China is a country with a long history and culture, the history of Chinese civilization for thousands of years, but also for posterity to leave a lot of valuable spiritual wealth, we often say that the intangible cultural heritage, is also a valuable wealth.
The so-called "intangible cultural heritage" is naturally a heritage that is not expressed in tangible form, mainly refers to the heritage of language and culture, such as the post-break language and colloquialisms that have been circulating on the mainland.
As we all know, colloquialisms are some words summed up by our ancestors with life experience, they are easy to understand, but they show a lot of truth. Even today, we still have all kinds of sayings around us. It can be said that colloquialisms are already an essential part of our lives.
I wonder if you have ever heard this saying? "Three things do not borrow, borrow a home to lose", what kind of things are the three? It will be so powerful.
In fact, there is a big difference between the "three non-borrowings" mentioned in ancient times and today, and they represent different meanings.
I. The Ancients' "Three No Borrowings"
A long time ago, the ancients spread the saying of "three no borrowing", perhaps from the beginning of human civilization, there was this "three non-borrowing" saying. At that time, the so-called three non-borrowings specifically referred to "houses", "medicine pots", and "knives".
(1) The house
In the traditional concept of Chinese, the house, as the home on which Chinese depends for survival, is also a harbor in the depths of people's hearts. The house has a very important position in people's hearts, and it is also irreplaceable by other items. Chinese value "falling leaves to the roots", and the house means the "roots" of people.
In ancient China, the house was particularly valued, and it was almost impossible to lend the house to someone else. Even if it is given to someone else, it will not be borrowed. At that time, the saying was that lending the house to others, that is, lending the "root" to others, was very detrimental to the development of the original family. Especially in ancient times, when feudal thought was serious, special attention was paid to these.
Rather than borrowing, the ancients preferred to give the house to someone else, so the relationship between the two sides changed. Give the house to someone else, and the house becomes a gift, not a home. For both parties, everyone wants to give away the house instead of borrowing it.
(2) Medicine jar
In the eyes of the ancients, the medicine jar was an artifact that cured the plague god and many bad symbols. In the hearts of people at that time, the medicine jar had extremely important significance, so under normal circumstances, the ancients would not lend their medicine jar to others at all. Not only are they afraid of taking germs out, but they are also afraid of bringing back other people's germs.
If you say so, it can be seen that the ancients still know a lot about medical knowledge.
In fact, it is also understandable that the ancients did not want to bring bad things to others because of their own medicine jars, nor did they want to bring back bad things from others. Objectively speaking, this is actually for the sake of the common interests of both sides and is beneficial to both sides.
(3) Knives
The knife is regarded as a murder weapon, and in ancient mainland times, not everyone was qualified to use a knife. As for the use of knives, ancient laws have very detailed regulations, and there are also strict requirements for iron products such as knives.
In ancient times, casually lending a knife to others was likely to cause some unnecessary disputes, and if others hurt people with knives, the borrowers of the knives would also be implicated. Therefore, at that time, the knife represented a kind of responsibility, and lending the knife to others was not responsible for oneself.
In addition, there is a very important reason, the reason why the ancients did not want to lend knives to others, but also did not want to cut off the road with this person. In the eyes of the ancients, the knife, as a murder weapon, can cut the road between people. Therefore, from the perspective of people's feelings, the ancients would not easily lend out the knife.
It can be found that what the ancients called "three non-borrowing" is actually related to the traditional concept of ancient China. But today, what does modern people say about the three non-borrowings?
Second, modern people's "three no borrowing"
(1) Money
In today's society, money is the most sensitive topic, whether it is relatives, friends or friends, only with money, it will cause some unnecessary trouble. As the saying goes, "It's good to borrow well, but it's not difficult to borrow again." And now it has become "if you borrow and don't repay, it's not difficult not to borrow."
Countless people have fallen out because of money, not only making the previous friendship disappear, but even more so, there are also those who turn against each other.
Originally, borrowing money was a good thing, but after a long period of development and evolution, it has become a kind of distress. Now people generally feel that borrowing money from others is not to do good deeds and accumulate virtue and help others for pleasure, but to lift a stone and drop it on their own feet, which is purely uninteresting. Some people also said: "How difficult it is when you borrow money, how difficult it is when you pay it back." Gradually, because of money, the relationship between human beings has changed.
Later, the interaction between people simply did not mention money, although it would be labeled as indifferent and ruthless by others, but it did save themselves a lot of unnecessary trouble. Therefore, now people avoid "borrowing money" as much as possible in their interactions.
(2) The car
The car is an indispensable means of transportation for modern human life, and it is called "the second wife" by some car friends, and in the hearts of people who have a car, the car is a very important item. Gradually, cars have become a very sensitive topic in human interaction.
It is reasonable to say that it is very common for friends to borrow a car from each other, and it is also the embodiment of deep friendship. But as things unfold, this feeling is gradually trampled on by some people, who do not attach importance to this feeling, but instead use it as a capital for moral kidnapping of others.
In life, some people borrow a friend's car, scratch the car slightly, and then return the car as if it was okay. After the friend knows, the heart is naturally unhappy, and when the next time he borrows a car, the friend politely refuses, but is said to be "unkind" by the person who borrowed the car. Often these people ignore the point that "it is the love of others to lend you a car, and it is the duty not to borrow it."
Therefore, modern people also regard the car as one of the "three no-borrows", in fact, they do not want to create an embarrassing situation. For the sake of the car, it is not good to make both sides unhappy.
(3) Pots and pans
Pots and pans, as the guys we use for cooking and eating, have important significance for people. In modern people's lives, pots and pans are never borrowed. In fact, it is easy to understand, lending out pots and pans is not sending the guy who eats out. No one wants to lose their jobs, so they don't lend out pots and pans.
In addition, there is another important reason, modern people for health and safety requirements are also very high. For food hygiene and safety reasons, people also do not lend their pots and pans out. The guy who eats for himself and lends it to others is actually very unhygienic. Therefore, many people do not lend pots and pans to others from the perspective of safety.
In general, the "three no-borrowings" of modern people are more realistic, mainly because of the many problems in the interaction between people.
epilogue:
The three non-borrowings of ancient people are mainly considered from the traditional concept of Chinese, while the three non-borrowings of modern people are considered from the perspective of human interaction. The ancients did not borrow three times in order to make people's relationships better, while the modern people's three non-borrowings were to maintain people's relations.
Unconsciously, the so-called "three no borrowings" has undergone a huge change in content, but its essence still exists to avoid trouble.
From the perspective of modern people, the "three no borrowing" argument has its own reason for existence, and it represents many helplessnesses in human interaction. Like money, cars and other material things, sometimes not borrowing is a better choice, which will avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble.
In today's society, materialism is rampant, and how many people are in trouble because of money. Because of helplessness and sadness, people unconsciously have such thoughts? Instead of lending money out and making a fuss and dispersing, it is better not to borrow money and directly avoid the occurrence of embarrassment in the later stage.
But borrowing money is also divided into situations, just as the so-called: "emergency rescue does not save the poor", when friends really need, or as far as possible to lend a helping hand, must not ignore friends.
What else do you know about traditional Chinese sayings?