On the eve of this year's Spring Festival, a "big family" in Jieyang, Guangdong Province, caught fire, and 3 daughters brought "a nest of people" home for the New Year, and the scene was very chaotic.
Only to see a large family in the video are in the living room, "horizontal seven vertical eight" are people, daughters and sons-in-law sitting on the sofa, children have no place to sit on the ground, the room is "messy".
The old two were busy, waiting for a large group of people to eat and drink, waiting until they could have some time to stop for a while, and it was not easy to grab a seat in the crowd.
Some netizens roughly counted the number of people in the living room, there are 12 children alone, plus adults, the number of people nearly exceeded 20, so the old man's sad face is also reasonable, after all, even if you do not mention economic expenses, just daily housework is not an easy task.
Although it is a good thing to celebrate the Spring Festival and get the whole family together, sometimes there are too many children, which is also a "sweet trouble" for the elderly.
Some young people, when they are not married, are accustomed to the days of "clothes to reach out and eat to open their mouths", even after getting married and having children, they also like to rely on the elderly, and whenever they return to their parents, they choose to be "hands-off", hand over the housework to the elderly, and just relax themselves.
Although the old people are happy to see their children go home, their bodies are not as tough as when they were young, and they have more than enough heart and insufficient strength, and it is not easy to cook and wash for their children and grandchildren every day, and the original "many children and many blessings" has become an unbearable "sweet burden".
Children go home for the New Year to become "ancestors"? There is a problem with the way parents are educated
Many "Chinese-style parents" would rather focus all their attention on their children's learning and extracurricular interest cultivation when educating their children, but ignore the cultivation of children's basic survival skills such as life skills, resulting in children from childhood to adulthood do not know what housework is, and even cooking a pack of instant noodles can not be completed independently.
It is precisely because parents are so big, so that children are accustomed to "ten thousand in advance to ask for mothers", even after marriage and children, go home for the New Year is still the "ancestor", the old man's body is hard and good, some of the old or the elderly who are already disease-ridden, simply can't stand it, every New Year," there are old people who complain about their children "It is better not to go home for the New Year."
And children who grow up in this mode of education, because of the lack of exercise, often have poor self-care ability after marriage, and after separating from the help of their parents, life has become a mess, the appearance is bright and beautiful, but the family is chaotic.
In order to avoid such a situation, we as parents must "start from the doll", cultivate the "sense of responsibility" of children to do housework from an early age, and let children have the awareness of helping parents do housework when they are young.
So since it is necessary to let children do housework, how should parents cultivate their children's awareness of helping to do housework?
Let the child help with the housework, these points parents need to pay attention to
1. Don't always come in the form of rewards
Many parents like to stimulate their enthusiasm in the form of rewards when letting their children do housework, which is actually not advisable.
Let the child do housework is to cultivate their sense of responsibility, the formation of habits, if the parents blindly give material incentives, will only lead to the child's dependence on money, in order to get paid and do housework, the matter becomes utilitarian.
And as the child's age increases, the "appetite" grows larger and larger, the temptation of money will become weaker and weaker, and the parent may need to continuously increase the amount of reward, fall into a vicious circle, or the child may simply refuse to continue to complete the housework.
2. Let the child do what he can
Compared with adults, the child's ability is relatively weak after all, some housework can not be done well, if we always let the child challenge some difficult housework, it is easy to hit its enthusiasm, is not conducive to cultivating children to do housework habits.
When we let our children help with housework, we should pay attention to letting them do what they can, sweep the floor if they can, clean up the house when they can, and must not "force it".
3. Form a pattern for your child
If we want to develop the habit of doing housework for our children, we must also pay attention to not "fishing for three days and drying nets for two days", maintain the rules of children's housework, such as cleaning once a week, cleaning the floor every weekend in the afternoon, etc., regularly arrange tasks, and gradually form a habitual consciousness in the child's mind.
4. Avoid abandoning children
Children just start to do housework, inevitably more unfamiliar, many things may not be done satisfactorily, we must avoid setting too high requirements for children, showing the emotions of disgusting children, otherwise even if it is a casual sentence, it may cause a huge blow to children.
If we can constantly encourage the child and increase the child's self-confidence, then the child will not only increase the enthusiasm for doing housework, but also do it better and better.
Old Miao Conclusion:
For the elderly, the most important thing for the New Year is that the family can be reunited, but if the children come home and just lie on the sofa and play mobile phones, and treat their parents as "free nannies", it will only make the elderly feel cold.
As parents, we must cultivate our children's awareness of doing housework from an early age, so that they have a certain ability to take care of themselves in life, and when they go home in the new year, they will not be "hands-off".
Today's topic: Do you usually let your children do housework?
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