Text / Kaforniay
How did Gu Ailing, a talented girl who won nearly 50 gold medals at the age of 13 and nearly scored nearly perfect points in Stanford, become a talented girl?
On February 8, Gu Ailing won the gold medal in the women's big jump of freestyle skiing at the Beijing Winter Olympics, setting a historical moment for China's snow sports, and the young girl who was labeled as a "genius player" and "xueba" attracted national attention for a while.
At the age of 3, Gu Ailing followed her mother, who loved outdoor sports, to the snow field and fell in love with this sport ever since. At the age of 16, she was a high school student and became a world champion. She graduated from high school early on her own and was admitted to Stanford University with astonishingly high scores.
In this Winter Olympics, she gave 1620 difficult moves in the third jump of the big jumping platform project, which she was not good at, and landed perfectly.
In addition to skiing, Gu Ailing is also quite successful in other aspects.
When it comes to education, Gu Ailing's talent is inseparable from Gu Ailing's mother's careful education, excellent genetic inheritance, and rich background and foundation.
First, how do Olympians develop?
The family is a bully:
Grandma Peking University
Grandpa Peking University
Mom Peking University + Stanford University
Dad Harvard University
Grandpa Stanford University
Gu Ailing Stanford University
The example of Gu Ailing just shows that whether Wangzi Jackie Chan hopes that the female Chengfeng can succeed in the end depends on whether the parents themselves are dragons and phoenixes. The success of Gu Ailing is even the result of the accumulation and efforts of three generations of Grandma, Grandpa Gu, Mother Gu and Gu Ailing.
Genes, IQ, and talents are given by parents and cannot be changed the day after tomorrow.
Therefore, the direction of the previous boiling "Haidian chicken baby flock" is completely wrong. Even the upstarts who are indigenous to Beijing and have several houses to collect rent are ordinary families with academic qualifications, and most of them do not have a starting point for Gu Ailing.
This starting point doesn't just refer to wealth.
Wealth can rely on the advantages it creates for children, but some ordinary families may have to work through two or three generations to have this knowledge, pattern and genetic advantage foundation.
There was a girlfriend who broke off relations with her family, she was alone at home with a baby full-time, and I felt that most of her life was occupied by pain and anxiety. Having been to her house several times, she has a high standard for her baby and often makes her children cry.
Look at her, she doesn't do anything, or she has to take a bath after eating. All kinds of small things are combined, the child is a big collapse, and the mother is angry and dissatisfied. Having a mother who is overly anxious and pursues perfection is not a good thing.
Therefore, the chicken baby is not as good as the chicken itself, first let yourself become such an excellent person as Gu Yan, and then talk about how to hope that the son will become a dragon and the woman will become a phoenix.
Let's talk about education.
There are three major points in the education of Chuangu Ailing's mother, the first is to sleep more, the second is to study, and the third is to play.
Gu Ailing's mother said that Gu Ailing's own habits, want to be a person, feel that imperfect is a flaw. "For example, if her dad graduated from Harvard and I graduated from Stanford, she thought I had to go to Stanford.
Every time she said something like this, her mother told her: You don't have to go to Stanford, you go to any school, as long as you like it very much, but more importantly, you don't give up studying for the rest of your life.
Two. How does she learn from the path to becoming a talent?
Ordinary people should not envy Gu Ailing, this is the result of talent, family situation, opportunity, scientific education and cultivation, all of which are indispensable. Most children do not have one of the above four conditions.
Some people have counted the education investment of Gu Ailing, the son of natural choice.
So what do we learn from her three educational points?
The first is to sleep more, the second is to study, and the third is to play. It looks simple, but it's actually very skilled.
Is it better to sleep more on the first one? Copying is not enough.
1. The pattern of nurturers
Don't just see Gu Ailing's mother let her daughter sleep for ten hours, but also see her tireless efforts and guidance.
Children from single-parent families, raised by grandmothers, mothers and female nurturers, we see hope for success.
She would fly her daughter back to the cultural cram school every year, so Ailing could complete two years of courses in one year and set aside more time to practice skiing. Mom's 8-hour weekend drive to and from the slopes is ten years, and few parents should be able to do it.
And she thinks that Ailing doesn't have to take the Stanford test, but Ailing wants to take the test... Mothers must have achieved the cultivation of their children's internal drive early on.
What is internal drive? It is the child who realizes that he wants to learn to grow, is self-motivated, wants to improve himself, and completes self-realization.
In the documentary, Gu Ailing's mother and Su Yiming's mother are very insistent, that is, the development of competitive sports, cultural lessons and knowledge cannot be left behind.
2. The child's internal drive
Parents urging their children to learn, as well as reminding and even persecuting, cannot achieve the cultivation of children's subjective initiative.
Urging, the child's learning has become a matter for the parents. If my parents don't whip me, I don't learn. Urging is equivalent to parents controlling their children's behavior, passively depriving them of the initiative to learn.
Finally, making the most critical decision for the child, in addition to patriotism, must also look at this gap in China's skiing events, which is a very important and successful move.
3. Physical training that cannot be ignored
We ordinary people can insist on letting our children learn sports, so that we can cultivate a healthy physique, a sound personality, and the ability to live independently.
There are always rumors that people who are not good at reading will practice sports, sports activities are a waste of time to delay learning, and people who are sports professionals have developed limbs and simple minds.
But in fact, physical education, which is always overlooked, is actually the universal glue that connects all disciplines.
Scientists have found that exercise is related to emotions.
Exercise can inhibit the activation of the amygdala in the brain, stimulate the secretion of hormones such as dopamine that make people happy, and prevent the emergence of negative emotions.
When a large amount of oxygen is consumed during exercise, blood circulation will be accelerated, and more oxygenated heme can be transported to the cells, promoting the performance of the hippocampal gyrus neurotrophic factor gene, and the brain can do more thinking and store more memories.
Therefore, physical education is closely related to academic performance.
Don't let the fear of your child getting hurt from kicking football and affect your learning progress, exercise is a good catalyst for supporting grades.
I often see some mothers managing children, and they can't eat that or that.
Whether it is fried, puffed, pickled junk food on the definition, as well as food with the concept of health, on fire, hot and humid, cold, seafood hair... You can't eat any of them.
What's more, the mother and grandmother who pay too much attention to health care chase the child to get dressed, and they are also cautious in the child's exercise, afraid that the child will catch a cold when he runs out of sweat and blows the wind. The child became more squeamish.
Too many restrictions will always be counterproductive, and when children grow up, they have the ability to get out of control, that is the most terrible.
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