A few days ago, I posted a small article: "Mothers are the best teachers for children.". Some readers have reported that it is important to educate children's mothers, but fathers are also indispensable. For example, some of the child's problems, the mother said many times, the child is not changed, if the father says it, the child will take it seriously, and will soon correct it. The child disobeyed, and the mother said, "Wait until your father comes back to collect you." "The child immediately feels fear. Indeed, fathers educate their children, in some aspects have a unique role and advantages, the healthy growth and all-round development of children, can not be separated from the joint efforts of both parents.
Needless to say, in today's family's children's education, the father's absence is obvious. Relevant surveys show that most fathers are rarely involved in the care of their children's lives, academic counseling, and daily parent-child interactions. Of course, this has the influence of the traditional idea of "male outside, female inside", but the main reason is that many fathers do not realize the importance of their children's growth, do not recognize their role and role in the growth of children, often "troublesome" and "lack of patience", and ignore children's education on the grounds of "heavy work burden, high work pressure, and no time".
The serious lack of fathers in the education of children has led to the poverty of family education content, the imbalance of educational power, and the single way of education. Often lead to poor self-reliance, indecisiveness, lack of assertiveness; timidity and fragility, lack of security; poor social skills, lack of team awareness; follow the rules, not enough ability to innovate. Today,there are many boys with "pseudo-brides", and many children have poor physique and weak will, and cannot withstand the blow of failure. Poor communication with others, lack of awareness of cooperation and so on. It can be said that it is all related to the absence of the father.
Paternalism has its own unique strengths. The father is majestic, and he is more authoritative and principled to the education of his children. The cultivation of children's good habits, the cultivation of will quality, the formation of outlook on life values, the choice of future ideals and careers, and the cultivation of excellent personality and psychological quality all call for excellent fathers. Our revolutionaries of the older generation attach great importance to the education of their children. Chairman Mao, the founding leader of the People's Republic of China, often taught his children to read more and serve the people and the country in the future. Teach children not to engage in specialization and to be ordinary laborers and builders. Let children go to production and labor, to hard places to exercise and grow. Zeng Guofan, a famous minister of the Qing Dynasty, attached great importance to family education and asked future generations to remember the word "diligence and thrift". Do not coddle the child, do not indulge, ask the child not to compare, do not waste. Teach children to read with ambition, knowledge and perseverance, and reading is not to live a superior life, but to have a higher and farther direction. At the same time, all aspects of themselves set an example for children, lead by example, imperceptibly, and cultivate children's excellent character and character. The famous translator Fu Lei, in the "Fu Lei Family Letter", with the love, knowledge, experience and wisdom of a father, and his son who studied and performed abroad, through letters, in reading and learning, ideological sentiments, love and marriage, life for the world, artistic pursuits, etc., emotional exchanges, spiritual collisions, mutual encouragement, and common growth. Fu Lei's education of children always puts being a person first. Be a good person first, and then learn to be good. Teach children to know how to be grateful, grateful to friends, grateful to teachers, grateful to parents. These fathers are worth learning from.
Be a qualified father. The author believes that the following four points should be mainly achieved. First, we must have a sense of responsibility and the awareness of educating children well. Don't excuse that you are busy at work, and push the work of educating your children to the mother. As everyone knows, as a woman, as a woman, as a woman, as a mother, coupled with the need to work, the load and pressure are very large, and she alone educates her children is undoubtedly not enough energy and limited strength. Fathers should assume the responsibility of educating their children, and both parents should play their respective roles and advantages to jointly educate their children; secondly, the family should be harmonious and create a family atmosphere of love, harmony, democracy, liveliness, reading, and self-motivation, only in this atmosphere, children are most likely to receive education, and the educational effect is the most ideal. Otherwise, it is relatively silent all day long, noisy, and scolding, which is not conducive to the child's learning and growth, but also makes the child's psychology have a shadow, which has a great negative impact on the child's future courtship and family life; again, whether it is a father or a mother, we must lead by example, and what the child is required to do, he will do it first. For example, love, self-discipline, love of learning, upward, respect for the elderly, help others, etc., parents set an example, better than a thousand words. Finally, educate children's parents to coordinate and do not want children to do the same thing, this is criticizing, and the other is protecting; one hopes that children learn piano, and the other forces children to learn art; one requires children to do more housework and participate in labor within the family's ability; the other says that this is delaying time, affecting children's homework, and improving academic performance. In addition, educate children to be persistent and lifelong teachers. You can't have a whim, hot and cold, inconsistent, so that the child is at a loss, inconsistent. When they see difficulties, they avoid it, and in the end they will not achieve anything.
Let's cheer together! Father.
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Wu Fangling, Hubei Dayeren, university teacher, member of Huangshi Writers Association.
