Now Chinese, it seems that it is easy to be unhappy, in the previous poor era, happiness is very simple, can eat white noodle steamed bread, is a good meal, can wear clean cloth shoes, it will have face! But now, if you can't wear a big brand, you think that you are inferior, spend several months of wages to buy a mobile phone, people have faces in front of you, and people are sad after them!
Where is Chinese simple joy? A few days ago, when Lao Gu watched Bai Yansong's speech, he mentioned the question of why Chinese was always unhappy.
There are 6 reasons for this
Love to compare
Chinese comparison psychology seems to have existed since ancient times, which may also be the influence of traditional Chinese culture.
Gao Xiaosong mentioned when he talked about jin ping mei that the bed in ancient times was more expensive than the house. In order to show that he has money, one of the protagonists, Meng Yulou, deliberately "married two pull-out beds in Nanjing", and Pan Jinlian cried and asked Ximen Qing for it because she did not have a good bed...
Panbi said that what sounds good is competition, what is not good is jealousy, we just have to live our own lives, and the lives of others will only disrupt our own rhythm.
Lack of faith
Ancient Chinese people, in that poor era, only faith support, but now our material life is rich, especially young people, do not worry about eating and wearing, only left to eat, drink and have fun, in the era of no faith, once encountered some difficulties, it is easy to doubt life, of course, will not be happy.
The "richness" of wealth does not equal the "blessing" of happiness. The Bible says, "It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God!" "Money, even if it is continuous, cannot solve the most fundamental problems of life." The purpose and meaning of life is a far more important and advanced issue than wealth.
The monotony of life
Just mentioned, we now do not worry about eating and wearing, life is only left with entertainment and work, just in the busy work, gradually lost the joy of life, in the eating, drinking and playing, gradually lost the motivation of life, when your life becomes monotonous and tedious, it will produce a lonely psychology, no interest, of course, no happiness.
The oppression of stress
In fact, in China now, the pressure of our lives is very large, on the one hand, the pressure of work, on the other hand, the family, even if it is a student, it is also facing the college entrance examination, facing the pressure of academics, even if it is a primary school student, a lot of homework, and now it is necessary to take online classes, which is the pressure of Chinese.
I don't understand charity
Zhang Shangying of the Song Dynasty said that "Le Mo is happy to be good", and a person who knows how to give rather than just ask for it will be happy. Almsgiving is not the preserve of the rich. Donating hundreds of millions of dollars to the disaster area is almsgiving, and giving a smile to strangers is also charity.
The circle we live in now is too small, only focusing on our own acres and acres, no sharing, no circle, naturally can not feel other happiness.
Inner impetuousness
Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching says, "Where misfortunes and blessings depend, blessings and misfortunes lie down." ”
If people want to achieve a happy and happy life, they should follow the normal path between heaven and earth. This "common way" means that the good is like water, the knowledge of white and black, and the arbitrary behavior of ignorance and common way will lead to danger and loss of happiness.
What we have to do is to stabilize our hearts and be a person with a calm mind, Lao Tzu said, his life has three joys, one thought in the heart, everything is calm
These include the joy of enlightenment, the joy of seeing things, and the joy of leisure.
The wisdom of Lao Tzu is worth learning, he tells us how to be happier in life, how to maintain ourselves in an impetuous society.
Bai Yansong said that there were three books that influenced his life, including the Tao Te Ching, and Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching was his own book of life and changed his life.
Taoist books are declining in China. In contrast, in the West, the Sales of the Tao Te Ching have surpassed the Bible, leapt ahead of all the classics, and are now at the top of the world book list.
A survey by German television showed that Lao Tzu was also the "most well-known Chinese" in the hearts of Germans, and every four Germans had a copy of the Tao Te Ching in their homes.
Konosuke Matsushita, the Japanese "god of management", most highly admired Lao Tzu's management philosophy. In the garden of Panasonic Company, there is a bronze statue of Lao Tzu, and the stone seat below is engraved with the Chinese: Dao Ke Dao, Very Dao
Read more of the Tao Te Ching, the pattern will improve, it is a book of success
Successful people, basically no one has not read the Tao Te Ching, even for us ordinary people, it can still be applied to our workplace, life and even business.
I read the illustrated version of the vernacular text, because the text is generally not understood, this version has a detailed vernacular translation, as well as rich illustrations, and pictures and texts.
The key is that Lao Tzu's language is funny and humorous, just like watching stories, it will not be boring at all, when we watch, children can also watch along with them, and accept the influence of Sinology culture from an early age.
Read it in your spare time, your pattern is getting higher and higher, and you will take a lot of detours.