I don't know if you have found such a problem, when investigating the problem of why many social criminals do adultery, their growth background will always attract everyone's attention. This is because usually whether a person's childhood is correctly guided or not will have a great impact on their lives.
After a lot of research and summary, often people who have not received good guidance in adolescence have a low sense of inner happiness, a low sense of existence in society, and are more likely to retaliate against society and ignore human feelings.
Therefore, when parents educate their children, they need to pay attention to their children's ideological guidance and achieve "two regardless of three"!
One or two
1. You can't ignore the psychological pressure of your child's growth
"Those of us who are parents are desperately working outside all day long, they are young, what pressure can they have just to study well?" In the process of children's growth, if the child complains to the parents about the pressure in their hearts, many parents will react with this kind of non-attention.
Because in the world of parents, the pressure of their daily work and life has been turned upside down, compared with them, children do not have to worry about anything and just learn this lifestyle is simply too easy. But parents seem to forget that children are in the stage of mental development, and it is difficult to completely channel some negative emotions.
Due to the limited problem-solving ability of children, when children seek help from their parents, their parents blindly attack, which will only increase the burden in their hearts.
2. Regardless of the child's self-development ability, only want to monopolize power
Regardless of whether it is an impact on the growth of children, it is also too concerned about children and thinks of doing a good job for children, which is also a bad influence.
It is easy for children to become extremely dependent on others, not only is it difficult to take care of themselves in life later, but also becomes a giant baby in thought.
Two or three habits
1. Children do wrong things, habitual!
It is inevitable that children will do wrong things, but mistakes should be punished. Many parents are reluctant to let their children be scolded, and when their children do something wrong, they turn a blind eye.
This kind of parental approach to giving the child a bottom is easy for the child to become irresponsible, and after doing the wrong thing, he wants to let the parents solve it. The right thing to do is to let the child take the initiative to recognize his mistakes, and then find a way to solve them.
2. Children are not upbringed, habitual!
What is parenting, in fact, the literal meaning has been very clear, the parenting of children is to pay attention to education and cultivation, understand politeness and respect for people's children is the result of the surrounding people's education or infection.
If the child is not educated, if the parent just simply says, "Oh the child is still young, he doesn't understand anything, just wait until he grows up." "I believe that many children will take advantage of the excessive doting psychology of their parents to continue to be ignorant, they are difficult to change, and they do not know how to change, because no one teaches them how to do it."
3. Give what the child wants, habitual!
Although raising children poorly will make children become stingy and narrow-minded, if children want what they want from an early age, they will inevitably not know how to cherish it when they grow up.
Therefore, the best way to educate children is to raise them spiritually and materially.
Parents should teach their children the knowledge and truth of learning, so that children's spirit and emotions can be satisfied, not only the pursuit of luxuries and things that do not have much meaning, so that the raised children can face the chaos of the world in the future, be calm and calm, and keep the original intention unchanged.
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