After having a baby

Trivia · After having a baby

Will having children affect the relationship?

Yes.

My husband and I know each other, that is, when I am old, I am thirty-five years old, he is thirty-nine years old, and those who come to blind dates at this age are more urgent and sincere.

Not young, but also to talk about love is not suitable to divide and then go on a blind date.

Let's be more realistic, the material conditions are appropriate, the physical conditions are appropriate, can say a few words, not to the tip of the needle to Mai Mang's kind is good.

Everyone is a middle-aged person who has been tortured by society, and many passions have been smoothed out, and they just want to find someone to live, and there is no big emotional need.

My parents are also older, want to hold their grandchildren, we live alone and feel lonely, the world is too big, not everyone has a full and rich heart, at least I did not, as a two-point and one-line office worker, I live a lonely and numb, need a person to break this life as calm as stagnant water.

So I went on a blind date, for the above reasons.

I believe my husband's reasons are similar.

Women are thirty years old, and there is basically no advantage in the blind date market and society, and the best people they meet on blind dates are just normal people.

My husband is such a normal person, but he is mild-tempered and introverted, not good at words, which is also the reason why he is single, do not understand the expression, is really a common shortcoming of many men in China.

I had only a slight liking for him, and he estimated the same to me, and in this case we were married.

This marriage is to conform to the trend of society, to adapt to the environment, to avoid lonely and helpless nights, and to meet the expectations of parents.

Only the sense of belonging of a small family is missing, and the love necessary for marriage is missing.

Such a combination, there is no combination of temperature, because the arrival of a child, like the Antarctic spring flowers bloom, the ice and snow melt.

When I was pregnant, both families were very happy, and my husband entered the role relatively late, until I had a big stomach, when I could hear the child's voice, when I could feel the child kicking the belly, he did not enter the role.

I felt as if I was really a dad.

In an instant, a lot of changes have changed, at home began to take the initiative to do housework, intimately pasted on my belly to listen to the movement, actively name the child, but also on the Internet to find a special name for the child to give the boyish nickname.

The child had not yet been born.

His state of excitement as a father lasted for a long time, and people changed a lot, became silly and stupid, would care about me, said wife, how unwilling to walk more.

Will help me, go out to bask in the sun, will tell the child bedtime story, he said this is called prenatal education, speak more softly and softly, do not allow the family to have a little contradiction in front of me.

It's not good to say that the baby has seen it.

Before we had children, we were at most housemates, and there were very few intimate behaviors, and after having children, it seemed that we both instantly brought us into the role, became mom and dad, and became a close couple.

Therefore, children really make people have a sense of substitution in family life, and it will really affect the feelings of husband and wife, so that the feelings of husband and wife become better.

Although after I gave birth, I grew spots, stretch marks, changed my figure, and my skin was not tight, but our husband and wife feelings were more harmonious.

After the child was born, he immediately looked for the name of the mr. eight characters, and Mei Zizi came to ask me if these names were good.

A big man, but also began to care about whether we can work together for a lifetime, a little bit of gain and loss, will say to me from time to time, wife, the baby will have a happy family, you can not leave me and the baby.

Mr. Eight Characters said that I am very compatible with your eight characters, saying that our babies are very blessed, and our family will be harmonious and happy.

I cried and laughed, saying that he was superstitious and still gave the child that name.

In fact, when I got married, my parents also found someone to show us the eight characters, the older generation is very superstitious, and the mr. eight characters also said that the relationship between the husband and wife will be better after having a child, and it is a blessed child.

After the baby was born, I resigned to take the baby, no way, our parents are sixty or seventy years old at our age, do not want us to take care of it is a great fortune, do not dare to trouble them.

My mother-in-law suffered a lot when she was young, and when she got older, she got sick at every turn, my father-in-law was similar, and my parents were in a better condition.

Only a family can live together and take care of each other.

I served a large family by myself, but fortunately, after he took the child for a day, he understood my hard work and often took the initiative to help with things after work.

Although the two elderly people in the family did not help, they did not add to the chaos, and their lives were quite harmonious.

Now that the child is in kindergarten, the old father who is a daughter slave really broke his heart, and he is only two or three years old to let his child go to taekwondo class, and we laughed at it for a long time.

Every day pinching points, going to work and setting an alarm clock urged me to pick up my daughter immediately in advance, I really couldn't leave, he called my mother-in-law to go.

Can't be my mother-in-law alone, he is not at ease to have my mother-in-law and father-in-law go together, in fact, their kindergarten classes are all school bus pick-up or nearby communities, everyone almost knows, teachers sometimes send children to the door of the community to hand over to the security guards, let the security guards watch and wait for the parents of the children to come.

For this reason, those of us who are parents have not given gifts to the security guards, just to mix a face and let the security guards take care of their own wow, and from time to time they are almost set.

My husband and security guard are about to become brothers.

Therefore, the baby generally did not get off the car, and the security guard rang the bell to inform our family to go downstairs to pick up the baby, but the daughter slave was not at ease.

The child is only three years old, it is particularly cute, talking milky, sometimes I have more things, upset, she can call my mother a soft heart.

The child's father is even more so.

With a child, he almost ran home after work, and it was really a god who couldn't stop him from coming home.

I worked as hard as I did, and I was promoted.

Fortunately, at our age, we also have savings, the pressure of raising a baby is not very large, the family is still quite comfortable, and I feel that I can't do without each other.

Children can not live without mothers and can not do without fathers, houses and car tickets can be divided equally, but children can only have one point.

This may be the biggest contribution of the baby to our little family!

Children really affect the feelings of husband and wife, making the feelings better and better, or worse and worse.