You Shi (You Shi) is the successor of Jia Zhen of Ningguo Province, and the stepmother of Jia Rong.
Although she was the presiding grandmother of Ningguo Province, YouShi did not have much scenery. Compared with Wang Xifeng of rongguo mansion, it was simply heaven and earth. In fact, this is not because You's is much worse than FengJie'er, but behind You's body, there is nothing to rely on.
You Shi was born in a small official eunuch family, although the family is not rich and noble, but the food and clothing are at least worry-free. Otherwise, You Erjie and You Sanjie's mother would not have taken two drag oil bottles and married You's father. It is reasonable to say that with such a family situation, You Shi will not marry too badly. However, You Shi married Jia Zhen as a continuation, although the brocade and jade food, the glory and wealth are there, but if they really love their daughter's parents, they will not do this. As the old saying goes, the family has overnight food and does not teach the daughter to fill the house. You Shi married the absurd Jia Zhen in this way, looking bright on the outside and cold and warm on the inside, but only he knew it.
What is Ningguofu? Liu Xianglian once vividly said that except for the two stone lions at the door, I am afraid that the cats and dogs are not clean. Although Jia Fu is a large family family, it also shows a decaying atmosphere, especially in Ningguo Province, since the old master Jia Jing entered the Taoist cultivation and left it alone, driven by Jia Zhen, the erosion and decay have become more and more serious. The phenomenon of "dirty and chaotic" in Ningguo Mansion has long been spread out, and even his sister Xi Chun can't avoid it, and he must draw a clear line with it.
Youshi has no background and is not very young. In Ningguo Mansion, her role is mainly to take care of housework, and how much affection jia Zhen has. At least, Jia Zhen couldn't take care of her, she was more like a tool person. Lady Xing in the Rongguo Mansion was almost the same, the mother's family was unreliable, and the days of continuing the string, begging for a mouthful of food in the rich, were not so light. Madame Xing had already wiped her face away, had no skin and no face, and had only two principles for acting, one was to ask for forgiveness and not to pay attention to principles, and the other was to desperately grab money, and the rest did not care, nor could she manage it.
In the relationship between husband and wife, You Shi is also in a weak position, and ningguofu is more chaotic than Rongguofu. But Youshi did not live without a bottom line, in that miasma of black smoke, although Youshi could not resolutely show his attitude, he revealed the goodness and light of human nature in his low-key and silence. When Jia Zhen's father and son did not know whether they were dead or alive and turned the Ning Guo Mansion over to play, You Shi was a person who not only knew the wisdom of survival, but also remained sober. Moreover, in the Ningguo Mansion, there were very few people like her. Jia Zhen took the lead in indulging, there were no rules and etiquette in the palace, the upper beam was not right and the lower beam was crooked, but you shi refused to join the same stream and became the same person as them.
It is difficult for Youshi to have no right to speak. When Jia Zhen did something that was not tolerated, she still had to take care of her face and could not have the slightest seizure. Jia Zhen was so shameless that he committed adultery with his daughter-in-law Qin Keqing, and even this had become an open secret of the Ningguo Mansion, and perhaps even the Jia Mansion. Jia Zhen can be said to have single-handedly smeared the entire Ningguo Mansion. As Jia Zhen's wife, will You's heart be better? If you don't pay attention to it at all, like Jia Rong, it doesn't matter, then isn't You Shi also a person without courtesy, righteousness, and shame? In this matter, You Shi is also one of the victims, and Jia Zhen hurt not only You Shi's heart, but also You Shi's self-esteem. But obviously, Jia Zhencai did not consider these things, even his son he did not take it seriously, he wanted to fight, said that he would be eaten!
For this matter, Youshi can only turn a blind eye and cannot talk to or be angry with anyone. When Qin Keqing was seriously ill, she also had to show the appearance of a good mother-in-law, and from time to time she asked for warmth to show her concern, and she could not say a word.
But Youshi knew everything, and her heart was not without struggle. When Qin Keqing died of illness, You Shi said that his stomach hurt and he could not preside over Qin Keqing's funeral. Jia Zhen didn't have much to say, so she had to invite Wang Xifeng to cook. With such a move, You Shi maintained his last shred of dignity. She can't resist strongly, she still has to survive here, but she is not a person without feelings and dignity. Jia Zhen can fool around, Jia Rong can mess around, she watched them do something wrong, she was nothing, but she was not a person who was soft to the end and had no opinion.
You's sobriety is also manifested in the fact that she has never taken the identity of ning guofu's grandmother seriously.
She knew that she didn't have much confidence, no reliability of her mother's family, and no children to rely on, saying that she was a lady of the commandments, but no matter how great the glory, that was it. She is not a person who falls into the nest of wealth and forgets everything.
Look at The Second Grandmother Wang Xifeng of Rongguo Mansion, that is called a highlight, hugging before and after, majestic and domineering before and after people, and impressive in the style of strong women. Wang Xifeng has a strong mother's family to rely on, and he holds great power in Jia Province, and at the same time, he is deeply pleased by the supreme leader Jia Mu, and his whole life is like a hanging, all the way up to the peak. On the right, Sister Feng will most please Jia Mu and Lady Wang, and Jia Mu said that she was one to ten, which was really the highest appreciation. For her husband, Sister Feng is quite strict in governance, Jia Lian does not even have a serious concubine room, and has to have an affair with some women who are not inconsistent, and Sister Feng is jealous to the point that Lian Yahuan looks at Jia Lian more, and she also wants to beat her into a rotten sheep's head. Right, Sister Feng is absolutely one and the same, killing one hundred people, and quite authoritative.
When the grandmother can do Wang Xifeng's share, that is cool. But Youshi is far behind. Can't manage her husband and stepson, in front of Jia Zhen's concubine, there is no shelf, even in front of Yahuan, there is no grandmother's appearance, everyone knows that she is wide, not afraid of her, more and more no rules. It is no wonder that Li Yi can't even look at it and says a few words to her.
But everyone's ideas and ways of living are different. Youshi's doing this does not mean that she is confused, but that she understands how useful the form is! The more you swing the score, the more tired you are. Youshi doesn't have so many highlight moments, not that she really can't, but that she likes a casual and relaxed atmosphere. In front of Jia Mu, Wang Xifeng pleased The child, can not turn the others, You Shi is too lazy to compete for favors, but if Sister Feng is not there, she will also tell jokes. You shi does not put up a shelf with the people below, so that people are more intimate with each other, natural point, there is no need to tense a nerve at any time. You Shi and Li Feng, Wang Xifeng also often laugh, the relationship is very good.
You Shi can also be regarded as a high position, but she knows better than anyone that those are things outside the body, and if you covet too much, you will become a sharp blade of anti-devouring, and the gain will not be worth the loss. This can be seen in the two times when she saved money for Feng Jie to celebrate her birthday. Feng Jie is the richest and most powerful person in the inner government, usually in addition to the monthly routine, there are a lot of gray income, Feng Jie is not satisfied, but also put up usury. Even, when Jia Mu Tiyi gave her money to live and have fun, Sister Feng actually thought of two aunts who had no sense of existence, and said, Why are they bitter? With money is also a vain filling back to others, it is better to detain us to enjoy. You Shi Su Ri and Feng Jie joked, but instead of following her, they spoke for the aunts, saying that Feng Jie Er should not pull two bitter urns, and finally returned the silver to Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhou.
The biggest difference between You Shi and Wang Xifeng is that Wang Xifeng's vision is always upward, and he never lowers his proud head, but there are more noble ladies in this world, not jia mu and lady Wang, but many ordinary people like Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhou. Sister Feng only cared about pleasing the above, but forgot that those who had never been looked up to by themselves, although their status was low, also had a power that could not be underestimated. Life that has been stepping on the clouds, in case one day ascends and falls heavily, it will only fall more fiercely and more tragically.
You's vision, however, sees the world more comprehensively, whether it is people or things. She walked low-key through the circles of Feng Jie and Li Feng, and also in the circles of her aunts and yahuan. She knows that those people also need a sense of respect. This is not simply a strategy for survival, but also a kindness in the heart. She is not a person who cares only about herself and does not care about the lives of others. She can see the hardships of the aunts, the hardships of life, which is rare.
She could not forgive Jia Zhen's repeated betrayals, because she still took herself seriously, and she always put her body very low, because she did not take herself seriously. Being able to live in the complex and chaotic Ningguo Mansion is not so messy, nor so abominable, like water into any container, but still try to keep the quiet of the self.
Therefore, I think Youshi is sober in the world. Especially seeing the two younger sisters brought by the stepmother and Jia Zhen's father and son mixed together, You Shi was depressed enough. Second Sister You and Third Sister You were reluctant to live as a drunken fan of ningguo mansion, thinking that the second half of their lives were promising. But I don't know how hard it is for You's life to live. But what can Youshi say and what can he do?
When Jia Rong pestered Jia Lian to secretly marry Second Sister You, You Shi was opposed, and she was not afraid of offending them, and clearly stated her attitude. Several men thought that this matter was unconscious, and when the time came to become an established fact, Wang Xifeng could not do anything. But You Shi didn't think so, she knew feng jie's strength, and she also knew Jia Lian's flower heart, and she was not optimistic about this marriage. Sure enough, after the East Window incident, Feng Jie knocked on the door, at this time, You Shi could only harden his scalp, was caught by Feng Jie'er and humiliated, and was tragically pit by Jia Zhen's father and son.
From beginning to end, You Shi is a person who understands, she is not like Lady Xing, as long as her husband says yes, she will meet it upside down, and even take the initiative to pull the fiber to protect the media, just to keep her position and job as a wife. You Shi had never been an accomplice of Jia Zhen's father and son, and this alone was much stronger than Lady Xing. The fragrant food in the eyes of You Second Sister You Third Sister is not necessarily for You Shi. Ever since marrying in, Ning Guofu's bad heart, You Shi is fed up. If she was selfish and encouraged Jia Zhen to take two younger sisters, it would not be too difficult. As long as the sisters marry, won't You Shi also get help? But in this process, Youshi can only be helpless, and can only be persuaded. This kind of shameless thing hurt not only the face of Ning Guofu, but also the face of the You family.
Sure enough, Sister You accidentally entered the magic cave and was tortured to death by Sister Feng. This was probably expected by Youshi, but she couldn't do anything either. But Second Sister Fan You's brain is clearer, and she will discuss with You Shi more and listen to persuasion, and she will not go to this step of the field.
Youshi is sober, but also has a warm and human touch.
When Xi Chun insisted on walking into the painting, You Shi's sister-in-law went to persuade him. Xi Chun said a lot of cold words and harsh words, indicating that he wanted to break with Ning Guofu. You Shi and this lonely little girl obviously have a deep generation gap, but they still try to persuade and comfort. However, Xi Chun deeply hated Ning Guofu and did not take this sister-in-law seriously at all, and After Youshi was intimidated by Haoyi, he had to give up.
In Xi Chun's eyes, everything in Ning Guo Mansion was dark and dirty, and it was bound to be divided and far away. But she did not understand that the black and white in this world were not so absolute, and if there were too many disturbances in her heart, wherever she went, there would be no peaceful day.
You Shi is in the smoky and miasma of Ning Guo Mansion, living well, should eat, should be happy, she may not understand how sad life is, the world is difficult to predict, but no matter how much experience, the reality is no longer good, she is still living steadily, the edges and corners have long been smoothed by time. She does not have a happy life, there are always many bad things in life, but she will not despair, nor will she give up on herself, which is the greatest sobriety.
Author: Ah Wu, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.