Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang
At the entrance of an obstetrics and gynecology hospital in Zaozhuang, Shandong, a white-haired grandfather was anxiously waiting, surrounded by several young men and women, but his face was unusually heavy.
If people passing by don't know the truth, they think that the grandfather is waiting for his daughter to give birth, but in fact, this grandfather's surname is Huang, and the person in the delivery room at the moment is his wife, Ms. Tian, who is 67 years old.
In our impression, women generally give birth to children over the age of 35, which is considered to be an advanced maternal age, and by fifty, most women will slowly menopause.
Therefore, women basically lose their fertility when they are over sixty years old, and it is a medical miracle that a 67-year-old like Ms. Tian can still get pregnant and give birth.
Ms. Tian
Although Ms. Tian successfully passed the pregnancy period, but due to old age, the lack of strength during childbirth, completely unable to exert strength, the birth canal muscles are also relaxed, for the safety of Ms. Tian's mother and son, the hospital gave a caesarean section.
After more than an hour of surgery, Ms. Tian successfully gave birth to a daughter, she lay in a hospital bed, did not wake up after anesthesia, and was transferred to the ICU ward due to weak breathing.
The daughter is only five pounds, the hospital recommends that the sterile room be observed for a period of time before holding out, Mr. Huang is full of joy through the sterile ward window glass to look at the newborn daughter, the eyes are full of tenderness.
He was saying that it was a gift from God to the couple, and he decided to name this daughter Heavenly Gift.
Mr. Huang
But it can be said that some people are happy and some are sad, and Mr. Huang's daughter is very disgusted by the fact that her mother is old and has not even come to the hospital to visit her mother.
The daughter once said in front of her parents that they were unruly and shameless, and even threatened to sever ties with their parents.
The daughter thinks so, and she also has her bitterness, after all, her parents are in their sixties, and they suddenly give birth to a child, and it is rumored that they will be discussed by neighbors.
Mr. Huang could only take care of his wife and newborn daughter in person, and as early as a month ago, he had purchased enough milk powder, diapers, bottles, and cradles.
His wife is old and has no milk after giving birth, so Mr. Huang personally soaks milk powder and changes diapers for his daughter every day. After his wife was transferred from the ICU to the general ward, she still needed to continue to be hospitalized for observation for a period of time, during which Time Mr. Huang also took good care of his wife.
He even planned to buy a folding bed to put in the ward and stay in the hospital at night to take care of his wife and daughter, but several of Mr. Huang's relatives were worried that he would not be able to support him, so they rushed to help him take care of him.
Mr. Huang's several junior relatives, they came to take care of the two old people out of concern, but their feelings were also very complicated, and they could not understand why the two old people had to have a child when they were so old.
In fact, the arrival of this child was initially an accident for Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian.
In the traditional perception of the public, the elderly who have reached a certain age are naturally far away from sexual life.
But in fact, the elderly are also people, they also have normal physiological needs, but most people in old age due to the decline in physical function, indifference to intimate relationships, they are forced to suppress normal physiological needs.
But Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang have a very good relationship, and their daily relationship is also very sweet, for the two, the skin kiss is the icing on the cake for the married life.
Ms. Tian was a gynecologist before, with rich nursing experience, usually exercised regularly, loved health, and she knew that for women, taking good care of the ovaries can delay aging.
Therefore, she has made her body in a relatively young state by adjusting her life schedule, improving her diet, and taking health tea reasonably, and her menstruation can still come on time when her peers are menopausal.
However, more than half a year ago, Ms. Tian suddenly found that her lower abdomen was bloated, her spirit was not very good, and the most important thing was that menstruation did not come, she thought at first that it was a blockage of qi and blood, and specially went to open some Chinese medicine to activate blood and dissolve stasis.
But a month later, she began to vomit frequently, her appetite decreased, and Ms. Tian, as a gynecologist, was shocked: "It won't be pregnant, right?" ”
She rushed to the hospital for a detailed examination, and found that she was indeed pregnant, Ms. Tian made a mistake, at this time her son and daughter were already married and had children, and pregnancy at this time was really difficult for her to handle.
She had planned to go to the hospital to beat up the child, but When Mr. Huang learned that Ms. Tian was pregnant, he was overjoyed, and he strongly advised Ms. Tian to keep the child.
He said: "This child is also a life, and since Heaven has let this child come to our home, it is a kind of fate, and it is really pitiful to beat this child up." ”
Ms. Tian thought that what Mr. Huang said was also reasonable, she also liked children, and when she went to the hospital to do B ultrasound, she found that the child in her stomach could already hear the fetal heartbeat, listening to the child's heartbeat, she really couldn't beat the child off.
So Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian reached an agreement to raise this child well, Mr. Huang is very protective of this child, he took care of the large and small household chores in the family, washing, cooking, cleaning every day, so that Ms. Tian did not have a little tiredness.
But after all, Ms. Tian is older, her physical strength has declined rapidly compared to when she was young, the hormones in the body have increased during pregnancy, she has more than one morning sickness, and even has a sense of smell confusion, often smelling what food is smelly, and can't eat a little thing.
In addition to physical discomfort, Ms. Tian also needs to face the outside world's finger-pointing, originally Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang discussed well, her pregnancy should not be passed on, the less people know the better, and even at the beginning they did not tell their daughter.
When she was five months pregnant, Ms. Tian's belly began to show her pregnancy, and every time Mr. Huang took Ms. Tian to go to the obstetrics and gynecology examination, waiting outside the obstetrics and gynecology department, it was inevitable that she would be watched by people around her.
After all, the people around who came to the maternity examination were all girls in their twenties and thirties, and only Ms. Tian was a figure of her grandmother's generation who was in her sixties and white-haired.
The people around them looked at them with strange eyes, while turning back to whisper, Ms. Tian sometimes heard others talking: "These two old people are so old and still have children?" Wouldn't it be to help someone else with a surrogacy? ”
Every time she heard others whisper about herself, Ms. Tian was so ashamed that she was eager to find a hole in the ground.
The doctor who helped Ms. Tian do the obstetric examination could not understand Ms. Tian's choice, and he warned Ms. Tian more than once:
"You are so old, pregnancy is definitely risky, for example, your uterine wall is certainly not as elastic as it was when you were young, then in case the fetus develops too fast in the later stages, your uterine wall is easily unbearable."
"I have been an obstetrician and gynecologist for so many years, I have only seen the kind of families that have lost their independence, very old couples to protect the fetus, you have children yourself, really consider whether to keep this child." 」
Do a maternity check-up
But no matter how much the doctor advised, Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang made up their minds to give birth to the child.
Ms. Tian recalled: "The child has been in my stomach for several months, I really can't take it off, I can feel the child moving in my stomach every night, this feeling is so wonderful." ”
The incomprehension of outsiders, Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang can ignore it, but the incomprehension from the closest family members still makes them very embarrassed.
At first, they did not tell their daughter That Ms. Tian was pregnant, and until later, Ms. Tian's daughter presumably heard the rumors of acquaintances in the community.
She hurried home to check the situation, and as soon as she returned, she saw an old mother who had a big belly, and her daughter collapsed at that time, her eyes were black, and she almost fainted.
Ms. Tian's daughter could not calm down easily, so she quickly questioned her parents: "At such an old age, what kind of trouble are you going to make?" Old men and old women still have children, what do others think of us? We must not be poked in the spine by neighbors in the future? ”
Obstetrics and gynecology
"Besides, you are so old, I say something unlucky, in case you die one day, leaving such a small child who will raise you?"
"You can't rely on me to send you the second old man to the end, and then I will pull the big one left by your second old man to leave a small child, right?" My daughter is in junior high school, is spending money, my family mortgage has not been paid, I get up early every day to work in the dark to earn some money, where do I come to give you two old children? ”
Mr. Huang heard his daughter complaining incessantly, and he was also a little angry, he frowned, and said: "We two sons give birth to ourselves, and the monthly pension is more than 10,000, how can it not be enough to raise a child?" Rest assured, don't let you take care of it. ”
"And we are both in good health, exercising for half an hour every day, no illness and no disaster, maybe we will live to be more than a hundred years old, grow up with our children, and wait for our children to start a family."
The daughter felt even more angry when she heard that her father was so stubborn, and she could not control her emotions, stood up and stomped her feet while saying: "Pass it out that our family is still not a person?" You just think about yourself, I don't care, if mom gives birth to this child, I will break off relations with you. ”
The daughter left this cruel sentence, went out of the house, and no longer took the initiative to contact her parents, Ms. Tian was hurt by her daughter's actions, she was tearful, and she couldn't help but cover her face and cry.
And Mr. Huang was also very distressed, gently patting Ms. Tian's back to comfort her. They unconsciously recalled the picture of the two people who had known each other.
It is said that children are the crystallization of love, Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian are so reluctant to give up this child, in fact, because this child is the flesh and bones of the loved one.
Ms. Tian and Mr. Huang grew up in the 1960s, when young men and women were still mainly married by their parents and elders.
But Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian are free love, the two fell in love at first sight, read and studied together, encouraged each other, and became a rare college student in that era, Mr. Huang studied law, Ms. Tian studied medicine, after graduation, Mr. Huang entered the law firm for internship, and Ms. Tian entered the hospital to work.
Later, after the two stable careers, they entered the palace of marriage, and after more than forty years of marriage, the two gave birth to a son and a daughter, raised their children, and now the eldest granddaughter is 14 years old.
It is said that marriage is the graveyard of love, but in the marriage of these two people, you can still see the sweetness of love, the two get along very harmoniously, they have not had a red face and quarrel, and they will give each other gifts on birthdays and wedding anniversaries.
Pregnancy
The two can be described as a model couple in the community, envious of others. It's just that Mr. Huang has always regretted that his previous work in the law firm was very busy, and Ms. Tian liked to travel, but he rarely had time to accompany Ms. Tian on trips.
It was hard to wait until the children had grown up and married and started a family, and Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian had finally retired, and finally had a lot of time at their disposal.
Mr. Huang often takes Ms. Tian out for self-driving tours, the two drive, do not have to go too far, just go around, fishing, but also very comfortable.
Inside the delivery room
But I did not expect that at the retirement age, a child actually fell from the sky and came to Ms. Tian's abdomen, in order to leave this child, Ms. Tian suffered a lot, the fetal heart was unstable during pregnancy, and a lot of fetal protection injections were injected.
During childbirth, he was forced to have a caesarean section because he was not physically strong enough to give birth, and wan fortunately finally succeeded in giving birth to a daughter, and the mother and daughter were safe.
Mr. Huang has been taking care of Ms. Tian's mother and daughter in the hospital, and after Ms. Tian has no appetite to eat after giving birth, Mr. Huang will change the law to make her various delicacies.
Cesarean
After Ms. Tian's physical condition stabilized, Mr. Huang took their mother and daughter home. Back home, Mr. Huang still let Ms. Tian rest in bed, and he was responsible for most of the children.
The daughter Xiao Tianci needed to be fed milk powder due to her mother's lack of milk, so Mr. Huang bought the best milk powder and fed it every three hours.
But unexpectedly, Xiao Tianci later began to grow eczema on his body, his skin was red and itchy, and he always vomited milk and diarrhea, and Mr. Huang was anxious to take his daughter to the doctor.
After the examination, I learned that the original Xiao Tianci was some allergies caused by milk intolerance, and the milk powder fed was an allergen, and the doctor asked Mr. Huang to feed Xiao Tianci hydrolyzed milk powder after he went back.
Outside the delivery room
Xiao Tianzi's body is still relatively weak, often crying in the middle of the night, fever and cold are also very common, which can exhaust Mr. Huang, in order to take care of Xiao Tianzi, he often gets up in the middle of the night to feed the child.
When Xiao Tianci was just six months old, Mr. Huang had lost seven pounds, his face was obviously sunken, and even his figure was a little stooped.
Ms. Tian also has more obvious postpartum sequelae, her rectus abdominis muscles are relaxed, often leak urine, but also hair loss, mental malaise, back pain.
These two people paid too much in order to give birth to and take good care of the little gift, and their physical condition also spread to their daughter, who could not bear it, and it did not take long for her parents to find a gold medal sister-in-law and bring them back to take care of the children.
The daughter also often came to take the handle, cleaned the house, coaxed the little gift, and after coming and going, she could slowly let go and began to accept this sister who was forty years younger.
The news of Ms. Tian's 67-year-old maternity daughter soon reached the top of the hot search, and countless people inquired about the family situation of the old husband and wife with a curious mood.
At that time, many people on the Internet speculated that the couple would not be pregnant at an advanced age in order to give birth to a son, and some people speculated that they were just making a show to attract attention, and more people thought that they were selfish and irresponsible, and that their children would be responsible for raising them in the future.
There are even short video bloggers who enter their neighborhood with mobile phones to interview Mr. Huang's family and ask them why they are pregnant at an advanced age.
Usually, Mr. Huang pushes his daughter in the stroller out to bask in the sun, and some people with bad intentions take out their mobile phones to shoot at them, and they also rush up to ask questions from the east and the west.
Mr. Huang was overwhelmed and entrusted his daughter to make a statement on the social platform, so that everyone would not disturb their lives because of curiosity.
Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian
After a few months, the heat of Ms. Tian's elderly childbirth dropped almost, and the family was finally able to return to a peaceful life.
However, the huge age gap with their daughter still brings them great embarrassment, such as the two pushing the child out of the house together, and the people they meet always think that they are the grandparents of the child.
Mr. Huang imagined that after his daughter went to elementary school, the old couple would pick her up, and she would definitely be treated as a grandparent, and I wondered if my daughter would be able to accept two white-haired parents.
Netizen comments
These daughters have long been given preventive injections with them, and the daughter said: "After Xiao Tianci grows up, you are so different in age, you are not a person of the times, there must be a big generation gap, you can't communicate together, and you don't understand the current education situation, how to tutor her in the future?" ”
But since they all gave birth to this child, they must be responsible for her to the end, and Mr. Huang also plans to re-hire some part-time jobs, earn more money every month, save for his daughter, and be a guarantee.
Mr. Huang and Ms. Tian still feel extremely happy when they look at the little tianzi sleeping in swaddling, which is the crystallization of their love, and they have to use all their strength to care for this child to grow up.