Question: Why is the traditional marriage system for thousands of years not being welcomed? And look at the dream of the Red Chamber!
Text/Jiang Zi shushu
The next stone under the Qinggan Peak, once recorded the illusion and seal text, the moon will stone see "Stone Record"!
Rong is Hua Xihua is Rong, the former Lord of the Mengxi Hall of Mushi, rouge dyes "Dream of the Red Chamber"!
Sound energy two singers two mu, two jian wind and moon two flowers! With poetry passing on the history of stone ink, who knows the thrush zhao wind and current?
The daughter who is not married will not be surrendered, and the last days will be loyal and righteous! At the time of the first time, the name was Tong Lingyu, and the surname was originally Qin.
The source is Eryu playing Erbao, generous and elegant as a concubine, Rong Yuanning playing Yin Zhen, "胠箧", "Nanhua" continued "Zhuangzi"!
- Preface to The Book of Stones
In the story of "Dream of the Red Chamber", Lady Xing is a model of traditional daughter-in-law, Jia Yu wants to take a concubine, she is a pioneer, a lot of age, and does not dare to persuade men to say a word, but also puts on a self-sacrificing grievance, but was originally deterred by Shi Taijun.
Jia Mu said, "I heard you say that the matchmaker is coming for your master." You are also three from four virtues, but this wisdom is also too much! Now that you are also full of grandchildren and sons, you are still afraid of him, and you can't persuade him to do both, and you are still making trouble with your old man's nature. Madame Xing blushed and replied, "I have advised her not to follow her several times." What else does the old lady not know, I also have to. Jia Mu said, "He forced you to kill people, and you killed them too?"
Jia Yu saw that Lady Xing's wife did not handle this matter well for herself, planned to personally go out on the horse, and then instructed her son Jia Lian to come, and this son told the truth, and he was not used to himself, which made Jia Yu angry and ashamed.
Jia Yu thought about it for a moment and immediately asked Jia Lian to say, "There are still people watching the house in Nanjing, more than one, immediately call Jin Cailai." Jia Lian replied: "The last time the letter from Nanjing came, Jin Cai had already got a phlegm obsession, and even the coffin silver was rewarded there, I don't know if it is dead or alive now, it is alive, I don't know, I don't know, it is useless to call." His wife was deaf again. Jia Yu listened, drank a sigh, and scolded: "Xl prisoner, but you know so well, you still can't leave me here!"
The official heard that Jia Yu clearly wanted to make a move of "the cow does not drink water and press his head", thinking of using the Mandarin Duck's father Jin Cai to suppress the Mandarin Duck, the plan failed, and then retreated to the second place, calling for the Mandarin Duck's brother Jin Wenxiang, forcing the other party to persuade the Mandarin Duck to be a concubine for him.
Jia Lian was bluffed by Jia Pardon's words and withdrew, but he only dared to wait in the study outside, and he did not dare to go home, and he did not dare to see his father, so he had to listen, and he did not dare to inquire, and waited for five or six meals, and after a while, he inquired about Jia Yu's sleep, and then he dared to leave. This is the tradition of "ruling the world with filial piety", which is the parent of "everything in the world".
So, why did Jia Cai shout Jin Cai to come, because Jia Yu is the Lord, Jin Cai is a servant, Jia Amnesty can decide the life and death of Jin Cai, and Jin Cai, as the father of Mandarin Duck, has the right to decide the life and death of Mandarin Duck, this is The Chinese filial piety tradition, what do you say about the dialogue between a few Mandarin Ducks and a few mandarins?
Mandarin Duck said, "My wife just said, look for my old lady." I'll see him looking for Nanjing!" Ping'er said, "Your parents are all looking at the house in Nanjing, they didn't come up, and they will always look for it." Now there's your brother and sister-in-law here. It's a pity that you are the daughter of the family here, so it is better that the two of us are here alone. The Mandarin Duck said, "How about a daughter born at home?" I don't want to, can't I kill my old lady?"
Later, because the Mandarin Duck made trouble in front of Jia Mu, Jia Yu, as Jia Mu's son, the mother spoke, this time did not dare to continue to make trouble, and Lady Wang and Jia Lian, as juniors, actually followed the innocent scolding, Jia Lian complained, and was reprimanded by Lady Xing.
As he was speaking, he saw that Madame Xing also came out, and Jia Lian said, "It's all the old master's trouble, and now it's all moved on me and my wife." Lady Xing said, "I beat you up with the XL seed without filial piety!" People still died for Lao Tzu, Bai said a few words, and you complained. You're not good yet, these days angry, carefully he punched you. ”
If you look at Mrs. Xing's three views, children are not allowed to be reasonable in front of their parents, they can only carry the black cauldron unconditionally, they can only be beaten and scolded for no reason, and they can only habitually be grateful to Dade, otherwise there is no filial piety.
In the story of "Dream of the Red Chamber", Jia Rong's bad idea, Jia Zhen's master, Wang Xifeng came to ask about the crime, but it was You Shi who was scolded, and You Shi never dared to say Jia Zhen half a sentence, and could only complain a few words in front of Jia Rong, a junior. Because YouShi, like Lady Xing, believed in the evil of the Three Virtues and four virtues.
You Shi didn't say anything else, only scolded Jia Rong: "Evil Obstacle Seed!" A good deed with your old man! I'll just say no. Sister Feng heard this, crying and moving You's face with both hands and asking, "Since ancient times, it has been said: 'Wives and husbands have few misfortunes, and their appearance is not as strong as Their strength.'" 'How can they make such a fuss about all the good ones?' You have no talent, no mouth, and you saw the gourd, and you will only blindly be careful of tu xianliang's name. Always they are not afraid of you and do not listen to you. ”
Look at the so-called shrew Xia Jingui in "Dream of the Red Chamber", how was she killed by Aunt Xue on the CR pillar of filial piety with the rules of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
When Aunt Xue heard this, she gasped and said, "Whose rule is this?" The mother-in-law speaks here, and the daughter-in-law mixes her mouth through the window. You are the daughter of an old family! Shouting in his mouth, what is he talking about!" Xue Pan stomped his feet anxiously and said, "Stop, stop! Watch people hear jokes. "
China's tradition has always been a non-resistance sacrifice doctrine to the outside world, and if you dare not offend anyone, you will be beaten and scolded by others and even robbed, as long as you have not completely torn your face, have not made up your mind, and are still warm and preferential, and will always be the priority of habitual outsiders. It is not so much simple and kind as it is a natural liver and gallbladder, instinctively kneeling.
The Chinese tradition, since ancient times, has been to rule the world with filial piety, parents are the gods of the family, if others infringe on it, they can still argue one or two. The wife and children are the property of the family, the cats and dogs in the house, Mo said that he was wasted, indifferent, and did not fight back, that is, the same people share and eat, and did not lose morality at all, but can be used as a medal for tolerance and generosity and self-denial, hanging on the wall.
For the traditional elderly and men, young women and young and adult children are just tools for family survival and development, and they have no human rights to speak of, which is the so-called "cannibalism" of feudal etiquette, and tradition has a natural malice and malice for the so-called juniors, such as young women and children, and marriage is a tool for the elderly and men with vested interests to commit violence.
It is the highly respected Jia Mu, in front of Madame Wang, is also an absolute and unquestionable authority. Jia Mu is angry, Jia Zheng can only kneel down immediately, and Jia Zheng is angry, Jia Baoyu can only kneel down immediately, in the marriage and family, the beneficiaries are always the elders, because the tradition stipulates that the younger generations can only follow the elders, as a punching bag, as a long-term worker, as a maid, only with a "filial piety" word, you can do whatever you want, kill people.
The institution of marriage, in the final analysis, is the system of property, the instrument of private property in a patriarchal society, for women and children, just the filial piety of the dwarf is enough to hold back the dead, which young woman is willing to give everything she has, to live this life on her knees, until all the older generation of people are killed? If it were not for tradition that deprived women of the right to inherit property, or even deprived women of the right to equal pay for equal work, who would be willing to suffer in addition to suffering and suffering?
The information in this article is mainly quoted from: "Dream of the Red Chamber" Cheng Gaoben, "Fat Yan Zhai Full Review Stone Record"