When young, too many people don't fully understand what marriage really means.
Some people think that marriage is two people living together, but in fact, in the end, it is the same with whomever they marry. Some people also think that marriage is just a product of age, and everyone chooses it this way.
With such a mentality, how can you run a good marriage? Even if you are full of enthusiasm, you may not be able to grasp the science of marriage very well, let alone understand the essence of marriage.
Wang Li (pseudonym) did not understand what marriage really was until after the divorce, but unfortunately it was too late to regret it, the past love could not be recovered, and the love between her ex-husband and her was consumed too thoroughly by her.
But there is no regret medicine to sell in this world, and it is entirely her own problem to get to this point.
Wang Li was divorced more than a month before the Spring Festival, and at that time she did not think so, thinking that after the divorce, there was still a mother's family to return, but when she was full of expectations for her parents to say a warm word, she found herself too naïve.
After learning the news of her divorce, her parents directly called and said, "Don't come back in the New Year, shame on you." And her brother, who has always been close to her, said that the family is small and cannot make room for her.
For a while, Wang Li didn't know what to say, the house where her brother now lives was bought by her, and her parents and brother swore an oath: "There will always be a room for you at home." ”
At that time, Wang Li was still boiling with blood, and felt that it was worth it to help her mother's family for so many years. She was 28 years old when she got married, and her parents kept saying girls didn't have to get married too early. Because after marrying out, you can't contribute to your mother's family.
It is with this kind of thinking that most of the money Wang Li earned when she was young was saved and transferred to her parents. Because she has known since she was a child that her brother is the one who continues the incense in the family.
Taking care of her brother's life is her duty, although she also resisted her own oppression during adolescence, but over the years of immersion, she has become accustomed to it.
Because her parents did not want her to get married too early, afraid that she would only think about her in-laws after marriage, she must let her parents and brothers understand that even if she married, her heart was still with her mother's family.
At the time of the wedding of 100,000 yuan, Wang Li gave all her brains to her parents, and her dowry was only a few quilts.
Fortunately, the ex-husband did not dislike it at that time, thinking that her mother's family conditions were poor, it was not easy to raise her daughter, and it was not worrying about giving less, as long as the two of them lived a good life in the future, everything would be fine.
However, after marriage, Wang Li did not put her mind on the construction of a small family, and she still transferred money to her parents after paying her salary according to her pre-marriage habits.
In the past, she had to keep enough living expenses and rent for herself, but now she has her husband's salary, and he has bought a marriage house, so Wang Li even gives her parents more every month to reserve their pension money.
She always felt that she could put down her dangling heart to live her own little life by settling her parents and relatives well, but she forgot that no one's happiness could fall from the sky.
After 5 years of marriage, my brother bought a marriage house, married a daughter-in-law, and had children... And these things are inseparable from Wang Li's strong support behind it.
Because she did not help her mother's family in moderation, her husband was angry with her more than once, but she felt that her husband did not understand her, too stingy, they had a house and a salary, what can I do to help my mother's family?
However, Wang Li did not think that her husband's money was also hard-earned, and he could not buy a house without the support of his in-laws, but instead said willfully, "Marry a man, dress and eat, and can't afford to raise a wife, only you have no ability." ”
The two have been married for nearly 5 years, and Wang Li has always refused to have children, saying that the family conditions do not allow it. The husband saw that the person who could not wake up and pretended to sleep, and had no choice but to file for divorce.
At that time, Wang Li was not impressed, thinking that her husband might not be able to do so without her wishes. But the husband said, "One day, you will be punished." ”
Her husband's words were still in her ears, and Wang Li had already felt her retribution. She used all her efforts to help her parents and brothers build a new home, but she did not have a place for her.
Even the father felt that it was unlucky for the divorced woman to stay in her mother's house for the New Year, so she let herself celebrate the New Year in the rental house.
Wang Li finally woke up, and she regretted that she had divorced on impulse. But looking back on the marriage in the past few years, what has she really paid?
Except for squeezing ex-husbands like parents and brothers, it was as if nothing had really been done for their little family. Even let her husband withstand great pressure, she is not willing to give him a child.
But what about regret? Definitely can't go back. I heard that after the divorce, the ex-husband began to go on a blind date. According to his terms, it should not be difficult to find a satisfactory person.
What happened to Wang Li may also have been experienced by some of the "Brother Fu Demon" girls. Endlessly helping her mother's family, she ended up homeless. It can only be said that it is too sad.
The impact of the original family on people is really terrible, and from childhood, too many male superiority and female inferiority have been instilled, and temporary change is not so easy.
But everyone is alive, and after all, they have to make some plans and considerations for themselves.
Honoring parents and supporting young children are traditional virtues. But when the parents' requirements are beyond the normal scope, it is time to wake up.
And the young will eventually grow up, the responsibilities and obligations that he should bear, if you always carry it for him, when will he be able to bear it.
Many "brother-in-law" girls do not understand, thinking that unrestrained help is kindness, but in fact, doing so will harm their parents and brothers.
Because your parents feel that everything you do is taken for granted, and the brother gets easy, he can never establish a sense of responsibility, and when things are encountered, it is still up to the girl to bear it.
In the end, you can only form a vicious circle and push yourself into the endless abyss.
Moreover, after helping the brother and the magic girl to marry, first of all, we must focus on her own small family, living a good small life is the right topic, in addition to ability, it is also allowed to properly help the mother's family.
But beyond the scope of their own ability, but also to transfer this pressure to the partner, but do not listen to the advice of the lover, will only make the relationship between the two have problems, the marriage crisis.
When the last day does not pass, will the mother's family stretch out her hands to accept you? Of course not.
If they could think of this layer, they would not put the pressure of adopting a son on their daughter, let alone instill in their daughter the concept of "passing on the generations".
I hope that every "brother and sister" girl can wake up and not lose her marriage and the happiness of a lifetime.
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