advance worked, prompting Chen Junsheng to quickly complete the divorce, clarify the relationship with her, and form a new family.
Everyone has a rebellious psychology, and men's rebellious psychology is sometimes more intense than women's. At this point, it is far better to directly order than to say the opposite.
Xiaoying's boyfriend likes to sleep late on the weekend, Xiaoying hopes that her boyfriend and her take an early bus to climb the mountain, but instead of forcing him, he said that he would go alone, and strictly ordered him not to come to her on weekends and rest at home.
Xiaoying's boyfriend saw that she was so considerate, but felt guilty, coupled with the safety of her going out alone, so he came to Xiaoying's downstairs early in the morning on the weekend and waited for her to go out together.
Xiaoying rebounded the pipa, said the opposite, and turned the "ordinary fruit" in her boyfriend's eyes that she was not interested in picking, which she was not interested in picking, into the "forbidden fruit" he longed to taste, and successfully achieved the wish of "spending the weekend with her boyfriend".
Because it is banned, it is more attractive.
Wise women know this well, and in their opinion, the best way to get along with men is to master the "forbidden fruit effect".
When men are bored with life, they will create and maintain a sense of mystery at the right time, and awaken men's interest and curiosity with successive novelties and surprises;
When men are pampered and arrogant, they will take the initiative to set up obstacles for love and inspire men to embark on the romantic journey of "pursuing love" again;
When men are stubborn and self-indulgent, they absolutely do not go hard, but retreat into the advance, rebound the lute, and create their own wishes into a mysterious "forbidden fruit", so that men can pick and possess because they are worried about losing or resisting temptation.
Women who control the "forbidden fruit effect" have a sustained and long-term attraction to men; their flowers of love are destined to bloom undefeated in life.
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