Author: Creative Group Makino
Source: New Oriental Homeschooling (ID: xdfjtjy)
A few days ago, I posted the Spring Festival With my daughter.
While posting, I said to her: "New Year is fun, you can also paste the Spring Festival." ”
The daughter skimmed her lips: "Mom, when will you be able to finish the New Year?" So boring. ”
I was just about to refute it, but suddenly I didn't know what to say.
Because I also feel that the current New Year seems to be really a very "boring" thing.
However, when we were young, the New Year was obviously the most interesting thing!
At that time, for the New Year, my parents took us to the street early to prepare New Year goods.
Although I think it is annoying for adults to buy things slowly, they will still scramble to join them.
At that time, I always thought, how the boss of the candy blower is so powerful, everything can be blown out.
Obviously, I looked at it with wide eyes for so long, but I still didn't understand how the "magic" came out.
Adults will also buy some firecrackers, and they say that the crackling of firecrackers is the best way to greet the new.
At that time, the decoration did not pay attention to any style.
As soon as each family arrived at the New Year, they hugged back a "fat doll" and pasted it on the wall.
The fatter and more cute, the more you have to hold a big goldfish in your arms, indicating that "there is more than enough every year".
The old people are also a race of one's mental skill.
Pieces of red paper, dancing in their hands, turned into beautiful window flowers.
The children looked out the window and the whole world was stained red.
In the New Year, every household will kill a big fat pig.
Adults can always come up with ways:
Fried, boiled, pickled...
Not only can you have a good year, but you can also eat for a whole year.
Hungry children, waiting by the stove.
A pig's tail can take a Spring Festival.
Under the eaves of each house, in front of the windows,
It's all covered with bacon, chili peppers, persimmon cakes...
No matter how you usually live, at the end of the year, every family is a big family.
At that time, the steamed buns were not so white, but they were the most fragrant.
In some places, a little red will be lit in the middle of the bun.
Some places pay attention to "opening the mouth to laugh", and the larger the "flower" of the steamed bun, the better the fortunes of the coming year.
At that time, the barber shop was particularly busy as soon as the New Year arrived.
Busy and tired mothers,
I will also be busy stealing a spare time, to perm my hair to catch a fashion.
Children like to paste the Spring League the most.
If the adults forget which side is the upper link and which side is the lower link,
Don't worry, the primary school children shake their heads one by one,
You say a word, I say a word.
After a while, the Spring League will be pasted.
Hang the lantern again.
Even the oldest house looks joyful.
It's like two red beeps on the faces of children.
After pasting the Spring League, paste another fu word.
The children's task is complete.
Happy to run to play, just waiting to eat dumplings, receive the old money, and wear new clothes.
In the evening, every household in the chimney, everyone sang cooking smoke.
Croquettes, fried striped fish, fried tofu...
The hot year begins with a burst of fragrance.
As soon as he said dumplings, the child wanted to run.
Because the child's task is to roll the skin.
The adults wrap fast, the children have to roll fast.
Only a slow beat, the dough on the adults' table was gone...
At that time, new year's, no one went to the restaurant.
Every family's Chinese New Year's Eve meal is gathered together as a family.
A plate of dumplings was just served, and the children who could not stand the hunger were clipped with a few chopsticks.
The drinks that children usually can't drink, this will finally be able to drink freely.
The sweet taste flows into the stomach, and the whole person is a feeling of happiness.
At that time, the TV did not have so many channels.
Often a remote control, can only press out a few stations.
But the programs on TV, one game at a time, are fascinating.
The old people's eyes are a little flowered, they can't see TV clearly, and they are half squinting no matter what they do.
But as soon as Zhao Benshan came out, his eyes could immediately slip round.
Children, although they don't understand the deep meaning of the sketch, they also learn to laugh at the adults.
The girls of that time,
On the first day of the new year, the eyes are open,
I was going to change into new clothes that I had been "coveting" for many days and were pressed into boxes by my mother.
Go out and compare with your friends who is the most beautiful.
The smiles on their faces at that moment were more beautiful than the flowers in spring.
The little boy is different, he doesn't love red clothes and loves to be armed.
One by one, they took up machine guns, and all of them were great heroes who defended their families and defended the country.
Don't look at this little box, but it is the treasure of the children who "dominate the martial arts".
Crouch in the corner, wait for the adults to pass by, secretly throw one,
Seeing that they were frightened and screaming, the children who had long since run away,
Only the laughter after the prank was left.
The road in the yard looks so long and long.
The gate of the fence must not be closed, because there must be relatives coming to pay homage to the New Year.
Unlike now, every door is closed tightly,
You occasionally stand in the doorway and try to knock, and finally think about it.
The door "creaked", that is, someone came,
On the face that protruded out of the door, there was no guard, only a smile that could not be hidden.
At that time, it was very strange and inconvenient, but I felt that the road to a relative's house was not far at all.
Lead the children, pick up some of their own New Year goods, and set off as you walk.
At that time, there were not so many high-end gifts now, and it was not popular to grab red envelopes.
A can, a packet of snacks, a carton of milk, whatever, is the heaviest affection.
There are so many children's partners.
The church of the table, the next door, the neighboring village,
A bunch of children chased after them and went to the snow to spread joy.
When they go back to their homes after dark, they never have to worry about which child will be lost.
The adults have been busy for a year and can finally relax.
Men get together to play cards, drink and drink,
The women sat together and chatted, without a cell phone, but happy.
On the street,
Except for the occasional sound of firecrackers,
The greetings of the adults walking the streets,
Children chasing jokes outside,
It was quiet...
At that time, there were few ways to have fun, but the children were very happy.
At that time, the days were really long, hoping and hoping, and every day passed...
In the blink of an eye, we have grown up and become adults with children, and our children, how to celebrate the New Year?
Today's New Year, the variety of goods on the counter, the food and new clothes that can be reached with a single click on the mobile phone, make us look forward to the New Year a lot less.
Nowadays, the pace of life is getting faster and faster, there are fewer neighbors and relatives walking around warmly, and less and less aroma slowly wafting out of the chimneys of every household...
Nowadays, the convenience of business has long diluted people's various preparations and ceremonies for the New Year. The meaning of "year" is also gradually forgotten in the life of "double speed"...
This is true for adults, not to mention children.
For children, the Spring Festival, which was originally full of traditional customs, various interesting rituals, and novel experiences, is now repeatedly compressed to make time for "learning" – yes, many parents and teachers regard the New Year as a good opportunity for children to overtake in curves.
Where will the children have time to feel the New Year? Or, in today's New Year, where is there any interesting place for children to experience? They can only bury their heads in their homework all the time.
What's more, in order to "enrich" the children's holiday, rolls of paper printed with ancient poems were specially ordered. Sure enough, I don't waste every second of time I can learn.
The way children relax is to hold the mobile phone and tablet, or sit or lie down, and the king eats chicken and has fun. Not to mention experiencing all kinds of new year fun, it is good to be able to go downstairs.
Each of them wore thick glasses, and their eyes were full of exhaustion.
Writing this, I can't help but be dumbfounded:
In just a few decades, what makes the New Year change its flavor?
What makes these parents, even in the New Year, let their children fall into the "arms race" of education?
Perhaps, in the words of Professor Chu Yin of the former Chinese Min University, it can be explained: "The purpose of education is to stratify society." ”
Although I do not quite agree with this sentence, I have to admit that in the process of the development and maturity of the social form, when the means of production are becoming more and more concentrated and the class is becoming more and more solidified, education is indeed the best way to break down this barrier.
It is precisely because they are well aware of what this sentence means that some of these parents have pinned their hopes for counterattack and class change on their children. There are also some people who do not ask their children to "soar", but only hope that their children will not fall from the class of their parents in the future.
As for why parents have this mentality, Wang Rong, a professor at Peking University, once pointed out the reason: "People are so anxious about education because they live in a 'highly screened' society. ”
Our basic education talks about balance and burden reduction. However, children experience a highly selective education method, no matter at what stage they are screened, it means that it is difficult for children to get close to the upper level of quality education.
We are not anxious and anxious in itself, but the anxiety that anxiety education brings to us. We miss the years when we were young, but in fact, we miss the educational environment that was not so involuted when we were young.
In that environment, there is less anxiety, but more opportunities to experience life and growth.
It is not so much that the current New Year has no New Year's flavor, but rather that we have lost the child's New Year's taste.
The educationalist Dewey said, "Education, that is, life." ”
Only by matching school education with life, allowing children to go to life, more discovery, more observation, more understanding, can we better meet children's interests and needs.
This year's year is more meaningful, and it is the first Spring Festival after the double reduction. Maybe we should let go of some anxiety and regain the joy and happiness of growing up with our children in the experience of life...
1, the taste of the year, is the sense of ceremony of home
In recent years, in the atmosphere of more and more prosperity of traditional culture, understanding traditional culture has become the most direct way to enhance children's cultural self-confidence.
And if you want your child to feel the traditional culture, the best way is to return to the traditional customs.
For example, taking advantage of the New Year, cleaning with children, making dumplings, making New Year dishes...
When they see a new home through their hands, they will have a greater sense of responsibility, eat the food they have made by themselves, and they will know how to cherish it more.
The family put down their mobile phones and watched some Spring Festival documentaries in the laughter, and the sense of belonging at home will be stronger.
What children really want is a sense of engagement relative to what they do. Then take your children along, participate in it, and feel the ritual sense of the New Year.
2, let the "play" thing more enjoyable
Pedagogy and psychology have been repeatedly argued: "Children who can play freely in childhood will develop healthier physically and mentally." ”
Having fun can not only stimulate the child's brain development, but also become a way for the child to vent stress.
Happiness can be a very pure thing.
Instead of letting the child sulk in a tall building every day, you can't get a little "ground gas".
It is better to take your children out of the door in a festival with a particularly strong traditional atmosphere such as the Spring Festival, visit the temple fair, and see the lantern exhibition...
Go for a crazy run on the country road, set off fireworks together, and feel the Chinese New Year with your children.
3. Give autonomy back to the child
Our children, I'm so tired. For the expectations of parents and their own dreams, every minute and every second dare not stop.
Take advantage of the New Year, give the children some "hours of light", so that they are a little lucky in this time that is not dominated by adults and is not dominated by homework.
More than that, we can give them some discretionary money and let them buy themselves some small surprises.
What children care about is not how much money they have, but the sense of freedom to make their own decisions.
The significance of this is not only to let children feel respected and trusted, but also to cultivate children's sense of responsibility.
In a class before winter break, I asked students a question:
"What was the most happy thing about last Year's Eve?"
The children's answers are varied, but they look pretty similar:
"Dad put the Spring League upside down, and I'm about to laugh to death with my mother."
"I ate the coins wrapped in my mother's dumplings."
"My dad took me to a place where no one was there to set off firecrackers."
"Our family played idiom solitaire together, and my grandfather won, but he gave me the prize."
We always wonder if the taste has faded over the years, so the children don't like the New Year. In fact, it is not, those that can stay in the memory of children are exactly the most ordinary and ordinary moments we have experienced with them.
What is the taste of the year in the eyes of the children? It's actually the taste of home and love.
What do children want? It is Mom and Dad who work hard to create and maintain good times for them.
So, let's work together, with heart and love, to leave a memory worth remembering for the child's childhood. Let them grow up on the way to see more scenery and blooming sunshine along the way.