When Leng Zixing spoke about Jia Lian and Feng Jie in his speech at Rong Guofu, he described their relationship like this: Who knew that after marrying this grandmother, no one up and down did not praise his wife, and Grandpa Lian retreated backwards.
That is to say, since Wang Xifeng married Jia Lian, she is in the upper hand in the relationship between husband and wife. Jia Lian, who was originally quite capable and charming, bowed her head in front of Sister Feng, automatically stepped back, and seemed to open the mode of getting along between husband and wife.
So, is Jia Lian afraid of Wang Xifeng? Otherwise, why did Sister Feng send away all the women around him, and pretend to make Ping'er a room maid, in fact, it was impossible to see and touch, in such a situation, Jia Lian did not have any resistance, was he really tamed by Sister Feng?
Not really. Jia Lian was not afraid of Sister Feng in the slightest, nor did he change the bad problem that his dirty smell was pulled into the house. But the reason why he retreated was also voluntary, and no one forced him. Don't say go backwards, even if you go back twice, under the circumstances at that time, he was happy!
Men are willing to retreat, either because they love this woman or because this woman really has the ability. On the occasion of the newlywed Yan'er, Sister Feng took advantage of the time and place, which was the top of the table. Sister Feng, who was as beautiful as a divine concubine, must have also fascinated Jia Lian.
Jia Lian is a playboy, but as long as he is good with women, no matter who the other party is, he can say all the sweet words and do a small low. Even in many girls' places, they also called the goods "Grandma", and later they were even warmer to You Erjie, and completely melted You Erjie's heart.
In those years of falling in love with Sister Feng, how Jia Lian looked at Sister Feng was pleasing to the eye. She is a sonorous rose, and Jia Lian really likes her. So, naturally, let her go everywhere. Retreat and concession are both from the bottom of the heart.
Moreover, Feng Jie is so capable, strong women, there are always some strong, this is not a big problem. Sister Feng has to work a few more points, and Jia Lian can worry less about it, so why not enjoy it? Since you picked up the cheap, you will back off, between husband and wife, calculate so clearly what to do.
In the final analysis, Jia Lian's retreat is just "let", willing to put a top hat on Feng Jie. But this does not mean that Feng Jie can always ride on his head.
Everyone thinks that Sister Feng is strong and will be very tired to live with such a woman. In fact, why is Sister Feng not tired? In the context of the times, if she wanted more, she had to give more. In her career, she can work hard to achieve her goals, but in the relationship between husband and wife, it is not what she wants to be. It depends on Jia Lian's attitude, and it also depends on the rules and systems at that time.
Sister Feng wants to get a wholehearted husband, but she does not want to be criticized by the world, she is really difficult. One step forward, it is a jealous woman who is disdainful, and if you take a step back, you can only look at Jia Lian and other women, like other couples. No, she didn't want to.
Therefore, watching Sister Feng is pushing forward step by step, in fact, she is the one who is panicked in her heart and has no way to retreat. In the eyes of others, Sister Feng is so domineering, as soon as she came, she changed the law to send Jia Lian's house people, and did not let Jia Lian take a concubine, the key is that in these years, she herself has not even given birth to a son. What does she rely on? In ancient times, a good wife did not depend on how much she earned, but actively opened up branches for her husband, and if she could not do it, she had to actively find a way.
In their relationship, Jia Lian is the one who stands at the top of the food chain. When he is in a good mood, when he is not hungry for a while, he can be very dashing and generous, and he will not worry about anything with Sister Feng. However, Sister Feng's precautions are not unreasonable. Jia Lian is a flower flower too old, if you don't guard against him, I don't know how many scandals will be made!
However, Jia Lian's personal style is like this, perhaps, in a short period of time, he can let Feng Jie, but when he doesn't want to let it, why should he let it? Sister Feng has the background of her mother's family, but in ancient times, marrying chickens with chickens, marrying dogs with dogs, Sister Feng looks beautiful, but there are more beautiful women under the sky, for Jia Lian, the most important thing is fresh stimulation. Sister Feng is capable, but Jia Lian is not married to a leader, no matter how strong she is, the wife is absolutely weak in front of her husband.
Jia Lian stepped back at first, but he never planned to really live like this for the rest of his life.
When he gradually lost his freshness to Feng Jie, his problem of looking for flowers and asking Willow was even more prominent. From Qingxiu's small house to many girls, Jia Lian did not let go. At this time, the good villains are still scrupulous, sneaky, or afraid that Feng Jie will find out that Feng Jie's temper can turn the world upside down. Jia Lian wasn't going to make that yet. At this time, they are already the feeling of seven years of itching, the family looks stable, but what is inside is quietly changing.
Sister Feng defended Jia Lian day and night, in fact, she could not prevent it. Although Jia Lian did not have a concubine, but she could steal food, it gave people the feeling that Sister Feng managed Jia Lian too much, but she did not know that Jia Lian was rampant. Where did Sister Feng really manage him? Jia Lian broke away step by step, in a sense out of Feng Jie's control. Because he no longer loved Sister Feng, Sister Feng became more and more strict with him, and the dissatisfaction and resentment in his heart gradually arose, becoming a rift between husband and wife.
Until Sister Feng's birthday, everyone was lively celebrating Sister Feng's birthday, Jia Lian was good, on this special day, she sent a special gift to Sister Feng, and actually secretly had an affair with Bao Er's family in the house! Jia Lian did not know, how risky was this? Moreover, on his wife's birthday, he did such a thing, which shows that he is really very weak for Sister Feng. But whoever still cares a little, even if he steals affection, he will not choose this day.
Sure enough, Jia Lian and Bao Er's family did something reckless, and they complained about their wives with each other, singing and reconciling, and their stomachs were full of dissatisfaction and resentment towards Sister Feng! Sister Feng's birthday, lived really depressed!
Unexpectedly, Jia Lian was caught by Feng Jie, but Jia Lian was what reaction, he did not feel guilty, nor did he feel ashamed, but he was willing, wanted to make things bigger, and raised the sword to slash feng jie! Frightened, Sister Feng ran all the way to Jia Mu's side and cried into tears. Jia Lian was not afraid at all. Even if you do something wrong, it is only an apology. Jia Mu also said so, everyone has played this since childhood. The implication is that even if Jia Lian steals affection, it is not a big deal, men, they are all lustful. Instead, Sister Feng was out of shape.
By this time, Jia Lian had no original retreat and concessions to Sister Feng. Instead, it moves forward little by little, declaring sovereignty. And Sister Feng, in fact, there is not much power to resist.
Jia Lian has changed her heart, and she has no feelings for Sister Feng, and after the incident in Bao Er's family, the feelings of the husband and wife are even more cold. When Sister Feng was still busy with the housekeeper in the inner house, Jia Lian hooked up with Sister You, a relative of Ningguo Mansion, and without Sister You, there would definitely be someone else. Jia Lian and Sister Feng could not go back to the past.
Jia Lian secretly married Sister You, a grandmother, only left Sister Feng behind without mentioning it, and also gave all her body to sister Feng, and then said bad things about Sister Feng in front of sister You, and said that Sister Feng was sick and could not be better, just wait for her to die, Sister You can help correct. In fact, even if Sister Feng was not sick, she did not even give birth to a son, in case Sister You gave birth to a son here, there would be no foothold for Sister Feng. Don't expect it, Jia Lian can still step back and treat Sister Feng well.
After the You Erjie incident broke out, Sister Feng suddenly realized that she had already been in such an unfavorable position and had become a lonely person. She was strong and forceful everywhere, but her husband was getting farther and farther away from herself. The old one didn't work. In order to deal with Sister You, Sister Feng devised a whole set of sophisticated plots. Unexpectedly, the process was unusually smooth, pinching You Erjie to death, just like pinching an ant.
Then, with the addition of Qiu Tong, Sister Feng was in front of Jia Lian, and she had long ceased to be her original spirit. They became a couple of resentments, for the sake of Sister You, Jia Lian held a grudge against Sister Feng, and even the last morality between the husband and wife was almost gone. As long as there is an opportunity, Jia Lian will definitely kill Feng Jie and show no mercy.
In fact, from the very beginning, it was Jia Lian who really took the leading position and really had the upper hand. Not because of how good and capable Jia Lian is, but because Jia Lian is a man. In ancient times, men were inferior to women, and men had absolute right to speak. Although Sister Feng was raised as a boy and could kill and decide, she was not a real man, and in the end she could only cry to Jinling for more sorrow.
In the ancient large families, the monogamy that Feng Jie wanted was simply impossible to achieve, and jia Lian's retreat when she was newly married was just a beautiful misunderstanding. Women, where they have the right to speak, where can they make great strides, after all, their world is so narrow, unless they meet a husband who really lets you go. However, a thousand and two gold is easy to get, and it is difficult to find a confidant. In the land of riches and anointing, this is nothing more than a fool's dream.
Author: Ah Wu, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.