Etiquette was a very important thing in ancient times. The original meaning of the ceremony refers to drumming and playing music, offering beautiful jade and wine, and worshipping ancestral gods. Confucius once lamented: "Li Yun Li Yun, Jade Shu Yun Hu Ya!" Later, it was extended to the canonical system of hierarchical society, the norms of behavior and traditional habits that people needed to abide by, and so on.
With the passage of time, the "etiquette" was constantly changing, and by the time of the Ming and Qing dynasties, there were more and more various etiquettes and etiquette, and the restrictions on people were becoming more and more stringent. Especially among the giants, in order to become the so-called "house of etiquette", these giants often make a lot of rules for people in the family to abide by, and sometimes, these rules are difficult to understand, and even quite "strange".
In jia fu in "Dream of the Red Chamber", there are many such strange rules.
Jia Fu, starting from the first generation of founders Jia Yan and Jia Yuan, to the fifth generation of Jia Rong, Jia Lan and others, has been passed down for a hundred years. Jia Fu also always liked to call himself a "family of poetry and etiquette". Some of the rules in Jia Fu can indeed make people feel a very strong cultural atmosphere, but there are also some rules that are difficult to understand.
On the twenty-ninth occasion, Jia Mu and others followed Jia Yuanchun's edict and went to Qingxuguan to fight for the noble concubine Niangniang. In the process, a seemingly inconspicuous little thing happened.
(Jia Zhen) asked again, "Why don't you see Rong'er?" Without a word, I saw Jia Rong running out of the bell tower. Jia Zhen said, "Look at him, I haven't dared to say hot here, he went to cool off." "Drink the family to eat him." The little people all knew Jia Zhen's temperament, and they couldn't disobey it. A little squatter came up and took a bite out of Jia Rong's face... He asked Jia Rong, "Grandpa is not afraid of the heat, why did the brother go to the cool first?" ”
In ancient times, there was a clear distinction between inferiority and inferiority, the hierarchy was obvious, and the masters had absolute authority in front of the slaves. But at this time, Jia Rong, in front of Xiao Wei in Ning Guo Mansion, did not have any temper at all, and he was eaten by Xiao Wei in public, and he did not even dare to say a word. This is only because this small house represents his father Jia Zhen at this time, and he is acting on The orders of Jia Zhen.
And the reason why Jia Zhen ordered Jia Rong to be a little bit was only because the weather was too hot, and Jia Rong ran to the bell tower to cool down for a while. Jia Zhen must establish her authority in front of her son, prove her strict tutoring in front of others, and prove the "etiquette" of Jia Fu. Therefore, Jia Rong became an unlucky egg, a hot day, and was ripped on the face by a small fight.
There is an idiom called "spit on the face and dry yourself", at this time, Jia Rong, with practical actions to verify this idiom, is only because of the "father for the son" this rule. In order to cool off for a few minutes, Jia Rong lost all face. This rule in Jia Fuzhong was also evaluated by the senior slave Lai Mama as "three is not two".
In ancient times, it was emphasized that "men and women are not intimate", and in the Jia Province, this point was also infinitely magnified, expanding to even if they were uncles, they could not see nieces casually.
Many readers were deeply puzzled that when Lin Daiyu first entered the Jia Mansion, the two uncles did not see her. Some readers also believe that this is because Jia Yu and Jia Zheng are too cold and ruthless and do not attach importance to Lin Daiyu. In fact, this is precisely because there is such a strange rule in Jia Province.
After Jia Yuanchun's relatives, he remembered that the Grand View Garden at home was idle, and he couldn't help but feel a little sorry, so he ordered his younger brothers and sisters to live in it. Therefore, Jia Zheng called Jia Baoyu, Jia Yingchun, Tanchun, and Xichun all over, and told them not to be naughty after living in the Grand View Garden.
In fact, it was not only these few people who lived in the Grand View Garden, but also Lin Daiyu and Xue Baochao. Why didn't Jia Zheng ask Lin Daiyu to teach together? It is precisely because of the rule that uncles cannot casually see their nieces. As for Xue Baochao, she was Madame Wang's niece, and Jia Zheng could not be seen casually. That's why they didn't show up in this conversation.
Another time, Jia Pardon was ill, and the young master of the girls in Jia Mansion went to ask Jia Pardon for peace. Yingchun, Tanchun, Xichun, Jia Baoyu, Jia Huan, and Jia Lan all went. When the raiders went to the Grand View Garden to find Jia Baoyu, Lin Daiyu was also nearby. The attacker did not ask Lin Daiyu at all whether he wanted to go together to ask Jia Yu for peace. Lin Daiyu did not take this trip at all. Why? In fact, it is also because of this rule.
Even if he is an uncle, he is also a "foreign man", and Miss Qianjin cannot be seen casually. This rule, for us today, is almost unimaginable, but in the Jia Fu in "Dream of the Red Chamber", such a "etiquette" is meticulously implemented.
In addition, there are many strange rules in Jia Province. For example, daughters-in-law cannot eat at the table, they must stand in front of their mother-in-law, and young masters and ladies must respect even the cats and dogs in the elders' rooms.
Etiquette is an indispensable ritual in the process of people's interaction, but if it is too complicated, it is a bit of a snake.